why does wearing less clothes make me feel nice around men?

olive98 · Apr 10, 2013 at 07:23 AM

my question is why does wearing less clothes make me feel nice around men? it feels nice when my boss sees me in a short skirt. he has seen my underwear when i was on his couch and it felt nice for me. at the beach its fun talking to guys with my smallest bikini but why? makes no sense to me why its so addictive to wear less clothes! i never felt this way until i turned 14 last year. seems wrong because a man might think i want to sleep with him

bebop · Apr 10, 2013 at 03:45 PM

you work at 15 already? congrats! as far as feeling good when you wear less clothes. hmmm because you want the attention maybe? I teach teen girls in my church and they too like to wear next to nothing or feel the need to be sexy at 13! Kids today want to grow up way too fast and yes you are probably sending the wrong signals by dressing that way. I don't want to sound mean or anything like that but just my observations lately on teen girl in general.

shezbut · Apr 10, 2013 at 07:14 PM

Olive,

You are at an age where your body has developed a lot of curves, which catch a lot of boys' eyes. It feels good to pick up on a person's attraction to you.

In the mid-teenage years, we seem to become more and more aware of how boys and men are willing to do all sorts of things in order to be allowed to view, feel etc. A lot of times, somewhere along the way, girls forget to ask themselves how they feel. That's a really important aspect! While part of you may really enjoy the attention, and even crave it (to some extent), you need to ask yourself how you feel about *James having some control over you physically.

Personally, I would advise you to be a little more careful in the way that you dress and your actions, so they aren't misinterpreted as come-on's by guys.

olive98 · Apr 11, 2013 at 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by bebop

you work at 15 already? congrats! as far as feeling good when you wear less clothes. hmmm because you want the attention maybe? I teach teen girls in my church and they too like to wear next to nothing or feel the need to be sexy at 13! Kids today want to grow up way too fast and yes you are probably sending the wrong signals by dressing that way. I don't want to sound mean or anything like that but just my observations lately on teen girl in general.

hello BeBop, i do babysitting everyday and its the best job for wearing anything i want hehe. wow 13 too, that's young, but the symptoms of being female can start even before then so i guess it makes sense. That's ok you sound very kind actually

its fun to see if guys that are older like me because teen boys have been a bit gross with me and older guys have the dream features with their nice personalities. I'm pretty lucky because our tennis club has all ages and i met a man that lets me play mixed doubles with him and we play against others [not competition but just like a practice match]. and babysitting obviously my neighbour is a single/singcool dad hehe.

olive98 · Apr 11, 2013 at 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by shezbut

Olive,

You are at an age where your body has developed a lot of curves, which catch a lot of boys' eyes. It feels good to pick up on a person's attraction to you.

In the mid-teenage years, we seem to become more and more aware of how boys and men are willing to do all sorts of things in order to be allowed to view, feel etc. A lot of times, somewhere along the way, girls forget to ask themselves how they feel. That's a really important aspect! While part of you may really enjoy the attention, and even crave it (to some extent), you need to ask yourself how you feel about *James having some control over you physically.

Personally, I would advise you to be a little more careful in the way that you dress and your actions, so they aren't misinterpreted as come-on's by guys.

hey shezbut, i know my top half curves make it fun to lean over hehe i made a bad mistake when they first got big and leaned on my teacher's shoulder at his desk [but he didnt say anything so hopefully it seemed like just accidental etc]. i will be more careful. teen boys have done things and i learned a lesson but i only feel scared around teen boys and i still dress with less around matures. well at tennis its pretty safe cos there are enough people at the court so nobody can do anything wrong anyway, so feels safe to dress small there. but walking in the quiet streets its a bit dangerous and i wear leggings under my skirt for that smartly!

hamster-bamster · Apr 11, 2013 at 09:00 PM

It feels nice because it gives you power, and having power feels nice. Plus, as noted above by Shezbut, you see that people are attracted to you and we usually like that.

Apr 14, 2013 at 01:24 PM

Just learn to handle the guys and men... Don't lose your control and rest is fine as long as you are comfortable

hamster-bamster · Apr 14, 2013 at 01:42 PM

I think the main issue for you is sunscreen, if you wear little clothing. The main danger of that in Australia is screen cancer, because Australia has a severe ozone layer problem plus the general sun exposure in your part of the world is so bad.

hamster-bamster · Apr 14, 2013 at 01:43 PM

Plus, you are fair-skinned and blonde on the picture, which makes you high risk for skin cancer.

Jan1212 · Apr 14, 2013 at 07:35 PM

Because it gives us attention, but it might not be the appropriate kind of attention as it is not calling for respect, especially at a workplace. But younger girls don't know any better... people don't teach any of that. There seems to be a pattern that when women get in lawsuits, people tend to blame the women because "they were asking for it" even though it's not true because there are a lot of men with mental issues and that's whats scary

I sometimes wear less if I want to attract a certain crowd. I got attention when I wore my little green bikini for the first time. It was fun, but it was in a public place, but then again, I might get attention, but also be made fun of, be disrespected or be called names, especially behind my back, whatever

LiteraryLark · Apr 14, 2013 at 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by olive98

my question is why does wearing less clothes make me feel nice around men? it feels nice when my boss sees me in a short skirt. he has seen my underwear when i was on his couch and it felt nice for me. at the beach its fun talking to guys with my smallest bikini but why? makes no sense to me why its so addictive to wear less clothes! i never felt this way until i turned 14 last year. seems wrong because a man might think i want to sleep with him

I think you may know the answer yourself. Correct me if I'm not that you are the same girl that allows older men to touch you/you touch them, then you know it's because of the abuse that you've been through in your life.

You need constant attention, whether it's from not getting attention from your parents or from being manipulated for so long. There is a part of you that is missing that your try to fill with the affections of older men.

Have you been seeing a counselor about this? It could really benefit you from being seen, preferably by a female counselor.

olive98 · Apr 15, 2013 at 06:41 AM

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Originally Posted by DrSkipper

I think you may know the answer yourself. Correct me if I'm not that you are the same girl that allows older men to touch you/you touch them, then you know it's because of the abuse that you've been through in your life.

You need constant attention, whether it's from not getting attention from your parents or from being manipulated for so long. There is a part of you that is missing that your try to fill with the affections of older men.

Have you been seeing a counselor about this? It could really benefit you from being seen, preferably by a female counselor.

i saw a therapist and it was male but it dint work out and i'm seeing a female therapist now

yes my mums exbf asked me to rub his penis and i did and it might have made me try it on other guys and want to with elder men. and also my teen bf almost raped so i never want a teen boy again.

olive98 · Apr 15, 2013 at 06:46 AM

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

Plus, you are fair-skinned and blonde on the picture, which makes you high risk for skin cancer.

i love lotioning even just indoors so no problem there

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Originally Posted by Jan1212

Because it gives us attention, but it might not be the appropriate kind of attention as it is not calling for respect, especially at a workplace. But younger girls don't know any better... people don't teach any of that. There seems to be a pattern that when women get in lawsuits, people tend to blame the women because "they were asking for it" even though it's not true because there are a lot of men with mental issues and that's whats scary

I sometimes wear less if I want to attract a certain crowd. I got attention when I wore my little green bikini for the first time. It was fun, but it was in a public place, but then again, I might get attention, but also be made fun of, be disrespected or be called names, especially behind my back, whatever

girls at school call me names cos i sucked my finger in class, but i didn't realise i was doing it. bikinis feel hot lol especially the thinnest materials.

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hamster-bamster Account Suspended Member Since Sep 2011 Location: Northern California Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!) 13 3,729 hugs given	Apr 11, 2013 at 09:00 PM #6 It feels nice because it gives you power, and having power feels nice. Plus, as noted above by Shezbut, you see that people are attracted to you and we usually like that.
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Anonymous33065 Guest Posts: n/a	Apr 14, 2013 at 01:24 PM #7 Just learn to handle the guys and men... Don't lose your control and rest is fine as long as you are comfortable
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hamster-bamster Account Suspended Member Since Sep 2011 Location: Northern California Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!) 13 3,729 hugs given	Apr 14, 2013 at 01:42 PM #8 I think the main issue for you is sunscreen, if you wear little clothing. The main danger of that in Australia is screen cancer, because Australia has a severe ozone layer problem plus the general sun exposure in your part of the world is so bad.
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hamster-bamster Account Suspended Member Since Sep 2011 Location: Northern California Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!) 13 3,729 hugs given	Apr 14, 2013 at 01:43 PM #9 Plus, you are fair-skinned and blonde on the picture, which makes you high risk for skin cancer.
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