[BubonicPlague]

I feel like I'm left behind because I haven't dated at all yet. I feel like I'm unprepared and that I don't have the skills to keep a relationship.

Also, it's to the point where I'm thinking of summoning a demon to have as a potential mate. I would much rather someone human, but a deity would be good too. Although, I don't think I have what it takes to impress a demon. I don't think I'm good enough for a human either.

[Marshellette]

Be nice and stuff...

[Raindropvampire]

If you work outside your home, have friends or get along with anyone in your family then you have already proved you have what it takes to be in a relationship. Think of a romantic relationship like any other friendship it just has an extra aspect.

Relationships romantic or otherwise are basically just give and take. No one person should do all the giving or taking. There should be mutual respect. Be a good listener and let the other person know that you care. You should expect the same treatment in return. Please do not settle for less just to have a boyfriend.

[tufan]

I think perfection is in order. Good luck. I know of no perfect human but men seem to demand it from women. You may well be better off with the demon. I know of an Enochian spell if you are interested...

[healingme4me]

^^^

And I've met a couple of guys, (maybe even married one ) where looking back...summoning a demon doesn't seem a terrible alternative...

I like the notion, all teasing aside, and chuckling about my own life, where if you can maintain a friendship, the romantic relationship, just has extra to go along with the friendship foundation.

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[SeekerOfLife]

Originally Posted by BubonicPlague

I feel like I'm left behind because I haven't dated at all yet. I feel like I'm unprepared and that I don't have the skills to keep a relationship.

Also, it's to the point where I'm thinking of summoning a demon to have as a potential mate. I would much rather someone human, but a deity would be good too. Although, I don't think I have what it takes to impress a demon. I don't think I'm good enough for a human either.

Please stay away from the demon stuff. It is a very serious thing to toy with.

[SeekerOfLife]

What does it take to have a boyfriend? Well, it is sad to say, but I think the number one thing a guy looks for is a pretty face. Personally, I don't stand a chance.

[atomicc]

It takes compromise and mutual respect. It takes compassion. You can't develop a romantic relationship without learning to look outside yourself and give to someone else.

and yes, a pretty face does help. But I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years and I'm not much.

Originally Posted by tufan

I think perfection is in order. Good luck. I know of no perfect human but men seem to demand it from women.

I agree.

They also refuse to make the first move if they like you, but at the same time get mad if you make the first move.

I have more degrees than times I've kissed someone. Not amount of people, actual number of individual times. Hell, I accomplished that before grad school.

You know, the whole be yourself thing? It only works if who you are is someone desirable.

I guess people like us just have to keep ourselves company in old age with some cats and a bottle of whiskey.

Originally Posted by Raindropvampire

If you work outside your home, have friends or get along with anyone in your family then you have already proved you have what it takes to be in a relationship. Think of a romantic relationship like any other friendship it just has an extra aspect.

Relationships romantic or otherwise are basically just give and take. No one person should do all the giving or taking. There should be mutual respect. Be a good listener and let the other person know that you care. You should expect the same treatment in return. Please do not settle for less just to have a boyfriend.

Also, while it should work like that, it doesn't. I have friends and get along (well enough) with my family. Yet, someone who really knows me would say I don't have what it takes to be in a relationship.

I don't think anyone should ever expect anything from a relationship. They should just be thankful if they're not being abused and realize that they are beyond the luckiest person in the world if they're with someone that gives even a single f— about them or their feelings.

If we don't settle at some point, we all may just be alone in the end. I don't want to come home to an empty house every night when I'm in my 40's and beyond (not even in my 30's honestly), but that's what it's going to be unless I take what I can get. Unfortunately, I can't get anything.

[LiteraryLark]

Time. And patience. I made out with more people than I can count (or remember) in high school, but now it's very hard for me to become intimate with another guy. I think it's because now I have some self-respect and I've made some choices for me to get an idea of who it is I want to date. I decided I don't want to make out with someone just to make out with them, I have to be very choosy, and above all, I really want to feel like I am in love with the person, which has yet to happen for me.

Self respect and kindness towards yourself is very important. As annoying as it sounds, it is true that to love others one must love themselves. I would feel not worthy of love and affection, and until I learned (well, I'm still learning) to take care of myself physically and emotionally can I open the door to the affection of someone else. It's not an overnight thing, it's a tough battle, but in the end it's worth it so that you're not forcing yourself to do things you don't want to do for the sake of feeling wanted.

Don't feel like you have to force upon a boyfriend just to say you have one. Try online dating, try going to clubs or social groups at school, and try doing things you love to do and see if there is someone else who shares your interest.

Good luck.