[RozG]

What is it with men?

Why is it whenever you do something nice to help them out when they're in trouble they suddenly think that gives them the right to hit on you relentlessly?

And why do so many of them seem to use support sites as virtual dating sites?

Grrr....I give up, maybe I should just stop being nice to ALL men full-stop!

[Perna]

When I use to have the problem of too many men I didn't want, hitting on me :-) I'd get a little rude and high maintenance. If I'm helpful to someone and they start to try and cross boundaries or take advantage of me, I can point out they used my help in the first place and that I don't need the same help from them, a subtle put-down. I can get quite haughty if need be, LOL. They don't stay around.

[bebop]

not ALL men are bad ones. same as they feel about us I am sure not all of us are bad either. I have a great hubby!

[RozG]

I know beebop, just venting my spleen is all.

And you're very lucky!

to you

[bebop]

Jane I hear you hon. I think though being here at pc we do have some great guys and they have feelings too. I know this has been said/done in the past and it hurt the guys when we put all men in one catagory.

I do understand how you are feeling though. I have almost given up at times myself but I know God still makes the good ones

[RozG]

OMG I never thought about that

Sincere apologies to any pc guys reading this, shame on me

[bebop]

you didn't know hon. this happened a couple of months ago.

[RozG]

yeah but now I feel really crappy, talk before I think

[bebop]

hon don't kick yourself. we all do things before we think but really you could not have known.

[salukigirl]

thats why theyre called rants. half the time i go on them, 10 seconds later, after i hear myself say it, i go "well that was stupid" lol. when thats all you come into contact with, its hard to know otherwise. a few give bad names for the rest. you just have to always remind yourself that there are good ones. a couple years ago i was saying that 99.9% of all guys were total pigs. now that number has dropped to about 72% haha. my current boyfriend has made me change my mind about that. now whenever i hear girls say 'all men suck" im the one saying "no they dont. mine is pretty awesome "

[Rhapsody]

((( HUGS ))) - I am sorry you are going thru this and do not worry I know you are not talking about all men...... as your title was "Rant about Men" - which to me means nothing more than that you just need to let off a little steam.

Please stay safe and do not let a man hit or cheat on you no matter what the situation is.

<font color="#008800"> I'm new here and can't speak with any kind of authority, but it seems to me that if this is a women only forum, and it specifically says women only, I don't understand why "what if a man reads this and gets his feelings hurt" is even an issue. Aren't the men *not supposed* to be reading this forum?

Although I do understand the sentiment about blanket statements. No one thing can be said about all men, just as no one thing can be said about all women. And it so happens I'm engaged to a wonderful man myself. This said, I have experienced the same thing as the OP. I once made the mistake of saying in a mixed-company support group (in real life, not online) that relationships were my single biggest relapse trigger, and therefore I was taking myself off the market until further notice. Big mistake, to say that in front of the men. After the session, practically every man there made it a point to say to me, "Well, if you ever change your mind about that, I'd be interested."

Grrr. The sign said, "Closed for repairs," not "Going out of business, so make your move now." Unfortunately, some men can be very predatory. They are like sharks who smell blood and attack. And the same is true of some women.</font>

[BalishBun]

darn men...

[bebop]

it is fine for the men to read here. just not to post. Just like the women can and do read the men's forums but are not allowed to post there either. I think it helps in relationships to be able to see/read what the opposite sex thinks. maybe get some ideas on how to improve the relationship even

Thanks for that information, Bebop. Of course I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but I feel there should be a safe place to vent. Our own feelings are as important as anyone else's. (So I'd like the see {{{{KJ}}}} not beat herself up over anything she might have said. JMO.)

[bebop]

I don't think she is doing that anymore it is all cool. right KJ?

[RozG]

Yep, it is all cool now bebop. And the men here on pc all rock

and I've never been so embarrased by a post in my life

and as we all know the guys here read this forum as we do theirs...

by way of apology to ALL you pc guys reading this

But it's still OK to rant, right? I mean, we need to sometimes.

[RozG]

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Kalamity_Jane said:

Yep, it is all cool now bebop. And the men here on pc all rock

and I've never been so embarrased by a post in my life

and as we all know the guys here read this forum as we do theirs...

by way of apology to ALL you pc guys reading this



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I guess if people feel the need to rant then yeah, but I've been really embarassed by this thread....hence my need to apologize. Guess it's just one of those things I need to learn...think before I speak...or in this case post. lol.

[bebop]

I think it is ok to rant about your particular guy but not a general all men included one. like us we have good and bad women as do men. I have had bad ones but I would not think of saying all men are bad. I hope they wouldn't do the same to us.

[Rhapsody]

On that note I would like to say that when one RANTS about MEN (or) when one RANTS about WOMEN - we need to be the adults we are and know that it is not about all MEN or WOMEN that ever walk this earth....... but rather about the percentage of males / females that fit into the subject at hand, the ones that have let us down.

The rest (male & female) can rest assure they are not being talked about.... and let the topic go for the OP that needed to release as to heal and grow.

And that is what I see this thread is about - not attacking, but rather releasing old thoughts, wounds and feelings...... a means in which females often heal from - Talking.