[myoasis89]

does any woman here feel sometimes that they want a relationship with a man but have no sex. I guess lately I've been realising more...that yes a man can love you but he still wants sex...its just their need. Sometimes I feel like its such a stupid need for them to have...that I feel like my body is mine and I guess I don't need sex to be happy...I think I have a low libido right now...this is the first time....I think its because I'm afraid of being used by men for sex...and that I just want to be loved without feeling that I need to give that to someone.

[sugahorse1]

All i can recommend is ensuring you are in a committed and loving relationship before getting involved in a sexual manner. I dated my bf for a pretty long time, even lived with him and slept in the same bed - but no sex until i was sure we were in this for the long haul.

if you are on AD's, remember these can also affect your libido badly

[El-ahrairah]

Hmm sometimes I feel like this, I love sex but I don't have the need to have it as much as my bf does, and although it can be seen as a stupid need it's just as significant to them as cuddling and feeling loved is.

If you're comfortable and love someone and they really love you, they will wait till you're comfortable with the idea. If you are then it's okay.

But yes sometimes I wish I could go to my bfs house and just cuddle the whole time and not be expected to take my pants off >o<; sometimes I'm just not in the mood.

[BeautifullyMistaken]

I agree with Sugahorse. Make sure you are comfortable first. I also concur with antidepressants and sex. Most women suffer a decreased sex drive. Depression itself can hinder intimacy as well. Sometimes just not in the mood. You gotta find someone who is comfortable with it and let them know. Again, make sure you're comfortable.

I used to feel exactly how you do. Didn't date for about 5 years (right out of high school). Just assumed men wanted sex and I just didn't, so I avoided men/relationships for a long time. But once you find someone accepting, it begins to get easier.

[eskielover]

I was never much interested in sex at all from the time I was a teenager & yet guys were always my best friends & I was always one of the guys & had more common interests with them than I ever did with women & was never pressured by them to have sex because I was one of the guys (I was never on AD's until after I was 40 years old). I very much enjoyed that relationship with guys because I worked in a field that at the time only guys worked in (aerospace firmware design engineer), so it would have been really uncomfortable if I hadn't been accepted as one of the guys which was how I grew up as a kid in a neighborhood full of guys that I was an equal with.

My belief is that sex is part of the human design for the procreation of humans & for the enjoyment in the marriage relationship, not for recreation outside of marriage as it has become. Men's drive is based on visual where womens drive on the feeling of love.

I have heard that there are psychological studies being done on the level of depression & stress that comes from having sex outside of the marriage relationship...will have to look them up as I didn't write down the information when I heard it on the radio.

I didn't even find it sex enjoyable in marriage but looking back, I think it was because I never loved my husband, so that feeling of wanting to have that sexual relationship with him never happened.

This is my personal view on the subject matter