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Hi ladies,

I posted on another site I belong to, a rather off hand comment that I was thinking of not dyeing my hair, and just letting the gray grow in. I kind of like it, as it's more silver than gray, and I don't have a lot of it, mainly at my temples.

Another woman, who is a bit snarky anyways, said she's seen my picture, and that I look good, and I shouldn't "let myself go".

Is that what people really think about women in their 40's who choose not to colour.

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[TishaBuv]

Some women go totally gray and it looks pretty on them. But when it's gray coming in, I honestly think it looks bad and people do find it unattractive. My sister wears it natural with lots of strands of gray in it and I think it looks bad. I'm sorry to admit I actually told her (only because she's my sister) that she should use color.

Sorry if that's a shallow opinion, but it's true.

I use NatureTint, a natural plant based dye that I get at Whole Foods. It covers the gray and I think it's healthier than the grocery store brands.

[Yours_Truly]

Hmm, good question. I have to color my hair also because of gray now. I guess it's because I don't want to look older than I feel.
I just watched a show last night where the woman was obviously letting her gray grow out. She was a prosecutor.
Lets see, 2 things go through my mind when I notice, sometimes simultaneously,
1. I wonder if they're just too busy in their lives to take the time or to care anymore.
2. I think it's purposeful and I admire them for it.
I suppose any further thoughts about it would depend on the whole package, i.e. if their whole head is gray there's a good chance they've decided to go with it either way.
Maybe try letting your gray grow out/in and see if you like the way it looks. You can always dye it again later.

[Deeplyhurt77]

My personal opinion is that, yes it's letting yourself go however; it doesn't matter what other people think. It your hair, do what you want and be fabulous��

I think silver hair can look great, but I don't like the stage I'm at which is just a smattering and looks untidy to me. I think highlights/low lights are a good way to blend it in personally at that stage.

I'm kind of looking forward to the proper silver stage though, some women really carry that look well (hoping I'll be one).

[*Laurie*]

Some women look terrific with all or some grey, some look washed out. Probably depends upon your skin tone and eye color.

For me, it depends on my lifestyle. I am very dark but going grey. I tan easily and have brown eyes. If I dye my hair it's original colour, I look like I'm wearing a wig, as my skin tone has changed, unless it's summer, when I can get away with it. When I had a full time, senior job, I dyed my hair regularly. Since I started working for myself a couple of months ago, I stopped. I kind of like it. No one has commented. I may go back to colouring it again but for a while at least, I'll stay a mix. I'm a middle aged tomboy at heart!

[Evening]

I don't think it's letting yourself go, it's you being you. I'm in my 20's and I've been finding greys for years, not many but they have bee discovered. I'm not ready to accept that, haha, but if I did decide to let myself go grey (if it were coming to that), it's because I' would be willing to accept that this is me, it's my hair, and I have better things to spend money on. Plus the damage it can cause to your hair.

Do what you feel happiest doing, and what makes you feel more confident about yourself.

[~Christina]

I'm 48 have been coloring my hair since I was 14 due to gray /white hair. I have had to color every two weeks , it's jet black so any lil bit growing in drives me insane.

I have decided to start the process of bleaching my hair by a professional using high end products it will take numerous times over a few months to get where I want to be.

I will probably do a tone over my white but that won't happen but maybe every month or so.

I am so excited about this.... My wallet needs to hurry up and let me get this moving ! I will look fabulous lol

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[amandalouise]

here in my location not dying ones hair is not what the term letting yourself go means. here in my location letting your self go in reference to looks means a person doesnt shower, or do any other personal hygiene, they dont bother changing their clothes, dont bother taking care of their self.

here in the USA whether one dyes ones hair or not is called a personal choice and in some cases a medical issue due to the chemicals in hair dye are not very easy on the body. they cause scalp problems, hair thinning, hair loss, hair turns to brittleness because though it looks good on the outside its actually damaging the hair and scalp. many doctors are now telling their clients to stop using hair dyes because its causing all kinds of problems and health conditions like alopecia, cancers, scalp lesions,

there are also many cultures and lifestyles go holistic rather than use chemicals in or on their bodies.

I fought it for years...

I get a ton of compliments now. Like every day...I am not kidding. My DD recently put a teal streak in it.

There's a photo here somewhere.

So...I'm a fan of silver!

[Trippin2.0]

Accepting the silver is not the same as letting yourself go.


If my grey hair one day decided to show up I am not dying it.


I think silver streaks, slices and full on manes are awesome!!!


My youngest aunt had a silver slice before she turned 40, I was in love with it. But according to her, the grey got out of hand and she started dying it.

Allowing yourself to go grey/silver/white is not letting oneself go. It's just a personal choice.

I'm 46 and I'm only grey at the temples and where my hairline meets my forehead, but I like the way it looks. I'm proud of my grey/white hairs, I feel I've earned them. I don't want to look 30 forever. I want to look my age.

I think taking care of your health and looking well, but not fussing so much about looking young is considered aging gracefully.

If a man lets his hair go grey, why does no one consider he's let himself go? Or do they?

My definition for letting yourself go is not showering for weeks, having things in your hair like half eaten chocolate bars, wearing sweatpants that could walk on their own, swigging from a bottle of tequila at 3am and wandering down a supermarket aisle straightening the cans so their labels face outwards, while weeping.

Leaving my hair streaky grey black is just meh.

Originally Posted by Little Cat

... swigging from a bottle of tequila at 3am and wandering down a supermarket aisle straightening the cans so their labels face outwards, while weeping.

I'm hopping on a flight right now! Tell me which Sainsburys to meet you, and it's a date.

[fairydustgirl]

I don't think it is letting yourself go if you are wanting to let your hair grow out to its natural color (or non color)...it's a personal choice. one of my friends let her hair grow out to silver white and my X who had just met her and her husband made the comment that she must be much older than him (she's not) but it was the hair that made him think that. Call me vain, I figure if I can afford that $8 box of hair color, I am going to stay a blonde until 60. then maybe I will let it grow out...I am thinking Helen Mirren's color and style, she's beautiful! So I will probably still be coloring it, just so it will be consistent.