[seesaw]

I swear, every time I post about my crummy job everyone tells me or questions why I just don't quit.

Getting another job isn't that easy, and I don't have the savings or anyone to take care of me while I wait for SSDI to come through again.

Also, I'm super unstable right now; I feel like employers might pick up on that and pass me by.

It's easier to stick with the devil I know, re-stabilize, and work on a long-term exit strategy.

Does anyone know what I'm talking about?

How it's never just as simple as "quit your job?"

Thanks,
seesaw

[eyesclosed]

Your doing the best you can and I support you.

[reb569]

Originally Posted by seesaw

I swear, every time I post about my crummy job everyone tells me or questions why I just don't quit.

Getting another job isn't that easy, and I don't have the savings or anyone to take care of me while I wait for SSDI to come through again.

Also, I'm super unstable right now; I feel like employers might pick up on that and pass me by.

It's easier to stick with the devil I know, re-stabilize, and work on a long-term exit strategy.

Does anyone know what I'm talking about?

How it's never just as simple as "quit your job?"

Thanks,
seesaw

I understand where you are coming from. I could never just quit my job. I would lose everything I have and in the area I live in, finding a job with similar pay and benefits would not be easy. I would have to take a major pay cut.

You really just have to make the best of it and do what you are doing; create an exit plan.

I'm lucky now because the boss that was stressing me out so bad was let go.

I do understand and I was in a similar position about 10 years ago. It motivated me to live as frugally as I could so I could be debt free, have savings to fall back on and run my own business. And THEN quit. You need a carrot on a stick to help you keep going. And that may not be another job because who knows what a new employer could be like? It's a risk. Staying where you are and venting on here is a good solution. But I wish I could help you think about doing something for yourself, as an independent. I live in the UK so my advice wouldn't be very relevant. Hugs from England!

[Gr3tta_0]

Before i got hired for this job, i was looking for almost a year. If i had quit the awful job i already had, i could've literally been homeless.
"Just quit" is a luxury many people don't have.

Originally Posted by seesaw

I swear, every time I post about my crummy job everyone tells me or questions why I just don't quit.

Yes when I was being abused everyone would say that. But it just wasn't that simple. But when I realized I couldn't get out of my situation quickly I decided I had no choice but to comply completely and take it. But I was darn close to quitting. Once my parents passed and I got an inheritance if my boss hadn't been about 3 years from mandatory retirement, I would have been gone.

I have a friend who is being abused now but, she also had a stubborn streak and refuses to comply and she keeps getting hit for it. Also, I have given her ways out and she stubbornly gave them to her co worker assuming that co worker would leave and she could take his job -- when the reality is that won't happen.

My one suggestion and I have made it on here before is a temporary agency. If you get a long enough assignment -- over 8 weeks -- and many are-- you can qualify for unemployment and make that last for a long time by doing other temp assignments. It isn't perfect but it is a good port in a storm.

[ladytiger]

I feel you. I hate hearing just quit I don't have the savings some people have and can live off for a while. I'm creating my exit plan finding another job is not easy the pay I'm getting I want more employers don't want to pay me more.

I still get temp agencies contacting me we live in a right to work state nothing is promised. I don't care if the contract is long term. I wouldn't mind making a deal as long as everything is written for both parties.

I don't like where I work now I want something different

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by ladytiger

I feel you. I hate hearing just quit I don't have the savings some people have and can live off for a while. I'm creating my exit plan finding another job is not easy the pay I'm getting I want more employers don't want to pay me more.

I still get temp agencies contacting me we live in a right to work state nothing is promised. I don't care if the contract is long term. I wouldn't mind making a deal as long as everything is written for both parties.

I don't like where I work now I want something different

Thank you, everyone, for understanding.

[ladytiger]

Also I remember the days you could just get up and quit not needing a back up plan. Today you need plan b before you can do anything!

[lizardlady]

My reaction was similar to Emily's. People say the same thing to people in abusive relationships. If just quitting/leaving was so easy people would do it.

It sounds like you have a good plan of getting stable, then planning your next step. Wise choice.

[TheDragon]

Originally Posted by seesaw

I swear, every time I post about my crummy job everyone tells me or questions why I just don't quit.

Getting another job isn't that easy, and I don't have the savings or anyone to take care of me while I wait for SSDI to come through again.

Also, I'm super unstable right now; I feel like employers might pick up on that and pass me by.

It's easier to stick with the devil I know, re-stabilize, and work on a long-term exit strategy.

Does anyone know what I'm talking about?

How it's never just as simple as "quit your job?"
Thanks,
seesaw

It's definitely not as simple as just quitting your job, and people who are offering that probably don't fully understand your situation.

I think it's definitely one of those things that is a very delicate balance. Just quitting on a whim is never a good idea, especially if you haven't carefully considered your finances. On the other hand, you have to know at what point the damage to your mental health is too severe to continue and more damaging than the stress of finding a new job and managing finances without a job.

In my experience, it took a while to learn that just dropping everything when the stress is overwhelming and damaging isn't the best idea nor is staying at a job that's clearly damaging. The balance I found that worked the best was stay at my current position, but stay as emotionally detached as possible and only commit just enough energy to do the basics while focusing the rest of my energy into finding a better position. However, it's definitely easier to say than do.

From everything I've read, you're an extremely hard and dedicated worker which is usually an excellent trait. However, in this case, it might benefit you to step back a little bit and pour a bit less into work and more into your self-care. You seem to consistently go above and beyond, which I respect, but when you feel like you're in the right place, you should consider diverting some of that energy into looking for a new position.

Even if you feel that you're unstable right now, there's no harm doing some of the groundwork for looking for a new position, especially if this job keeps causing you enough stress to prevent you from stabilizing yourself. You don't have to dive into interviewing for another position right away; start with looking at what companies there are hiring for the same position you're currently in as well as companies in the same field with openings in their staff and learning what the application process is.

Most of the time, companies are pretty understanding when hiring for professional long term positions because it's a lengthy process and they usually prefer hiring someone who's looking from a similar position over people with the right skills who are currently unemployed.

I totally agree, it is not as simple as hand in your notice. There's a 101 reasons why. The job market is not what it used to be, these day's many people change career or jobs more often. A job for life is not so common today, unless you are a doctor, nurse, civil servant and so on. A funeral director will never be out of a job.
I stuck at a mind numbing, job in terrible conditions because I had rent to pay, I had been "fired" from previous positions and I dreaded claiming unemployment benefit. There wasn't a window in a cramped room that could open, and we were operating hot machinery that gave off steam. Bit like psych ward I was in. Windows wouldn't open and in summer you would fry. The boss gave you no respect, and treated you not much better than a dogs body. On top of that there was a student working a summer, and the woman in charge of our shop was always comparing us and saying that I should be like her as she was at uni but did not bother with boys (she had a boyfriend)

I left a seasonal job a few weeks back, because I was facing harassment and trying to explain to one of my parents was like telling a brick wall. This person was practically untouchable and slated me right in front of the superiors who just turned a blind eye. I live somewhere beautiful, but d^%n if your face doesn't fit, you have had it. It is about who you know and not what you know. There's a village mentality, considering it is a town. It is not somewhere you can keep a secret and your business to yourself. But maybe it is similar everywhere and we just don't face it. I was told you should have just put your head down, worked hard until end of season, but it was clear she did not want me there would go out her way to make life difficult, and I couldn't stand up for myself without causing a scene. It was a no-win situation.
I think I am ready to sit that degree, that I should have obtained before I got ill. I like to learn and think knowledge is power. Ignorance is not bliss.
Yes Britain is different from the USA. We have more of a safety net don't we?? And free health and dental care.
My father and me didn't agree on a lot, but he said - doesn't matter where I moved to I would return to my home town in the end. Maybe he was right.
My mum also said - I don't care if she's a lesbian.
It didn't make it any easier though. I knew for sure at 18, no shadow of a doubt.