[Fresia]

Hi everyone. I'd sure appreciate some feedback about Facebook. I tried to expand my horizons by getting involved in a professional organization and went for an officer position, not thinking it through thoroughly and not knowing I would be REQUIRED to post myself on Facebook and Twitter appears to be optional. There is someone in my past I would rather stay lost to, obsessive and harmful ex-boyfriend, even moved out-of-state to evade. Though it has been years, I am nervous. I don't twitter or facebook for these reasons.

I just got the nomination and could respectfully withdraw. I don't know much about facebook to know how wise a decision it would be to go through with. I like the organization and what it stands for; I could participate in other ways. I knew I would have to be in the public but not this public. Any thoughts would be much appreciated.

[Juliaspavlov]

Not to be too scary but recently in Australia
there was a tragedy to do with facebook..

I am on there personally but I don't accept any friendships
unless I actually know the person.
Isnt it the case that you can keep
a censorship to do with visitors...
I am no expert by any stretch of the imagination
I'm just an old married woman.
Maybe write to facebook and ask what all
the deal is there?
warm thoughts take care...jjulia

[Fresia]

Thank you. I will look further into the censorship features. As long as contacted by people other than him, should be ok. Do you have to post things about where you are or can this be omitted? I think this is my main concern.

[Rachie]

You can put as much or little as you want about yourself. The privacy settings are pretty good, theres even an option that people can't search for you, only you can add people. But if you want people to see you in search you can make your profile completely private still and all they can see is your profile photo and name.

[Rhapsody]

Facebook is safe.... just make sure your change your settings to allow friends only and you will be ok.

[googley]

You can also block specific people on Facebook so that they can not find you.

[Typo]

You don't have to post your location or anything if you don't want to, Facebook has very extensive and indepth privacy settings, you can set everything to were only your friends can view and see your information. Your allowed to post as much or little information about yourself as you wish too.

[Fresia]

I have been trying to get all the settings changed so the bare minimum is there except for friends. So many settings and places for settings. I think it is all squared away now, I hope. I just wish I could stop feeling so nervous.

I really appreciate everyone's feedback. It has helped tremendously to know what is possible and to stay safe. Big thanks!

[angelbud]

I recently had a situation where my partner set up a false Facebook identity and wanted me to add him as a friend. I figured out pretty quickly what he was up to and blocked him from my page. I also changed my privacy settings so only friends can see my page or profile. This is something everyone should be made aware of, especially parents of kids who are being bullied online. Take care, and I hope it all works out for you.