[Huskylove20]

Hello I am 25 years old and I have the same problem. Honestly I don’t even want to unless im high or drunk. I use to be a heavy opiate addict and in 2013 met my current ex husband and got married and was taken out of that life and moved across a country. I then started heavily drinking and would only want sex with him when I was drunk. -I replaced my opiate problem with drinking- I became a heavy heavy drinker. But anyway we are now divorcing and in the end of our marriage barely had sex. Now I am trying to heal but every time I think about meeting new people on dating websites or what not I stop and think if it lead to anything I would have to be drunk! I have some insecurities but I really don’t think that’s my problem. I don’t know if it’s brain damage from past drug use or what but I feel like I have a serious problem and just want to be normal!

[Travelinglady]

Hi, huskylove20, and welcome to Psych Central! I suggest you talk to a therapist about this issue since it cuts down on your pleasure and to me, the purpose of sex in general.

[TishaBuv]

Hi and welcome to PC!

I also have a similar intimacy issue. I haven’t found a therapist to help. I have had some trauma in the past and my relationship made this issue worse because it became a struggle.

You should think about why you feel this way. Definitely get off the heavy drugs/alcohol regardless. I’ve done a lot of soul searching about it. But, I’m still clueless!

On PC, you can at least figure stuff out and get support from others.