how to deal with unreliable friend

I need an opinion on what is going on in my situation. There is a new female in our church, (M) who wanted to start a bible study. She seemed nice and friendly when I first met her. She asked if we could use the study book that she started earlier, so I said that would be okay. The study was just the two of us, and we met only twice, as she cancelled at least three times, by texting me, each time with a different excuse, that she was too tired, or her kid was sick, or something similar. And then, she asked if we could take the rest of December off, and start in January again. I said that was okay. But--she is always at the prayer group that meets every week this past month--so why is she able to make that group, but not the bible study with me?? I now think she does not like me, so she made up excuses to not go to the bible study. Her personality is really hard for me to relate to; she cries at the drop of a hat, and she is SO focused on her current marriage and I don't have a relationship and don't care about discussing male-female relationships. Last night at the prayer group, another female (j) asked if she could join our bible study, and M said we were on a break. Then M told J and her husband, that she wanted to start a "married couples" bible study, because she wants to get her husband involved in church. I was thinking, what?! M is not able to meet with me, but now she wants to start a couples study? So, how do I back out of re-starting our previous bible study with M, in January? Should I wait for her to make the first move to re-schedule our study? I am really tired of dealing with her unreliability.

Maybe this woman isn't the right friend for you and that is okay. It isn't personal or about you ... I imagine she was hoping she would get more people than one to attend. I wouldn't bring up the bible study since she organized it in the first place but if she does, I would tell her something like 'it doesn't work for me right now' and drop it. If you want to keep pursuing bible study, keep looking ... you can find a more reliable group if you are looking for a people to study the bible with. There is large one that meets at my local library.

I agree with Little Lulu. I would just decline starting it back up and look for a different group. You'll save yourself a lot of frustration.

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Hi. There is a scripture verse somewhere. catholic bible version Sirach 42:11a, 12-13. This wisdom book forbids single women hanging out with married women. "Keep a close watch on your daughter, lest she make you the sport of your enemies. vs. 12 Let her not parade her charms before men, or spend her time with married women; vs 13 for just as moths come from garments, so harm to women comes from women. I think this is true. 2 is company 3 is a crowd. married couples with each other is fine. She does not feel threatened about her husband around other married couples but in the back of a married women's mind is the threat a single woman is to their marriage. I hope this makes sense to you. Get your book back, start a singles group only for bible study. Leave the married people out of it. Blessings.

My thought. Rely on yourself and not this person.