[bopnew]

HI everyone

I will give you a little history of myself, to start. As long as I can remember I hated change and was and still really bad at dealing with it. I have lost many opportunities in life due to this. I would avoid the situation rather than face the feelings I know that the change would bring.

Tomorrow I start a new job, but instead of being happy with more pay and better conditions, I just want to go back to my old job. The problem is that my old job will be Bankrupt and will shut it's doors Tuesday, and the recieving company will begin to sell the assets. I always feel nervous, and sad when I have to start a new job, I spend the first months constantly thinking about my old job and the friends I made there, and only wish I could go backwards.
I have done this before and every time I start a new job the same feelings come out, and they do subside after a long while, but I wish that I could handle these changes better.

[gnat]

I hear ya. I just started a new job a couple weeks ago. I left the old job because my position was being eliminated and although my former employer offered me a different position, it was a huge cut in pay from where I was at. I was also fried from all the extra (unpaid) hours they were requiring of me.

For me I was so fried i was thrilled to leave, but really didn't want to start something new. With a new job is uncertainties, insecurities, starting over, no friends, overall it just bites.

I just finished week three of the new place and I am still getting to know the people, I'm still getting to know what my job is, and I miss my old friends. Sure I'm Facebook friends with many of them now, but it's just not the same. I miss having people i can just say what's on my mind with little filtering. I miss my friendships with them. I miss knowing I could do my job well.

As time goes on in the new position i am starting to settle in. I remain opinionless on whether or not I will like the new job. I am insecure, wondering if I'll ever get good at it.

Times like these I try to remember I've been here before. I don't think I've ever had a job I didn't get good at or get along with the majority of my coworkers. With time I will become comfortable at the new gig and if I don't I can move on. For now I'm just trying to take it one day at a time and I'm trying not to stress, assuring myself it will all come with time.

Good luck with your new job. Change sucks, but eventually the change becomes the norm.

[Little Lulu]

Welcome to PsychCentral bopnew. You said you wish you could handle change better. You came here and you are talking about it and that is a good start.

[winter4me]

(((hug))) You have done it before, and you will succeed again. Don't forget to breathe. I actually envy your comfort with sameness...I have lost opportunities due to my episodic restlessness. It is ok to feel sad, and to grieve what you are losing, this was not your choice, or what you wanted. (I did have a similar thing happen in one of the few jobs I might have stayed at forever...it was pretty devastating ...I could still cry about it, even though it was long ago now.)-----hang in there.