[Definite_Adder..:)]

My little girl, Jayda-4 years old, has been diagnaosed with ADHD,I am 28,also ADHD(diagnosed at 5yo)My symptoms are so triggered as her tantrums,hyperness,on the go moments happen.Ill try to play with her and it always is blocks, cars, barbies,cartoons,eat something, cars,blocks,computer,outside. All within 5 to 6 minutes.And public places....I get embarrassed cause i cant come close to contolling her.I feel like the child and shes the mom sometimes.

I understand what she is going through and why her little brain cant manage to get her thoughts controlled enought to sit and play with one thing instead of switch switch switch switch switch....I have been her age and been there in her shoes. So why does her symptoms trigger my symptoms.
Am i horrible cause i get irritated?
I dont yell or scream at her out loud, but inside Im bubbling and ready to explode. I feel like a horrible good for nothing mother. I love her so much i would die for my angel, so how can I get so angered and aggitated with my child.

[Sunna]

I am sorry you feel like bad mom. I don't believe you are. What I believe you are is a person in need of support. I read your other post, and you practically have none.

I can imagine your daughter is bringing up in you your own childhood, and whatever it was like for you, and that's probably the source of your anger, not your little girl, but the suffering you had to go yourself as a little girl. Maybe you are upset, that she has it to, like why couldn't she get born "normal", why does she have to go through the same hellish thing you are going through. And even if it sounds like it's directed at her, can you see that it's really directed at fate, at God?

I hope you can find some help on coping around here. And, as that seems to be the only help you do have, bring these issues with your anger at your daughter to your therapist, have her HELP YOU.

This is not something to be ashamed of. You are not bad because you have these feelings or reactions, you are GOOD mother, because despite becoming triggered, angered, and irritated, you do not take it out on your child. You protect her.

[Open Eyes]

I think it is just because neither one of you know how to be patient. Parenting requires a lot of slowing down and being patient, it is hard for ADHD people to do that. She is only four and yet gaining momentum which is challenging for you.
At least you know why. That is so important for the both of you.

At least you are making efforts to be patient even though it is hard, as you know that if you get angry and spin, she will just get worse. You are being a good mother, you are trying, I hope you are getting help and support and be thankful that there is an understanding of what this is.

Open Eyes

[Caretaker Leo]

You are definitely not a bad mom. It isn't easy to raise an ADHD child - no matter whether you also have ADHD or not! (I raised 2).

Please find support from others if you can. Please find a place to leave your child for an hour and give yourself a break. And, when you feel you are about to explode - try taking a deep breath to relax.

I wish you the very best!

[snass]

It seems to me that you need to use any type of support. Moms who are going through the same experience can validate your thoughts and more important help you understand that you are not alone.

[zbmom]

The thing that has helped me the most is parenting classes. I've been able to learn tools to deal with my son when his behavior feels overwhelming to me. So far he seems to be a typical toddler but with my ptsd and bipolar disorder I get very reactive and overwhelmed if I'm not careful.