[x_BabyG_x]

before i start i just actually wrote this out and pressed the back button by accident and deleted it. Duhhh.

Ive come on here because i wanted some support off women who may be going through the same thing.
Here goes...

When i was 16, i was diagnosed with Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID), due to a very bad experience with an ex who ended up sleeping around, giving me chlamydia and not telling me for SIX MONTHS. The infection spreaded to my pelvis as had been left untreated, and i ended up quite damaged, on alot of medication and very ill for a while (I found all this out on my actual birthday, also valentines day, the same day i found out he'd been sleeping with a friend AND he was moving his 'real' girlfriend in the next day). Not that you needed to know that, im just still a bit bitter about the situation! It affected everything.

Fast forward a few years later into the present.

Me and my darling boyfriend of almost three years now, have decided to try for a baby, however, its not going really well. During the past few years, ive been admitted into hospital a fair few times with crippling lower abdominal pain, which gets so severe that im doubled over and cant move my legs, for fear of passing out. Sometimes (about once/a few times every1-2 weeks), its just painful twinges that last a split second, which come and go. I can just about handle that. Other times im not so lucky, and the pain can be constant lasting a good few hours.

Doctors in the emergency departments have tried passing it off as water infections, or in one other case, bad bowel movements. Although this may have been the case at the time, i have tried to explain to doctors that the problems have only triggered the pain off, and not been the primary CAUSE of the pain. No one ever listened and they just passed me off with some painkillers and told me to stop wingeing.

A recent doctor i went to, however, actually listened to me with genuine concern and took action. He told me i was right to complain about this pain ive been putting up with for years now, and it does seem like the pid is connected to it. I explained in detail every hospital admission, and how severely unbearable it gets for me sometimes to feel it. He sent me for a smear test, as I am also at risk of the PID infection coming back once ive had it once, which was clear. Ive been refered for an ultrasound scan in a few weeks, to check for scarring and damage of the fallopian tubes and womb.

I am SO scared. PID is highly linked with infertility and other problems such as eptopic pregnancies. Im scared that they will turn around and tell me that im so badly damaged (i got told that i might have problems in the future when i was diagnosed, as it had been remained untreated for quite some time), and that i will struggle with trying, or will not be able to have babies all together. Its been quite hard for me to cope with these past few months, really been taking the effect on my stress levels. Whenever i find out that it 'didnt work this time', that i am not pregnant, and i come on my time of the month, i lay in bed all week crying my eyes out. It freaks me out that i feel like the blood i pass through is my 'could-have-been' baby. I get so depressed.
I was just wondering if there is anyone on here who has experienced PID, or other fertility problems? I could really use some moral support right now, as this has been tearing me up for months.

I need a shoulder to cry on, because im terrified.
Thankyou for listening, and those that are a bit lost, i suggest you google 'pelvic inflammatory disease!'

Sorry to babble on, love
BabyG xXxXxXx

[sick]

Hey i am sorry you had dam doctors that wouldn't listen to you but i am glad you finally found a doctor with some intelligence and who listened and cared. don't worry okay not until you get results back okay ihope doctor can help you decrease the pain your in and help you heal take one day time okay don't worry until you have too let us know how things go

[darkpurplesecrets]

((((BabyG))))

Thank you for posting and for reaching out. I am so sorry you are going through this and for what you have endured. It was not right. I hear your pain and hurt. Know that you are not alone and we are here for you to listen, support, care, and encourage you.

I have not been through this but I do care. Please keep reaching out and letting out your feelings. They are important, you are important. I send you many gentle hugs and loving thoughts. I do care. Take care hon. Always.

dps

[mybestlife]

(((HUGS))) I have a platelet disorder which means a high rate of miscarriage too. I have no kids, and now probably won't, but I can feel your pain. When I was married there were a couple of times I thought I might have been pregnant too.

[Ayesa101]

Sorry to hear it. There's always a way.

[(JD)]

Of course you aren't alone with this...can you find a local support group to help you? Maybe the doctor's office will have resources.

[Irine]

oh God i am so sorry to hear that!!
i hope you will be fine

[Marmelade]

Hi,

I thought I would share my gynae issues. It is really important that you persist in challenging the medical profession and get this issue looked into by a gynae consultant, as the longer it's left the more problems you may get later down the line.

In 2005, I collapsed 3 times with severe abdominal pain. The first 2 times I was admitted into hospital for a few days, given pain relief, then discharged (suspected appendicitus, but nothing further was done). However, on the third visit I ended up having emergency surgery. It was discovered that I had polycystic ovaries, and one of my ovaries had twisted and died. The result was a necrotic ovary that was the size of the grapefruit, and it had ruptured. As a result I had to have that ovary and tube removed.

6 months after the surgery I was still having a lot of abdominal pain. However, it took a few years and numerous consultations for this ongoing pain to be taken seriously. I was diagnosed with IBS (which they think was triggered from the stress of the surgery), which is now treated by medication. Although the mangement of IBS partially helped, I still had bouts of severe pain. So I kept going back to my GP, and in 2009 I was given a CT scan. This revealed they had left in clips after the surgery in 2005.

In December 2009 I had abdominal surgery again - this time to remove the clips, but they also had to remove a number of adhesions (a consequence of the previous surgery, but I believe these can also develop with PID). The pain has subsided greatly since the second surgery. Unfortunately, during that surgery they discovered I also had fibroids.

My gynae issues persist (my remaining ovary is polycystic, and as mentioned there are fibroids as well). I made the hard decision with my husband that we would not have children, given the gynae obstacles. It has been a heart breaking decision for me, but I believe it is the right one.

However, what I would say to you is don't give up. Keep pushing through with your GP. I learnt the hard way that gynae issues are not always taken seriously and dealt with in a timely manner, but finally got the treatment I needed. There are treaments out there, you just need to make sure you get to see the right people; and don't let them fob you off for another 6 months to see if anything changes, and don't be afraid to ask for a second opinion or to see the consultant instead of a junior doctor.

I hope it all works out for you.

[x_BabyG_x]

Quick update...

had an ultrasouynd and aparently my ovaries and womb seem healthy enough...
had a pregancy scare last month which upset me that i wasnt pregannt, but we're still trying and also trying not to get too stressed about the whole she-bang.
next step is a camera in the tummy,to see whats really going on.

Ta everyone for your replies and letting me rant, its really helped me cope when i have so much support thankyou again <3 xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[El-ahrairah]

god bless I hope you get to have a baby <3

[MissingMyOldSelf]

Thanks so much for sharing your life with us

I'm so sorry that the doctors just aren't taking the time to find out what's wrong. It's so frustrating knowing that YOU know something's wrong, but they just blow it off as something else.

I had cancerous cells on my cervix in a large area, and the areas that the LEEP procedure had to take out put a good bit of scar tissue on my cervix. I was told that I might not be able to get pregnant, and if I do, delivery could be premature with all the scar tissue. But really, I put it all in God's hands, when I'm ready for that step.

You're in my thoughts and prayers to get your health back to normal!