Getting bored in relationships

Does anyone else have the problem of quickly losing interest in a guy the minute you have him completely in love and devoted to you? I was married for 8 years to the father of my children. I cheated for 5 of the 8 years because I was afraid to break up my family. I was drinking a lot during those 5 years, I now believe to justify the cheating. 3 years later, I've been in several relationships. The guy I'm with now is 9 years younger than me, we've been together a year and living together most of that time. He is completely wonderful to me and my kids, he cooks, cleans and is very good looking. The only real downfall is that he doesn't make a lot of money and isn't the most motivated person career wise. Anyway, I am bored in the relationship. He tells me I'm beautiful, sexy, hot, amazing ect. ect., how I'm the most important thing in his life. The more in love and devoted he is, the more clingy I feel he is, and I shut down. I feel completely smothered and turned off by sex. This leads to me wanting to cheat, and I stay in the relationship because I feel like that's what I should be doing, even thought deep down its not what I want. I wish I had a crystal ball to tell me what to do! Looking for anyone who has this issue.

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Have you ever considered getting a diagnosis by a psychiatrist or therapist? The problem is never out there, it is in us and how we react to life.

Maybe you want less sex and more intimacy. More about that
https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=...03388427,d.cWw

I have been diagnosed. I was diagnosed bipolar 1 in 2007.

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And thanks for the link, I will check it out

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I loved the article. Very insightful. I often wonder if my attachment and abandonment issues prevent me from opening up completely with someone. I need to be loved much more than to love someone I guess

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