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#1
Feb 05, 2011, 01:29 AM
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when i was 16 i had a miscarriage... i am 20 now... the pain is so fresh... i surpressed this event for a long time and in august it resurfaced.... i told my T about it via email the other day... and she told me we would talk in therapy... om im just hurting. i was about 3.5 months along... didnt see a dr when this happened... id give detail but not sure i can right now it just hurts and i feel so alone... anyone else out there been in any situation similar...
 all i do know right now is ... my heart hurts.. bad..
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#2
Feb 05, 2011, 04:09 PM
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I am SO sorry for your loss. I know how it can hurt as if it was yesterday and time stands still. I am glad you have someone to talk to about it, not good to repress it. It can help and to heal by getting all the feelings about it out in a safe place like therapy. It is what helped me the most and time. Sending big hugs in the meantime and hang in there.
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Feb 06, 2011, 10:09 PM
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#4
Feb 09, 2011, 09:48 PM
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Dear Angel,
I'm sincerely sorry, my dear. Healing can take much time, but you've done yourself so well by posting here and more importantly, telling your T. Hope you feel heart healthy as fast as possible. You are never alone! opaque. 
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#5
Feb 12, 2011, 05:36 PM
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I'm so sorry you went through that. I have never been there so I can't imagine both the physical and emotional pain that comes along with that. Know you are not alone and I, as well as everyone else, am here for you!
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#6
Feb 14, 2011, 06:15 PM
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I'm soo sorry. I miscarried when I was 16 and I know that it is the worst thing to have ever happened to me. I wish no one else ever had to go through that. I know it hurts. The only thing that has ever made it better for me is throwing myself into a cause. Helping people or just talking with friends may really help you. I know it helps me. I know I'm repetitive, but I'm really sorry for what happened, and I'm here if you need someone to talk to
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#7
Feb 15, 2011, 04:24 PM
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How are you, Angel?
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#8
Feb 16, 2011, 04:53 PM
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not doin all that greate grr just wanna SI
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#9
Feb 21, 2011, 12:38 PM
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Please don't Angel. I'm sorry you feel this way.
(((((((((((((AngelPromise)))))))))))))))))))) |
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Feb 21, 2011, 01:48 PM
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nothing to say but just
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Feb 22, 2011, 01:24 PM
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Agreed.
Be strong, Angel.
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#12
Mar 03, 2011, 04:14 PM
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Hi. Loosing a baby is so sad. I m so sorry. In time and talking about you will feel less alone.
You have nothing to be ashamed of. It happened and hopefully you also learned from it. I hope in the future you will have a healthy baby. And i wish you healing snd speedy recovery. Get well soon. Hugs xx |
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Mar 03, 2011, 04:43 PM
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I know that pain lasts......thinking about what your baby would have been like & what it would feel like to have a part of you to love & care for. I didn't have problem with the one pregnancy I did have, but my daughter had a miscarriage that she never talked about very much & my Mother lost her next pregnancy when I was 5 years old....it wasn't to a miscarriage, but to an abortion because she had been sick with the german measles when she first got pregnant. In those days they didn't have ultra sound & her obgyn thought it wouldn't be healthy & maybe not even survive if she went through with the pregnancy, so they recommended an abortion (back in 1958)......I know that loss stuck with my mother all her life & when she was dying of cancer 6 years ago......her one question was if God was punishing her for having the abortion....God doesn't punish us......but I realized how much the pain of loosing that baby stuck with her all her life. I'm sure my daughter still holds onto some of the pain from her miscarriage also.
It's good that you are able to talk about it now....getting that pain out & being able to express how you are feeling & work through the pain should help you with your feelings to SI also. My obgyn told me that when the baby is healthy & attached healthy in the womb, there is nothing that can cause it to normally miscarry......said that only when there is something wrong with the baby or how it's attached will there be a miscarriage & if there is a miscarriage, the baby wouldn't have survived anyway.....nothing we can do when the pregnancy is healthy that will cause a miscarriage, so know that it's not something that you did that caused the miscarriage. I had a friend who got married just before I did & miscarried her first pregnancy.....went on to have 4 wonderful healthy pregnancies & has a wonderful family & now is a grandma. Your feelings are very normal when loosing a baby whether to a miscarriage or an abortion....takes time to grieve the loss especially when you didn't allow yourself to feel that grief when it happened. Gentle ......be nice to yourself & let yourself feel....it's ok
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