[Hedgeleaf]

I work in a team of 7 men and I'm one of 3 women

The 2 women (one is my manager) sit together at the side of office and I'm in and amongst the guys so to speak. I prefer working with men so this suits me fine.

My manager is very very blunt and condescending at work. Not just to me but anyone in the department (apart from the other lady she sits next to) and I actually fear asking her any questions as I get such snappy answers or 'I can't deal with that right now' when I just call her name. I find I'm making a few mistakes and missing things out as I'm worried she talk to me like crap if I ask something.

If I question how to do something she usually responds with 'the way you're doing it is wrong, this is the right way'

I just hate the way she barks at everyone and me.

Recently her manager who is also our department had lost his dog who was part of the company as she was always in the office. I mentioned quietly to a colleague sitting near me that is so sad the dog has passed away as he usually takes her for a walk on a lunch break and he'd just left to go for his lunch by himself now as she sadly passed

My manager snapped up quite loudly and with a disgusted look on her face and said 'shhhh please be quiet he is still in the office!' As if I'd said something awful!

This made me feel really upset and nearly close to tears as I just said that it's a sad time

Sorry for be rant just wanted to get it off my chest

Hedgeleaf, you have my sympathies. Yes, office work with a jerk is difficult. Have you looked at this woman with pity? If you pity her for the inability to be a better person it will take away the upset she give to you. It is not about you, it is about her. She has no people skills and that is obvious. You cannot be personable with someone who is not so. Just treat her the way she treats you, and hang with the guys. You will survive this just fine. Then if it bothers her she will come talk to you. Then you can point out she has no people skills and that is why everyone treats her the way they do. Most offices no longer want people to be kind and caring. They discourage that. They want a team to work like a robot for straight set of hours and then leave. That is the way the world is headed. I hated my last job, i worked for the government. I hated it so much i said i would rather be dead than go into work one more day. Then i knew something was terribly wrong. I was very ill and did not know it. Now i am on medical disability. The jobs stress added to my debilitation. You have to not let the job eat you up and effect you to that point. Do what you have to for yourself to ignore her lack of personality and just go in and do the job. Hope that helps. tc

[gayleggg]

I'm sorry you are subjected to such rudeness. I don't have a solution but I do sympathize.

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