[Yzen]

Decided to figure it out myself. Hope everyone has a good week!

[hvert]

Ha ha, I missed your post... but I keep up with former coworkers and usually regret not keeping up with even more of them. Former coworkers have been a great source of jobs for me.

[KarenSue]

I have many good friends that were former colleagues. Some very close, others still only acquaintances but we keep up with each other from time to time.

[Yzen]

Originally Posted by hvert

Ha ha, I missed your post.

hvert, you convinced me since you responded to my missing post, so I will share.

I have two coworkers from my first job that I have dinner with every year (usually in Nov or Dec). It is good to keep in touch, but they spend the time complaining about people I don't even know at their company and how terrible everything is there. It is the same every year. I left their company so I don't really want to listen to all the problems there. It brings back my bad memories of that job. I don't feel like I should put myself through it again. I am feeling guilty because I am going to tell them I am not meeting them this year.

Originally Posted by Yzen

hvert, you convinced me since you responded to my missing post, so I will share.

I have two coworkers from my first job that I have dinner with every year (usually in Nov or Dec). It is good to keep in touch, but they spend the time complaining about people I don't even know at their company and how terrible everything is there. It is the same every year. I left their company so I don't really want to listen to all the problems there. It brings back my bad memories of that job. I don't feel like I should put myself through it again. I am feeling guilty because I am going to tell them I am not meeting them this year.

That sounds sensible of you, self care is important.

I guess you could just say you're very busy this year rather than confront the real reason, that would spare them possible hurt.

[hvert]

Ahhh, yeah, I would do the same thing in that case: not want to go but feel sort of bad about it.

I recently went out with a former coworker recently who was so positive about how much better everything was there that I'm not going to see her again!

[sans]

Hi Yzen
Guilt is getting in the way of a lot of our decisions. I think you are doing a terrific job of kicking guilt's butt and doing what feels right for you!! Xo

[Yzen]

That is a good point. Guilt interferes with many of our decisions and it is heightened since I am prone to depression. I wouldn't be accepting myself if I let guilt cause me to have that dinner when I don't believe it will be good for me.