At least that's what I'm afraid people are going to think, when I'm done saying them. "Well, you rotten person..." But I do feel this way. I'm being honest. So if anyone can help me with these thoughts, I would appreciate it.

OK, it's a support group I'm talking about, so no names, and no details. I'm not even saying what kind of support group. But that woman who keeps complaining about her job, and how bad they're treating her at work, well, it's hard for me to be sympathetic when I'm not even sure I can find anybody who thinks I'm worth hiring in the first place. Same old story. Can't find a job without work history, can't build up work history without a job. I've even had trouble finding a VOLUNTEER position with my job skills. Apparently the market is saturated with so many others like me, older or retired office workers looking to fill their empty days. I can type and file and yada yada, but so what, because nowadays, everybody else can too. My job skills are outdated, and nobody wants me.

So, woman sobbing and moaning about your "horrible" job, SHUT UP. I don't want to hear it. At least you HAVE a job. I keep biting my tongue to keep from asking you where you work, so I can apply there, because I'd be happy to have that job you hate so much. And as for you complaining that they criticize you for being too emotionally fragile, and you're bawling your eyes out while you say that.... well, you know what they say about shoes fitting.

[Perna]

Not horrible or rotten

I would see if I could find a "club" job that would teach you some new skills? I was an officer of the "Friends of the Library" and had to run booksales, etc. Get some sort of different experience so you can claim it as experience on your resume and maybe get a job in a store of some sort? Look at your local colleges, they are often large enough to have jobs and they don't get as many older/retired people looking there. http://ww2.harford.edu/HR/JobsFolder/50-2013.asp

The horrible job woman does sound rather difficult to support; I'm sure there are others in the group who feel as you do. Practice making sure you can support them when one gets brave enough to mention something :-)

Good advice. Thank you.

[arachnophobia.kid]

I don't think you're saying horrible stuff, I find a lot of people obnoxious too. I can also understand your frustration with not being able to find a job and I can see how that would fuel your impatience with this woman.

I'm also going to be honest and tell you that I think it is important for you to recognize that work is stressful and draining. That woman probably wants to vent and it probably helps her. She would do well not to take her situation for granted, I agree with you on that one, and she should probably be more considerate of the fact that there are people out there who don't even have work.

But I also think you would do well to consider the fact that you haven't had to live her life and you don't know where she's coming from. I know it's annoying but it is a support group you're going to. She's being vulnerable there and the whole point of a support group is to support each other, even though we're messy. She needs that, and she needs people to listen, just as you do. Agreeing with her is just not the point.

Anyway, I'm sorry, I don't mean to be a jerk face I feel for you too. It sucks having people around who complain about their privileged life.

Arachno, you're not being a jerk face at all. You gave good advice. Thanks for the support.

[MoxieDoxie]

One mans garbage is another mans treasure.

[Hellion]

I am on SSI but I don't feel like I would feel anger towards this individual. I don't know their entire situation, maybe they really need the money and aren't able to quit and look for something new at this time. Maybe they like the job but say they hate it because they are sick of people being jerks there and don't want to seem weak by quitting, maybe its a case of work place bullying...I don't know there are just all kinds of things that could be going on so I wouldn't judge them.

I can be overly sensitive at times, but it wouldn't help if people constantly harassed me about it and tried to upset me. if the did and I went to a support group I'd certainly talk about it there as in support groups people are supposed to offer support.

I suppose I feel maybe having a job isn't always a walk in the park...some people can't make enough money to support themselves and their family no matter how hard they work...so maybe having a job isn't always a sign of a great life.

I sort of understand how you feel, but perhaps its best not to have a contest of who has it worse...that's not what a support group is about. I would probably feel a lot of anger if I compared myself to people who have a job or this or that and get in the mindset I have it worse thus more of a right to complain.

[KissedbyFire]

Hey there,

I totally feel your pain. At the same time, I'm in a similar situation as the woman dealing with managers who treat me poorly. It isn't fun looking for a job, but it isn't fun having a crappy one either. I wouldn't complain about my job to people who I know are desperate to get one.

*Hugs*