Backstabbers at work

How do you deal with mean backstabbers in the
Workplace_? my part time job there's few mean people
i know who
gosssip about me theyre negative ignore me

what's best ways of handling these people_it's
getting to me emotionally
i feel really alone upset_!

If you are being bullied, I suggest you talk to the Manager. Can you tell us what exactly is going on?

Oh geez. I wish I had advice about backstabbers at work, but they just pulled one over on me. I guess the best way is to document everything. Keep really good records of everything going on.

Going to HR or your manager is tricky. They are going to want to protect the status quo and the company. If you have a specific situation that you can point to, you might have grounds to go to your manager, but if you don't have specifics, I wouldn't go to them just yet. Start documenting then take a specific situation of something they did to your manager.

Good luck and I'm sorry you're going through this.

Seesaw

There are a few things I've done in the past. Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't.

1. Don't let them know that it bothers you. If they can't get to you, eventually, many of them will stop.
2. Kill them with kindness. Guilt trip them. If they are truly rotten people (which is totally possible) it won't phase them, but those with even just a bit of common decency and empathy will feel guilty and might eventually stop.
3. Confront them indirectly or directly. Last ditch effort unless you can pull it off while keeping your cool (I'm not very good at this one)

Finally, document, document, document and if necessary go to a manager. I had one situation where I went through all of the above. I finally got results when I told my supervisor that if it didn't stop I was going to look for other work. She didn't want me to leave so she said she'd handle it. It did stop finally. I still work with one of them and don't trust her at all, never will.

(((Hugs)))) I totally agree with Reb569's suggestions. And document, then go to to your manager or HR if necessary, especially if what they are saying is effecting your reputation at work.

Thank you everyone * big hugs. im going to ignore
them, only converse with the workers i like i noticed
two of them ***** abut other workers too. Ain't got
no time for their meaness

Good for you. But also document from now on just in case you do need to go to HR or management in the future if they really try to scapegoat you.

Seesaw

ill be leaving the job in four months which_helps

Ahh, well good for you for ignoring them, and now you have something else to look forward to! That should help a lot. (((Hugs))))