[Callmebj]

I often feel that men, especially my age, are really hard to understand. They seem often times like a different species. I find it most difficult to respect most of them. I'm not gay or anything like that; but they talk a complete different language, and emotionally kinda blah. I had not dated for a long time until recently. I find them kinda manipulating and some quite controlling in a mind play kinda way. My not having much respect bothers me to some degree cuz I was married for many years and I did respect my husband for the most part. Does anyone know what I mean? Hugs, bj

[Callmebj]

Okay, guess no women, other than myself, disrespects men to some degree.

[Rosie23]

I don't disrespect them so much as they are harder to know than they were in their 20's.
But I often wonder if that is as much me. I am older too and more concrete in who I am as are they.
I think it was easier when we were younger and our lives were an open book. I know I was more flexible than I am now.

[Vossie42]

I'm really disappointed in men. Over the years I've found that the only thing they can provide me is sex, and sex isn't enough for me. Men also complain about my owning parrot, my not wearing makeup or dressing up, being on medication, not doing this, doing that, never married or in a long-term relationship (longest was two years), etc. Just a whole laundry list of things. And sometimes this is on the first date! The worst is when they call me damaged good when/if I tell them that I was raped 25 years ago. They want me to nurture them and take care of them but they won't do the same in return. They don't want to support me emotionally when things get tough. They don't want to work through any problems we might have. They don't want me to open my mouth except to s*** their d***. It gets worse and worse the older I get. (I'm 43.) Gah! I'm so over them!

Um...ive never really had this problem but then ive always got on with guys pretty well (better than women in most instances) and i was raised solely amongst boys (4 boy cousins who have always been a major part of my life and a brother) so perhaps this helps me relate to men a bit better but i don't think thats really what it comes down too. I know what you mean about understanding them sometimes - they can definately be an enigma. I certainly find them more to the point and hell of a lot more impulsive. And don't get me started on their sense of humour lol Perhaps we're not supposed to get the other sex entirely, but in terms of communication i certainly wish i spoke 'man' a bit better haha