how do you get employed when no one wants to?

After having 4 places at once email you sorry but on this occasion or after careful consideration we will not be taking you application any further and after one more sorry but wish you every success in future today. Not just that everything’s a no. OK, well not everything’s a no, I had 3 interviews in last two months but two think I am crazy and too much of a liability to employ..... no like that’s not going to make me react or act in such a way thanks for making me feel yuck about myself oh and showing evidence that actually the so called negativity I think about myself is just not in my head. Then to have the college say we may not be able to accept you as you only have one lower grade at GCSE arrrrr. Not everyone is good at that subjects , although the course I want to take will need you to be able to understand and have that required grade at GCSE it’s not directly dealing with that subject once you take the course and those are only standard guidelines they are going by. It’s so annoying when you’re held back by one thing because someone who sets this out thinks you need that to be able to complete the course. Since when did anyone say well just because so and so says that, that must be the case for everyone… even if there the people that set out course standards and grade requirements.

They didn't directly state that’s the reason why they wouldn't employ me but when they ask why are you the way you are and you tell them the way they react says enough. Also one did you right say it seems you coming across as can't deal with stress and even ask was I on medication...... no because I am not consider to have a classified mental health issue. The other place is just in process on application status which probably means no, but can't be bother to update you application.

How are you supposed to get yourself back to employment. When you’re doing all the right things and rewording, constructing yourself when applying, doing volunteering, trying to better your education but that does matter because as far as other people are concerned you’re a hopeless was of time and life. I don't even know why I bother or really want to live around or even work around such people, I must be insane.

Why can't I just have a job where people don't judge me or make me feel like I should just get out of their way and end existing? All I want is a simple job where I can do my set tasks not have to a direct influence on people. That’s all but no that was way too much to ask for, Sorry for being so selfish. I am not going to do anything about my existence. Apart from try to sort it out but once again sorry for just doing this out of the question thing, that what it feels like, by having a life and trying to live it. Just me venting again but I am probably too wrong and horrible to have even posted this.

Why are you going to job interviews and letting the idea that you might possibly be on medication even come up? I'm medicated. I have bipolar but, does my employer or key coworkers even have a clue? No!

If you want a job, don't tell them "too much" trust me, that isn't what the interview is for. I don't know what you're telling people to warrant them asking if you're on medications, they're really not supposed to, but stop it. Telling an employer that you don't want to have an influence on others shows you cannot handle stress. It doesn't matter if you're going to sit there holding up a wall all day, if you give the impression of some one unstable or unreliable, you won't be hired.

Your perfomance will always be evaluated.

As for college, of course you need those grades. They're an indicator of your potential, whether you have that potential or not, and colleges like employers cannot afford to accept just anyone.

You get a job by faking it. Pretend to be confident and happy and able to manage stress. Sell yourself and show the best of you. Don't pretend to be someone else but, don't show everything. Have some self respect. If you're asked why you are the way you are, give them an answer with a positive spin.

Oh, and those job letters you get, the not right now thing, that is standard. They're hiring, maybe, just not you.

You have read some of this wrong and assume something’s. Also maybe I could have worded myself differently. NO I DON'T NOT GO ABOUT TELLING THEM THINGS TO WARRENT THINKING THOSE THINGS ABOUT ME. IT’S ONLY WHEN THEY QUESTION YOU SEEM TO COME ACROSS AS SOMEONE WHO CAN'T DEAL WITH STRESS OR THIS IS WHAT I AM PICKING UP FROM YOU AT MOMENT.



Even in my last employment it was only because my mum told my boss about the car accident that people started treating me differently and added to my breaking down and negative thinking. That now I just can't cope or feel like I have it in me to start again. Of course at the moment I am at my personal and emotional worse, breaking down into tears constantly but I am trying not to be such a waste and I do sell myself when applying with positive constructed wording and phrasing. Also I can be around people but not once they pick up on how I really am and start to pick at my weaknesses. You should know sometimes it not as easy to just do what seems so easy being said to yourself.


I have never once said I don't like having an influence on people to an employer that would be out of the question and how dare you say well what are you saying to make them think these things about you. I can’t help it that it seems to show through to them not matter how well I try to sell myself in the interview.


I can't help it if I am a more cautious person and have more anxiety then some people because I was in a car accident and NO I AM NOT SELF PITTYING, OR THINK THAT IS AN EXCUSE FOR MY BEHAVIOUR BUT SORRY FOR BEING HUMAN AND FEELING AND THINKING HUMAN THINGS. SORRY THAT AT THE MOMENT I NEED JUST A BIT OF HELP AND CAN'T CONTROL HOW MY BODY FEELS AND THAT I CAN’T CONTROL SOME OF THE THINGS I THINK.



IT SEEMS THAT I AM TOO WRONG AND HORRIBLE TO BE ANY SORT OF A PERSON EXCEPT ONE WHERE OTHER PEOPLE SAY WELL NO ONE SHOULD KILL THEMSELVES BUT SHE IS ONE EXCEPTION.


SORRY FOR NOT ENDING MY EXSITENCE AND THAT I AM TO WEAK FOR THAT YOU ALL WILL HAVE TO PUT UP WITH ME.... BUT I ONLY EVER WANTED TO JUST HAVE A JOB LIKE THE ONE I HAD BEFORE IN RETAIL. IT'S NOT LIKE I AM ASKING FOR HIGH PAYING JOB OR CARRER I JUST WANTED A JOB THAT YOU WHERE YOU HAD TO WORK HARD AND MORE HANDS ON WITH MINIMUL INTERACTION WITH CUSTOMER... BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I WAS MORE THEN POLITE IN MY LAST JOB AND I DIDN'T LET IT SHOW UNTIL IT GOT UNBAREABLE. ALSO THIS WAS ONLY BECUASE PEOPLE STARTED EMOTIONALLY PICKING ME TO PIECES WHEN I JUST NEEDED TO BE LEFT ALONE AND NOT JUDGE FOR ONCE.

I know how it feels to be judged especially when you are feeling emotional and vulnerable, believe me I have been there too and I worry about how am I going to deal with interviews and move on in my life because of what happened to me, I will give you a link to my story here:
http://davidhealy.org/out-of-my-mind-driven-to-drink/

You can move forward and get a job again, dont forget we are in a recession as well so employers can pick and choose who ever they want. Also there are many people going for the same job so you will not be the only one turned down. I have a friend who was made redundant and couldn't get a job for two years he eventually got one though, he went to the job centre who sent him on courses and even had to work for nothing, he felt like you but he changed his attitude because he was told it was not helping him either eventually he got hired and is now happy again, now his preaching the same thing to me when I get down. You have to change your mindset, stop blaming yourself for not getting a job your not alone, start to feel good about yourself again think about all the good things your good at, if you like yourself other people will like you too. Honestly I know how you feel but I know you have to change your mindset to move on.

Cocoabeans, not sure how you meant your post to come across to me and even if you did mean it in the way I took it.... I am sorry if my post back was hot headed of me..... I do not mean it in a angry way towards you but well you hardly reacted any differently to the way others are towards me because of what I am like as a person. I would have wrote the same back to who ever posted, if anyone did.

Once again sorry if I come across as angry or you took what I posted in a personal way.

I have been depressed for much of my life. The last 5 years have been the worst. I have lost my life’s savings and I desperately need a job. Cannot find one after years of trying. I sit around alone each day. I feel that it is hopeless.

I am on meds with fair results. Boredom is killing me. I have no hobbies, no interests, no friends.

Anyone have an idea for me? I know all about exercise and volunteering, but it has not worked for me due to extreme depression. I need a job!!!

What do you do when they ask about medical conditions you might have? Why did you leave your last job?
These types of questions might not happen at the interview or on the application but they will be asked adventually before your hired. What then? I recieved permenant medical retirement for a back problem from a major company app. 90,000 employees. Was making $32.00 an hour...