Do You Hate Being Physically Weaker Than Men

Dear Ladies
I was wondering do you hate being physically weaker than men? I hate it. I've had a few men completely overpower me and beat me down without even trying. Even men smaller than me still beat me down. While I fought with everything I had. I lost to every man at everything that had to do with physical strength. I used to pride myself on being strong. But men showed me reality, I guess. For thousands of years men used their natural power to abuse and oppress us. I hate the fact that they could take away all our rights and abuse us and oppress us like they used to for those thousands of years. Women having any rights at all is a fairly new concept. I hate the fact that I can't go for night walks without fear of being raped. Sleeping in my apartment alone scares me. Men scare me. I'm not trying to bash men. In fact, I adore most men. But still, I'll always be jealous of how strong they are and hate how weak I am.

I do! I envy how they can rearrange their furniture without help. Or rent and load up a truck themselves when moving, for example.

I believe they are born with more upper body strength even if we work out! Just women bodybuilders and weight lifters (like in the Olympics) could come close to men’s strength. There are good men out there so it’s the bad ones that give men their scary reputation! I’ve got better strength now than in years past but can’t hold a candle to men!

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I’ve done all that and I’m a woman lol.

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Well, as a man, hopefully one of the not (or less) toxic ones, I do feel that sentiment from some women on occasion. I raised two daughters and, while I'm getting a bit older and not as strong or tough as I used to be when I trained wrestling, I'm still pretty fit. I'm conscious, after talking with so many women of all ages, including my sister and my two daughters, of how intimidating it is and how consciously or unconsciously, women are scared of men. The best thing that can be done by men, I think, is to remain conscious of it and do as little as possible to inspire fear or insecurity towards a woman. I've had one seriously toxic relationship on the past. I let myself get hit. Not because I enjoyed it, nor because she was stronger than me (far from it) but because it isn't right. I ended up running, much like a thief, amidst calls of being less than a man, by her, by some other men.
But, I can say I never struck her. That makes me feel better for not having turned into someone women point out and say "He scares me".

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I hate how easy it is for men to beat a woman's *** no matter how hard she fights back. I couldn't defend myself. I wish I was strong, I'd get revenge.

I wish I was strong like you. But even Lucia Rijker still lost to some average fighter man.

You are a gentleman, but I am still scared of you. I would feel very unsafe around you if you were really angry. I say that with respect.

And that's very okay. Fear isn't something that should be easily dismissed or mocked, it takes a long time to get better, especially when you've lived through traumatic events. I can only wish you to, at some point, someday, not feel that way anymore.

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Richard, Good to hear a man’s point of view but this forum is for women supporting women. Just like the men’s support is for men supporting men.

Maybe OP doesn’t mind but I find it unnerving, your being a man.

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Yeah way to make us weaker women feel better.

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Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't know there were restricted categories, still not used to navigate this. I'll be more careful, thank you.

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It is true that physically, men have an advantage. Anatomical differences, hormones, etc. all play into that. I guess it’s just something you have to accept and take into account.

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Lol sorry. That wasn’t my intent. I was just being facetious. I get the point of the post though.

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Sorry I hope I didn't offend anyone. Plus, I don't mind if men post here.

Well if you don’t mind then I guess it’s okay….But it IS in the description of the forum, women only. Men’s forum, men only. I’ve never even visited the men’s forum. Oh well they can’t tell for sure who’s who and anyone’s age or anything. Senior forum is for 55 and up but how do you know?

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I heard a disturbing story on the news about men randomly sucker punching women in the face. It’s in New York City. Not sure how frequently it happens but they aren’t even provoked in any way. I doubt if men would punch other men! They could get their lights punched out but women are vulnerable as we don’t have that strength. Not that I want to get in a fight even if strong but I doubt they would punch men randomly!

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I doubt those men would punch other men randomly too. I've been punched hard by men before. It hurts really bad and it knocks you off your feet. I've been bruised and bloodied by men. There was nothing I could do to defend myself. That's why I hate being physically weaker than men so much. What's happening in New York fuels my hatred for being weaker than them.

Nature says we are weaker physically. Be stronger mentally!!

With all due respect, how are women stronger than men mentally? The world's best chess players are men. I mean no offence.

I do not feel this way. And both times I was fighting an attempt at forcibly rape in my young years, I won quickly, surprising myself with my strength. I was not lifting weights or anything at that time. Granted, I also quietly threatened the attackers with the police but they must have realized that I could not call the police and thus it was an empty threat. So yes, both times I really surprised myself. Once at 16, the other time at 25. A little later, at 26, I was acquaintance raped because I could not say no to the man, and I could not say no because I felt that I had owed to him for various favors such as watching my toddler son on occasion and in general being nice to me. I was furious with him afterwards but in the act, no, I could not assert my boundaries.

Other negative experiences with men have all revolves around manipulations and my emotional vulnerability and susceptibility. Never around being physically weaker.

On a separate note, I like strong physique in men but only up to a limit. I find the bodybuilders' bodies funny rather than attractive.

I think you mean cognitive intelligence in one narrow area of human pursuit, while the other poster meant patience, emotional toughness, perseverance in the face of challenges, mental flexibility... such things. I might be wrong regarding what the other poster meant.

I never felt like this. I’m 105 lbs, 5’ 2” so I’m used to being a diminutive person lol. I work a physical job but some of the heavier tasks I delegate to stronger women or men.

Maybe this is to do with environment? I live in a fairly safe area. It’s not so big it’s anonymous, there’s generally a community vibe still. I walk to work in the early darkness and feel safe. I don’t tend to think of the harm men can do me because it’s not something that has happened I guess. Apart from one rough boyfriend years ago but that was someone I knew, I got away from him thankfully.

But I know other women will have very different experiences.

I googled women in chess. It shows that in US, only 13% players are female. Also this answer to why chess is so male dominated:
The “participation rate hypothesis” proposed by some researchers holds that the sex difference at the top in chess arises simply because so many more males play and statistically there are likely to be fewer females at the top due to their under-representation.

Also chess is just one sport, and there’s a gender bias against girl players already.

What about all the women who did great things DESPITE all the discrimination and discouragement? That’s some hurdles men would never have to deal with. I think overcome that shows great resilience and mental strength.

I’m about 5’ 5” and 126 lbs, no Wonder Woman 🧍 either! I see some women delivering heavy packages and wish could do that.

I’m envious and shocked that you walk alone in the darkness! It’s so different here and I don’t even feel safe during the day! I’m as tense as a coiled snake, alert and aware. Feel I’m looking over my shoulder all the time. Whether driving or walking I stay aware on if I might be followed by someone.

The news had yet another story about random women getting beaten up by men, enough to put them in the hospital. Totally unprovoked attack. I don’t remember if it was night or day but it doesn’t matter. It’s sick and all I can think about when out and about is the harm men CAN do. Not all I know but I’ve never heard of men attacking other men this way.

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This was known long ago. During the race to space nasa tested both men and women and found women to be better suited to the rigorous conditions but hushed that up and discriminated against them. The human calculators double checking the early computers were women. Women are more durable and can withstand more pain. Men are just a flash in the pan strong. Decades of discrimination has produced women who believe men are superior when they are not. Much of this is how you perceive things and how you’ve been taught to believe.