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Old May 07, 2015, 01:22 PM
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Basically just want some advice and/or encouragement. My husband and I moved across the country last year around the end of November with little savings, hoping for better opportunities. He found a job almost immediately and is working full time. I'm..well..not. I decided to take some time for self-improvement, which was fine at first, but now I'm growing restless. I have all the free time in the world, which sounds great, but I still don't have any close friends after all this time. I'm struggling with mood swings, massive adhd/attention issues, anxiety, and more. I want to be more involved in life, but I feel stuck, socially, career wise, mentally, emotionally...

I am horrible at prioritizing, and I just really need some help.

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Old May 07, 2015, 10:13 PM
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Are there volunteer opportunities? That could begin a path to networking? Most states have career services for those looking, funded by the dept of labor.
Are you seeking treatment for your listed illnesses? Treatment could help?
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Old May 08, 2015, 06:02 AM
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It sounds like you are having an existential crisis. I recently moved also and initially I felt very disconnected. The only way I know to resolve this is to get involved in and committed to something, whether it is paid employment, volunteer work, a meaningful hobby, social groups, etc. It isn't necessarily easy to try to 'join in' when you don't know anyone. But it is through those type of activities that you meet people, grow roots, and then bear fruit to give to the world.
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Old May 08, 2015, 10:28 AM
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In situations like yours, I always head for the local library as they have community booklets, newspapers, etc. (ours has them on top of waist-high shelves in the reference section) and I go along and grab whatever if free/looks interesting. Too, they have all the catalogs for local community colleges, rec centers, and universities, etc. I just sit and leaf through stuff and see what catches my interest and do a bit of day dreaming.

My library online has a schedule too of what's happening at the library, I noted there's a book group meeting the end of this month at mine and I bought the book they'll be discussing and I'll decide in a week or two if I want to go to that? Volunteering is a good idea, I use to volunteer for my library Friends groups, work the book sale, etc. It's not much pressure and there are other people to meet. Taking adult ed classes at the local community college or rec center can be a good place to meet people too.
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Old May 08, 2015, 07:21 PM
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Maybe go to school, exercise and read instead of working. If you just find something to fill your time it may take your mind off of things.
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Old May 09, 2015, 01:38 PM
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Sometimes the next step to take in life isn't obvious. Which can actually be a good thing. It gives you lots of wiggle room to explore your options. Taking baby steps at this time might be the best approach. Even simple brainstorming. If I were you, I'd write down the jobs that I'd like to get, I'd go onto job hunting websites like indeed and I'd see who's hiring right now, and if you find a job that sounds like a good fit for you, apply. What do you want to do? Where do you want to work? What environment do you want to be in? Where could you see yourself working? What do you need from a job both emotionally and financially? What kind of impact do you want to have? Answer those questions, brainstorm, look up openings on the internet, and apply. Do this everyday (applying). Eventually something will show up and you'll know what to do. So enjoy the time you have now and use it.
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Old May 09, 2015, 02:29 PM
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Thank you all for the replies. I just started my first dose of generic seroquel today, and I can already feel it taking effect.I'm going to be getting counseling soon as well as getting tested for a couple more things. I like the idea of volunteering and I think that, as well as trying to join a free group of sorts (at the library for example), will be a good step in getting more connected with my new neighborhood. This website has also been very helpful, so thank you again to this community.
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