[Aviza]

I quit my other job where I was the least favorite and two weeks ago started a new job where I'm treated well, am happy, and possibly loved. Yes I said loved.

My trainer professed in the middle of training class that he's in love with me, next day states my name saying I've changed his life. Gave me the best desk assignment of our training group, introduced me to upper management by saying this is my name, isn't she great? Had the vice president of the company come into our class for a talk.

Glitch he's in long term relationship and they live together. Thankfully I've had the weekend to get my emotions under control. My plan is to focus on doing my job to the best if my ability, and just remain focused on work.

My friend from training has said. You two are cute together, I love the way you banter back and forth. He's so in love with you. He's really going to miss you next week when your on the floor and he's with the next class. She also said it's so quiet in there when you weren't there. My nic name is bubbles.

I was late one day traffic lights were out due to storm. I was frustrated because I was late, tried to call got hung up on during the transfer. He lights up the minute I walk in. Like so bright and starts repeating the lesson I missed as well as asking what happened. Totally got me to smile again.

He is so attractive. He's 5 years older. A total health nut runs, bikes for miles, and well I care about health but I'm fat!

[dancinglady]

Originally Posted by Aviza

I quit my other job where I was the least favorite and two weeks ago started a new job where I'm treated well, am happy, and possibly loved. Yes I said loved.

My trainer professed in the middle of training class that he's in love with me, next day states my name saying I've changed his life. Gave me the best desk assignment of our training group, introduced me to upper management by saying this is my name, isn't she great? Had the vice president of the company come into our class for a talk.

Glitch he's in long term relationship and they live together. Thankfully I've had the weekend to get my emotions under control. My plan is to focus on doing my job to the best if my ability, and just remain focused on work.

My friend from training has said. You two are cute together, I love the way you banter back and forth. He's so in love with you. He's really going to miss you next week when your on the floor and he's with the next class. She also said it's so quiet in there when you weren't there. My nic name is bubbles.

I was late one day traffic lights were out due to storm. I was frustrated because I was late, tried to call got hung up on during the transfer. He lights up the minute I walk in. Like so bright and starts repeating the lesson I missed as well as asking what happened. Totally got me to smile again.

He is so attractive. He's 5 years older. A total health nut runs, bikes for miles, and well I care about health but I'm fat!

GREAT. I know you are as happy as me. I start my new job in 2 weeks.

[Aviza]

Good luck!!!!

[growlycat]

Congrats on the new job! I think you are right about needing to focus on the job first

[divine1966]

It's awesome news but I would avoid romance in the work place

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Originally Posted by divine1966

It's awesome news but I would avoid romance in the work place

I really agree with that. Both of my office romances (which were firing offenses that I, fortunately, was not fired over) turned out badly. Both at the same job. But the first found another job before our real romance blossomed - and we married - but the second could have ended my marriage before it had started.

I walked on very dangerous ground that left me wide open for a further false and dangerous and, well, sick sorts of sexual discrimination/harassment charges. No matter how large the company or false the accusations or secret the proceedings everyone eventually finds out. Even though everyone who testifies signs a legal EEOC confidentiality document that says, win or lose, they will not disclose any information concerning their testimony or anything else that they may have learned concerning their testimony or the testimony of others, it leaks. By the time I would leave a conference room and reach my office (maybe 100 yards away?) my phone would be ringing with questions concerning my freshly disclosed testimony.

I was married by then and I had to tell my wife. That wasn't met with joyous banter. Since I needed my wife to back me up with days of alibis, I had to have her testify and walking her through the whole time that led up to the accusation was no fun at all.

What felt so bad is that this poor woman, I think, may have actually believed her accusations. I felt as if I, or the company, should pay for counseling for her but our employment lawyers said that would come too close to admitting guilt (of some kind - acknowledging a smidgen of guilt?).

My job lost a bit of its luster after that. I had always liked and trusted most of my employees. I didn't suppress things that had no business being secrets. I wasn't everyone's best friend but I was a good, and funny, boss. I didn't get fired because I wasn't guilty but if I had been guilty?

Making my too-long-in-coming-point: never, never, never have an office romance unless one of you is willing to resign before the romance actually begins. There's still a chance that it won't begin. That the secrecy is the thing, and the only thing, that excites the libido.

You never know...

[sca1een]

Wow..that's a change..Good luck in work and personal life

[Aviza]

Thanks. I'm at a company where several coworkers are married. Including lesbian coworkers who are married with children. It's not a huge company, they maintain professionalism and it's not a problem there. My first husband and I did work together, he was promoted to manager. I know the dangers of work involvement, my parents worked together (it's very trying on a marriage).

I am getting adjusted to the work environment. Getting a sense of the people, and realizing he really has a big interest in me. I am extra special, as he stated in training. Still feeling out the situation. It's like a family in a way.

I really laugh because he thinks I'm younger than my actual age. My supervisor is younger than me by about 5 years, he is older than me by like 5 years, so basically a 10 year gap between the two of them he thinks I'm closer to the younger guys age (Ha, genetics). I admit I'm an unintentional flirt, or my behavior is seen as flirtation when I intended it be friendly. So I now realize his introduction to that manager was a test to see if I would be interested in him (he is a single, tall, well built guy). However I'm not attracted to him at all. I'm just thanking my lucky stars I was polite and friendly when I saw him around the office. I had no idea he was a supervisor when I first met him.

My trainer guy has been with the company 20 years, he's well known there, quirks and all. His buddy is my head Manager (married therefore approachable). I'm told consistently to go ask Head Mgr or Asst. Mgr.(female) my questions. Today out of sheer frustration I said to my supervisor (single guy), I was just over to Asst. Mgr, and 5 people were surrounding her with questions, you need to step up and do your job and start answering peoples questions, shocked him a bit but needed to be said. I'm thinking Trainer guy (though attractive, strong insecurity the unwanted child, and really has a big concern about me falling for the supervisor guy). Don't blame him he does grow on a person. LOL

A guy from my class has an interest in me, frankly I just like to talk to him he's far too old for me, but no one not even head mgr likes me talking to him. I couldn't believe what I saw today, he saw me over there than suddenly was rushing over to tell him something, but of course you see a manager coming and your slacking you get your butt back to work quick, which is what I did.

The love interest may not be in the room but his eyes and ears are all around, ready to pounce at the drop of a hat. That much I have figured out. Now I need a little possessive in my life, my 2nd husband didn't give a **** about anything. But there's a fine line here and this level is a bit concerning.

[rechu]

I agree with the others. Focus on being professional and doing a good job not office romances. Congratulations on the new job!