[I will never forget]

May 30, 2013 I began working at the grocery store as a cashier. It was a hard transition for me having to deal with people all day since i am WAy too shy and really quiet. I was having a hard beginning trying to be louder. My other co-workers seemed nice but everytime they would talk to me i would pull away and find smething to do. Later on i started to befiriend them especially an older male coworker (he is in his 50's and i am only 18) he was really funny and always made me laugh. I was happy when he talked to me and in no way whatsoever did i ever see him as anything besides a coworker. I thought he felt the same way too but tuns out he liked me..... he began telling me sexual things as i would pass by him and admittted to me that he wanted to be intimate with me and would even give me descriptions of what he wanted to do to me.... since i was very shy and quiet i just brushed it all away. one night my ride couldnt pick me up and my boss told HIM to take me home and he did but during that time he forced a kiss on me.... i hated him for it but i knew he could be kind of dangerous and i was scared of what people would sy if they found out so i said nothing about it.... then he leaves to chicage and i was so glad he was finally gone... two days after he left his 18 year old daughter contacts me threatening to beat me up if i didnt have him move in with me since apparently he had told his family i was his girlfriend i straightened things out with her thankfully and fr two months i was happy then the phone calls began and i never answered him every night around one am i would receive a voice mail from him saying he loved me and missed me and NEEDED to talk to me. i was so scared of him at this point that i couldn't sleep for days... he came back again last month and started harassing me again and i did my best to stay away from him... i haven seen him in the past two weeks and i was feeling better now until tonight right before i got off of work my boss told me that my coworker missed me and would contact me from the hospital (he had surgery)... i really want to quit but i need the money DESPERATELY. i know he will be back soon and i no that when he comes back so will the harrassment........ theres nothing i could do about it. Its never over.

[CharactorAssassin]

Tell him you wish to just stay friends.

[Leed]

Honey, this man COULD be a danger to you. In NO WAY should a man in his 50's be having anything to do with an 18yr old girl. This just isn't right. And for him to FORCE you to kiss him is just plain abusive! Plus making harassing calls to you is also abusive!

Tell him that if he doesn't leave you alone, you WILL call the police. It might not be a bad idea anyway! In the meantime, start looking for another job. Don't quit THIS one until you have another job. Then when you do have another job, quit this one!!! But you need to get away from this guy. And for heavens sakes. don't tell him where you're going to be working!

I wish you the very best of luck. And if he keeps calling, get a restraining order against him! He's dangerous! God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[CharactorAssassin]

I've not known many people but many of them want to suck the energy out of you, by taking advantage in someway. You have to expose them I think. Bring it into the light. This person doesn't seem to have any regard for his family either.

[ECHOES]

There is something you can do. You can use your voice to set him straight.
His return will be an excellent time to tell him that you are not interested in him, other than as a co-worker. Just matter-of-factly, "I want to set something straight - I am only interested in being your co-worker and nothing more." If he doesn't want to believe it, you will have to repeat it. If he tries to debate it, you can repeat it and tell him that there is nothing more to discuss, then end the conversation. Be sure to act accordingly after that; keep your distance from him and treat him as a co-worker and not as a friend.

Your boss doesn't get to decide who takes you home when your ride doesn't come. Keep enough money for a cab or bus with you at all times and you will have that taken care of for yourself.

If you feel that you can trust your boss, you could confide in him. "About "X", I'm not interested in him as a boyfriend and I'm going to be telling him when he comes back."

If he continues to harass you, you can talk to your boss again, or report him to your store's Human Resources department.

[jadzea]

Tell your boss he is sexually harrassing you. You do not need to go into details but it is your boss' responsibility to see that it stops. If he does not you can charge the store owners, the boss and the man for sexual harrassment.

Also, I suggest you call the police and tell them you are being stalked. There is probably nothing they will do but it will be on record that you told somebody.

Finally, what about your parents? They certainly will want to protect you and keep you safe. Does he have a wife? Tell her. She can sure make his life miserable. In fact, tell everyone you know. He will get the drift of what you are saying and realize it is not a good idea to keep after you.

This man is a looser at best and a danger at worst. Get him to leave you alone. You are too young to be worrying about an old man bothering you.

[thwartedbyworkmates]

My goodness, this situation sounds horrible! I would go to HR and put in a grievance against this person. It's also better to have documentation if you can and perhaps witnesses at work who can back you up. Failing that, it might be time for you to look for a better job. Try to stay positive and tell yourself "this will be over."

[LucidLucy]

I agree with Jadzea. This is sexual harassment at its worst. I know it seems scary to report his behavior to the management where you work, but that is what you should do.

He will not be allowed to retaliate once you have blown the whistle. If he or his daughter come after you he will be fired immediately and if he is not then you call the police as someone else said.

Do not allow a predator like this to ruin your job experience. He is preying on you because he is counting on you not to report it because you are young and inexperienced.

[redbandit]

U definitely need to report him for sexual harrassment. Thats illegal, and he should be fired