Older Men

Skully · Oct 31, 2010 at 11:59 AM

Are there any younger females out there that find themselves attracted to older men? I am 34 and am seriously in love with a man who is in his 50's. I have always found myself attracted to older men. And I alone?

heartrythm43 · Oct 31, 2010 at 02:41 PM

I would say yes...but I am in my 40's now.I think age has no bearing on the heart.Love is ....well,it is just that,Love.Love is healthy and good.So why set an age boundary?I have met young people with depth and old people with no depth ...and vice verse....What do you think Skully?

Lynn

Skully · Oct 31, 2010 at 04:49 PM

I agree heartry, love should have no boundaries with age. I just find it odd that I always fall in love with older men. Maybe I am looking for the father figure I never had as a child? It is complicated I guess, LOL.

buggedbybugs · Oct 31, 2010 at 05:31 PM

nothing wrong with that, older men are more mature, settled than younger guys, young guys are still seeing what they can get, older guys already know what they want.. nothing wrong with that at all!

Fresia · Nov 01, 2010 at 03:20 PM

The younger ones can be cute but have always been more attracted to the older ones. I've had more in common. I appreciate the maturity and experience. Though, it also got me into trouble when I was younger being inexperienced and naive going with someone so much older. The heart may not known any bounds but age appropriate boundaries should be in place for younger ones. Not really an issue now at this age (39). I worry about my niece who is mature for her age and dating older before she is ready, if that is whom she is drawn to too. We'll see.

sugahorse1 · Nov 05, 2010 at 02:33 AM

I was 19 when I met my boyfriend. He was/is 13 years older than me. Other than a break of 6 months, we've been together 5 years now. I'm about to turn 25, and he's about to turn 38. works for us...!

Nov 05, 2010 at 12:54 PM

Skully,

I like men alittle older than me. Someone in their early 40's for me is fine. I always found men to be most attractive in this age range. Just my 2 cents.

Okami · Nov 05, 2010 at 07:51 PM

Its actually not as uncommon as you'd think.
Part of it might be maturity. Older men are more mature especially since it takes them a tad bit longer to reach up there on the maturity scale than women.

Most young women who get with young men are just signing themselves up for babysitting, not really a relationship. So it makes sense. I don't find it weird at all. Especially considering most older men would prefer to be with younger women.

A friend of mine is over 30 and he is with a 19 year old and really... It doesn't phase me. she even made the move.

Typo · Nov 06, 2010 at 07:16 AM

I find myself also repeatedly drawn and being involved with older men, I don't think there is anything wrong with it, my first serious relationship was with a man 11 years older than me, and many of my good male friends are a lot older than me. I think a part of it is a comfort level, for the most part I am very uncomfortable with men in my age range, or they really don't want to discuss or like to do the same things I do, not to say I haven't had interest in men my age range or I don't have male friends in my age range, I just find it easier to get along with men older than me and I seem to click with them better.

In terms of a romantic relationship as long as both parties are consenting adults, it doesn't really matter, as long as both people are happy and the relationship is healthy that is all that matters.

We all have our own preferences and tastes in life, nothing wrong with that

salukigirl · Nov 06, 2010 at 01:23 PM

The older I get, the more I find this. When I was a teenager I only dated guys my age. But at 23, my 27 year old boyfriend is still like a 14 year old sometimes. And I find myself more attracted to guys in their 30s because (for the most part) they're over the stupid mind games and tricks. Seems like when I tell a guy what I'm all about and put it out on the table it freaks them out. They SAY they don't want a complicated girl who plays games but when you don't they get freaked out. I feel like older guys appreciate a straightforward woman.

Nov 07, 2010 at 04:58 PM

Interesting Salukigirl. I was once told by a guy many years ago I was too normal for him. You would think men 30 years old and up would be past the "game" playing. Yeah, I've also heard that before how they want a women that doesn't play games, but when you tell them how you are they act different. I'd like someone to appreciate me and that he won't run away when I tell them straight up that I don't play games. I'm way past all that high school stuff.

El-ahrairah · Nov 08, 2010 at 07:21 PM

Yeah I'm 19 and I'd much prefer men in their mid to late 20s.

jilliebeanmn · Nov 11, 2010 at 03:17 PM

We may be on the extreme end, but my husband was 26 years older than I was. We were married for 14 years before he died of cancer in 2004.

einundzwanzig · Nov 15, 2010 at 02:58 PM

I'm the same way. I've found myself attracted to older men a lot. When I was 19 I dated a man who just turned 45. We dated about a year, things didn't work out, part was due to the age difference. His nieces and nephews didn't like the fact I was younger then they were. I admit it was quite awkward. His family didn't accept me that well. I couldn't really blame them, cuz I would probably feel the same way too if I was in their shoes... it's hard to say.

Now, I'm not in a relationship but i am quite curious of dating a younger man. Considering my short stature, I get hit on a lot by younger guys, but it I were to go out with them, I could end up in jail... don't want that either. But I think for now, if I do date, I will try to date guys around my age if all possible.

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(JD) · Nov 15, 2010 at 05:52 PM

My very best friend, whom I dated from time to time, just passed at age 102.

His wisdom was amazing. I mean, you'd think you'd have to know a lot about life by then, right?

IDK about being younger than 50 and dating older men. I'd be concerned that they just wanted someone young to hang on their arm to make them feel young and to show off to their buddies.

With even a few year's difference, you don't have the same background in music, or experience of events in the world (certainly not the same viewpoint of them as you experience them) you probably didn't watch the same tv shows or movies... so I just don't know about this for others.

Good wishes though

Fresia · Nov 16, 2010 at 07:24 AM

Jill, I am so sorry for your loss!

Your age difference seems normal to me as my grandmother had a 21 year age difference between her and her husband until they passed in old age. Caused quite an uproar at the time in the 1930's but I see this as very acceptable now, should have been then in my opinion. They were happy overall.

Omers · Nov 16, 2010 at 07:55 AM

well...my mother is with a guy a month younger than me... The only problem I have with it is why the h*** can't I find a guy like that in my age range! He is attractive, responsible and mature.
As for me I am 33 and I too like men in their 50's. Salt and pepper hair is a HUGE turn on for me.

Skully · Nov 20, 2010 at 05:27 PM

That is exactly the way I am Omers!!! The man I am involved with now is 58 and I am 34. The age difference does not seem to matter to us. I have always been more mature than my age.

Quaint · Nov 24, 2010 at 08:30 PM

I've always fancied older guys, but now I think I'm in a real problem, as I'm only 20, and there's this 38 year old guy which I really like, but ... 18 years? I think that is quite too much, especially when I'm only 20...
Isn't it?
But I just can't connect with guys more my age... none of them.. Everybody tells my that I'm more like a 30 year old , than 20....

Though to be honest, I'm mostly afraid of my familys reaction...
But .... I just really feel like he's my soulmate..... :S

sugahorse1 · Nov 25, 2010 at 02:26 AM

Quaint - I was 19 when I met my boyfriend who was 32 at the time. 12 years age difference. We've had our ups and downs (Not really related to the age gap) but I am now at the stage where I want to look into marriage. I'm about to turn 25 and he turns 38 in Jan.

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heartrythm43 Junior Member Member Since Oct 2010 Posts: 14 13	Oct 31, 2010 at 02:41 PM #2 I would say yes...but I am in my 40's now.I think age has no bearing on the heart.Love is ....well,it is just that,Love.Love is healthy and good.So why set an age boundary?I have met young people with depth and old people with no depth ...and vice verse....What do you think Skully? Lynn __________________ Taste life
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buggedbybugs Member Member Since Oct 2010 Location: santa maria,ca Posts: 52 13	Oct 31, 2010 at 05:31 PM #4 nothing wrong with that, older men are more mature, settled than younger guys, young guys are still seeing what they can get, older guys already know what they want.. nothing wrong with that at all! __________________ nevermind...
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anon19529 Guest Posts: n/a	Nov 05, 2010 at 12:54 PM #7 Skully, I like men alittle older than me. Someone in their early 40's for me is fine. I always found men to be most attractive in this age range. Just my 2 cents.
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El-ahrairah Grand Member Member Since Apr 2010 Location: Atmosphere Posts: 943 14	Nov 08, 2010 at 07:21 PM #12 Yeah I'm 19 and I'd much prefer men in their mid to late 20s. __________________ "Tear down the wall"
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jilliebeanmn Member Member Since Oct 2010 Location: Minnesota Posts: 264 13	Nov 11, 2010 at 03:17 PM #13 We may be on the extreme end, but my husband was 26 years older than I was. We were married for 14 years before he died of cancer in 2004. __________________ Jill
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Fresia Wandering soul Member Since Apr 2010 Location: Off yonder Posts: 6,019 14	Nov 16, 2010 at 07:24 AM #16 Jill, I am so sorry for your loss! Your age difference seems normal to me as my grandmother had a 21 year age difference between her and her husband until they passed in old age. Caused quite an uproar at the time in the 1930's but I see this as very acceptable now, should have been then in my opinion. They were happy overall.
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Omers Grand Magnate Member Since Nov 2010 Location: Crimson cattery Posts: 3,512 13 3,133 hugs given	Nov 16, 2010 at 07:55 AM #17 well...my mother is with a guy a month younger than me... The only problem I have with it is why the h*** can't I find a guy like that in my age range! He is attractive, responsible and mature. As for me I am 33 and I too like men in their 50's. Salt and pepper hair is a HUGE turn on for me.
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Skully Skeleton Queen Chat Leader Member Since Feb 2010 Location: Northeastern Pennsylvania Posts: 8,040 14 58 hugs given	Nov 20, 2010 at 05:27 PM #18 That is exactly the way I am Omers!!! The man I am involved with now is 58 and I am 34. The age difference does not seem to matter to us. I have always been more mature than my age. __________________ Be who you are and say what you feel... Because those who matter.. Don’t mind... And those who mind.. Don’t matter." (Dr. Seuss)
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