Is anyone else afraid of

not being able to have children? It's always bothered me even though I have no legitimate reason to be afraid of such a thing. I remember my mother saying about family friends "it always seems those who really want children are the ones who can't have them, and the ones who don't get pregnant so easily". I think that seemed to stick. Then it was "confirmed" by my sister getting pregnant at 16, she never wanted kids. I always have so it screamed that I wouldn't be able to. I'm not at the point where I'm ready to have kids but I can't get the issue out of my head sometimes. Anyone else?

I'm glad you said that you're not ready to have kids yet....being 23 it weirds me out seeing all my friends be married and having 2 or 3 kids. Gotta get that PhD done first (for me personally).

I am worried about it but because I used to have issues with PCOS. When it was at its worst I went to my OBGYN for a hysterosonogram (if they tell you it doesn't hurt that bad they're lying) and he said I had over a dozen cysts per ovary and a large polyp in my uterine lining. Since then I have quit smoking and lost about 30 lbs and most of the symptoms have gone away. I still get pretty bad cramps but the intermittent bleeding has stopped for the most part.

Keep in mind that a lot of couples have issues getting pregnant - especially the first time and especially if you have been on birth control for a while. Also remember that miscarriages are not uncommon for a first time pregnancy. With that said its amazing what the human body can do with a little will and determination. I know its easier said than done to quit worrying but it does no good other than to stress you out and mess up your cycle.

I am on BC and have been for a few years/will be for a few more. The closest thing I have to "proof" that I will have these problems is that I have small boobs. Yes, I made this whole theory that it's because I don't have the proper hormones to be able to get pregnant. I have a friend who's in med school and told me this isn't all that probable. I know I could probably get a hormone test to confirm things are ok but what causes me more anxiety than this is needles. I really cannot bear the idea of a voluntary one.
Thank you for replying, I also want to be able to finish school before I start the family planning

I'm kind of worried that because I haven't wanted kids for the majority of my life and I'm still not sure I do (still leaning heavily on the negative... but I'm only 24, that could change by the time I'm 30), that if and when I DO decide I want to have kids, I won't be able to have one, and it'll break my fiance's heart because I know he's always wanted kids.

I've never heard of any correlation between a small bosom and one's ability to have children... I can kind of see how you came up with it, but I don't think I ever would have thought of it.

Oh, and your mom was talking about Murphy's law; that's just the universe works I was just saying the same thing about work study for universities.

I know there's no real logic behind any of it. My mother wasn't teaching me a life lesson, she was just feeling sorry for the family friend who found out she couldn't have children after all those years of wanting them. But in all the irrationality that exists in my head, that's what I took out of it.

My bf has also always wanted kids and I only told him this week about my worries on the topic. It was good to tell him. I think I subconsciously thought he would pack his bags and find someone with an abundance of fertility. My T would call it a distortion, apparently I'm good at them . But he was really sweet about it saying that nowadays there's things we can try if we do have trouble at that time.

Small bossoms do not mean you cannot have children. They grow to the occassion.
And the good thing about that is that later on in life they end up being great and not saggy. So don't worry about not having large breasts. And 24 is still very young, you have plenty of time to consider having children. Having a child is a life changing commitment and you cannot take it back once you have them. So you have to make sure you will be completely commited to all that is necessary to raising a healthy child. Not everyone is meant to have children. Make sure you find yourself first and a way to be independant so that if something ever happens in the marriage you can support yourself and that child.
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I think every woman probably worries at least a little until her fertility has been proven. Heck I've had a kid but after a miscarriage this year I'm stressed I could have a secondary infertility problem. I don't think it's unusual for you to be nervous about it, but I also think you should try not to stress about it and cross that bridge when it comes up.

i didnt think i could have kids, i was almost positive because of my horrible medical history, extended use of the pill and depo from 16-19 and from experience (my ex bf and i had completely unprotected sex everyday for 2 yrs with no pregnancy) so we were sure i couldnt have children but i'll be damned if i didnt just find out im pregnant, at 24... the first time i did anything with my ex in almost 2yrs i got pregnant. Now im 9wks preggo and dont know what to do. i never wanted to have children, i wanted to adopt, i even tried to get my tubes tied at 18....
so my point is even if you think you cant, you probably can, be careful lol

I sort of have the opposite problem - I don't want kids, never have done, never will yet i get people telling me all the time that ill change my mind or that when i meet the right person everything will change. It frustrates the hell out of me. I don't know if its an option but could you go for testing to put your mind at rest? This isn't obviously a guarantee that nothing in the future might affect your fertility but for the mean time it might make you feel a bit better? Remember, if your willing to consider them there are other options available if you do find yourself unable to get pregnant naturally. Good luck

For me, regrettably, the fear is now becoming a reality and I can relate to it while trying to make peace with it. However, as someone mentioned previously, cross that bridge if and when you come to it. There are so many factors and so many options, it is not worth worrying about because the adage is just that, an observation that applies to some and not to others, which may or may not have any bearing for you. No pun intended.