[LadyShadow]

So yeah I quit. After months of not having a job, and trying to go back into the workforce I was belittled and made to feel like absolute crap.

Other than my boss completely rushing me, being haphazard and totally disorganized he actually brought up my resume during a confrontation saying "well it was on your resume so you should know this."

Mind you, he is doing payroll for tax purposes handwritten! And his handwriting is atrocious. It took me an hour to understand his handwriting (plus his math was wrong), and he criticized me for taking so long. "Well I have been doing this for 47 years and it only takes me 15 minutes" I felt like telling him "then do it yourself then!!" Seriously if it takes him 15 minutes then why is he giving it to me?

He's an old frustrated man whose business is failing, and honestly he didn't want me to touch the computer, wanted me to handwrite everything, call up places and do a million different things. I had just gotten over my tremors so I had to relearn to write (bipolar and med related), so yeah, I am slower than most people now.

Anyway, I just sent my resignation letter and basically let him have it. There have been literally 15 secretaries before me, so I gotta think to myself it can't be me. I am surprised if he still stays in business.

So rant over. I guess I am trying my best to not beat myself up and tell myself I am a failure.

Thanks for listening.

[seesaw]

Good for you,

[bornunderabadsign]

I think that the Employer/Employee relationship is an attempt to dehumanize each other. If you see another person as just a machine that performs a certain function or functions then it is easy to criticize the process. When we fail to meet an arbitrary quota that may or may not be reasonable we are apt to receive a lecture. At the same time it is easy to make a monster of the taskmaster who for many people seems to oppress us. People regardless of position should remember that we are just people and we are subject to our own limitations and that we should recognize others limitations and adapt so that we can best cooperate and perform the tasks that puts money in our pockets.

That being said, I know what it is like to lose a source of income and that it will be hard to get back to the level of security that you should have enjoyed had you not had an unreasonable employer who from what you have written has a history of placing blame on others for his own limitations. I'm glad you have removed yourself from what I can only imagine was an unpleasant environment.

May your next job be better!

That sounds awful LadyShadow. I agree with seesaw and Bornunderabadsign. Good for you and may your next job be better!

[rechu]

I'm glad you had the courage to quit. That sounds awful. It's definitely a sign that there was so much turnover in the position.

Last April, I quit a job where the owner of the company was a complete bully, leaving me very stressed all the time. I, too, had been unemployed for a while before starting it, so it was kind of hard to make the decision to leave. I started a new job recently and it is so much better. My project manager is very easygoing and in the few cases where I've been given criticism it was constructive, with clear suggestions about how I can do better.

Good luck with the job hunt. I hope you find something better soon.

It's unfortunate, but your ex boss, of course will probably never change his behavior. He'll probably be shocked when the next person he hires for the job also quits.

[hvert]

That sounds like him, not you! Congrats on getting out before getting sucked in any further.

[JustJace2u]

I'm sorry you had that experience, but good for you for standing up for yourself.