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Dec 23, 2016, 08:52 PM
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Three months ago I have been offered a job helping my friend at her business as her PA. I work for myself, and she told me that working for her will give me some extra cash until my business starts doing good.
She offered me a salary of $15 an hour and told me that I should work for her like 5 hrs a day x 6 days a week. Now I realize that I'd need many more than 5 hrs a day to do the job she asks for, mainly because most of it was running errands, and many times traffic and waiting até most of the hours, and I still had to do the office jobs. At the end I had to work like 7 hrs a day x 6 days a week, and she wanted me to spend sundays socializing with her. |
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Dec 23, 2016, 10:43 PM
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It sounds like you need to sit down and set work hours, and let her know your limits.
If you have your own business to work on, you can't be working six days a week, and then socializing with someone else. She is only taking advantage if you allow it.
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Dec 24, 2016, 04:10 PM
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You're right. I shouldn't allow her to take advantage. I have already spoken to her, but she is now very rude to me. Sometimes she treats me very bad, and others she's friendly. I really don't know what to do. |
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Dec 25, 2016, 12:20 AM
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It's not good usually to mix business and friendship. She may not be intending to take advantage but she is. Is she paying you for the 7 hours a day that you are working?
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Dec 26, 2016, 07:42 AM
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Dec 27, 2016, 09:33 AM
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You do not have to do what she expects. So, best advice I can give right now is don't. If you want to do the work STOP at five hours. Or if you don't, STOP. I think seesaw has the right idea. You can be a friend, or do some work to earn some money, don't do both. And, if she doesn't treat you well, let her know, walk away, do what is good for you...you don't have to be rude but you do have to be clear about your limits. This is a relationship that may not be worth continuing....or you may just need to step back for a while. If it is hard for you to speak up, you could write her a note/letter, gives her time to read and think about it (not in your presence) and respond.
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Dec 27, 2016, 10:01 AM
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I think it would be better for your relationship to tell her that it's just not a good fit for you and give her two weeks notice. If she takes it personally, then that's her issue.
Or, I would continue and make sure you stop at 5 hours, no matter how much work is left. And let her know that this is how much you can get done in 5 hours, period. You won't "volunteer" your time because this is a business relationship. You are an employee not an investor. Good luck, seesaw
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Dec 31, 2016, 03:28 PM
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