[sunvoidant]

I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years about 3 weeks ago and we have still been talking as friends because neither of us have many people in our lives and we were always like friends anyway well anyway last night we had phone sex and I told him it would be no strings attached but now I feel like I took a step back instead of forward and its hard because that was first sexual thing I did in months. I have been sexually anorexic because of my OCD, Anxiety, and Depression.. so I just felt comfortable with him. but now I wonder if I should've done that...I don't want him back but I don't want to let him go out of my life all together.

[atomicc]

This is very difficult and I am in the same place as you. I'll tell you what everyone says to me, make a clean break. It's not easy to let go, but if you know for sure you don't want him back then it's time you move on. Try making new friends or talking a lot to your old friends so you don't fall back into talking to him.
It may be comfortable but that doesn't mean it's the right way to go. good luck

[Trippin2.0]

Comfort zones can turn into danger zones, they can hold you back, and stunt your growth.

A clean break is needed, maybe in future you can go back to being friends, since there's an actual friendship in the mix but for now you too need to create some time and space between you.

I did the same with an ex of mine, we went no contact for about 4 months. The time and space helped us transition to a purely platonic friendship smoothly as it gave us both time to heal and move forward, which made adjusting to the new boundaries easier.