[norwegianwoman]

Hi! I am single and I wouldn't want a baby now even if I wasn't (but if I got pregnant, unplanned, I would - probably - keep it, I have a huge family who could help me out).

I am too young and I want to finish my education and see the world and fall really, really in love and enjoy and develop a potential relationship and in general wait years before a baby seems like a reasonable or even wishful situation.

But still I am freaking myself out with thinking a lot about babies and pregnancies. I've plastered my room with pictures of my brother's baby, and I melt each time I see a baby in public. I watch tv shows etc where the characters get a baby (although it annoys me how glamourising they are of the birth, most people seem to tear down there while giving birth these days, some are even cut open and then sewn back up afterwards but in tv shows it's always so quick and no issues), go to forums to read about it, etc. I write down lists of baby names I like and somehow end up in baby departments of clothing stores sort of just by wandering off in the stores.

So - generally - I don't want a baby now, and I am really glad I don't have one at this point in my life. I have not had sex for about a pregnancy (lol) and every time I have done it I've used protection, and will keep doing that. Still I feel almost subconsciously obsessed with babies and pregnancies. Is this a result of some inner biological clock (never really believed in that), some sort of projecting of my sexual desires over to a baby desire for lack of sex, or just a fascination/phase? The thought of a pregnancy also scares me shitless, I don't really see how people can go through it, so many changes and you don't really control your own body for nine months, and then an awfully painful birth... I'm sure I would panic if I were pregnant so I am really glad I have no plans for this is the (un)foreseeable future. Is this normal?

[kaliope]

I would guess it is just a phase. you say your brother has a baby. perhaps you are seeing, probably just the good parts lol, of what he is going thru, you get to cuddle that bundle of joy, and that brings out the mothering instincts in you. you crave it for yourself. wish you could have what he has. just keep reminding yourself your time will come. and focus on the present.

Maybe this desire you are having is your calling to be childcare worker .
Ask yourself if you could have a job when your done HS what would make you excited ?
Once you know then take collage course and then you will be able to work with baby's and get payed for it .
In the mean time ask your parents if you can volunteer at a hospital to hold baby's while the mom is sleeping . Or maybe a baby sitting job to get experience .

[healingme4me]

I'm thinking it might not be projecting sexual desires, but perhaps it's distracting loneliness or similar. I think this, as you expressed wanting to fall truly, deeply in love.
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It's as normal for some women to crave children, as it is for some to crave not having any.
Do you fear it's taking over all your thought space? Are these thoughts, interfering in your daily life?
It's normal to solidify your desire to wait, before rushing into having one.