Is this bullying?

ladytiger · Feb 03, 2018, 05:26 PM

This morning I got called out again by another lead about not answering the phones. This lead told my lead such a mess so much tattle telling at my job and *** kissing! There are other leads who won't go live on the phones but I'm always being single out all the time.

I've been applying to jobs while working. I'm also networking to see who knows of good places that are hiring. This job is beyond ridiculous just now toxic so much for we're a family. I have better things to do a company whose products don't work.

I need to get out of this job asap. I have tons of skills to go elsewhere I really don't need this job. I'm looking at gov jobs hard to get into them so much waiting.

Just venting

sans · Feb 04, 2018, 06:19 PM

Best of luck ladytiger,
Good for you to network and find something while you’re still employed. I always find it easier to secure a new job if I haven’t let go of the old one yet.
Sans

ladytiger · Feb 11, 2018, 06:10 PM

Thank you. I applied to a few interesting jobs I applied to yesterday. I'm also looking at a possibility of a 2nd part time job to supplement my income but I'm hoping I shouldn't need to if I can transition to another full time job elsewhere. It's hard for me 2 get a 2nd part time job as I've ran into a lot of employers who expect me to drop my full time for such crap pay and I told them not happening.

Feb 12, 2018, 06:54 AM

Some people do get singled out more than others. It could be bullying. My boss used to single me out ALL the time, and she bullied me. Sounds toxic and sounds like you're doing the right thing by trying to get out. Hope you can find something good for yourself soon. ((((Hugs))))

nicoleflynn · Feb 12, 2018, 07:23 AM

Verbal abuse.

ladytiger · Feb 12, 2018, 04:11 PM

What's the reasoning 4 singling out someone I wonder? For 16/hr the job is not all that! I can't wait 2 leave

ArchieAus · Feb 12, 2018, 05:42 PM

They say there's always three sides to an argument . Your side , their side and then the truth . A flawed analogy for sure , but generally in any dispute it goes the same way . The supervisor says that person is impossible to deal with , the employee says the supervisor is impossible to work for ..and every varying shade of grey along that spectrum . Often it comes down to human nature and compatibility , but luckily there is a process to follow regarding the rules of engagement , so blatant bullying can be addressed , but it's by no means perfect .
The bright side is us flawed humans are still in the process , probably in 50 years some bright spark will develop the artificial intelligence supervisor . You can buy a model for your company , which will be programmed to analyze all your workers psychological needs and to be firm but fair on any dispute , implementing the company policies to the letter , recording every conversation for later evaluation.
Glad I won't be around for that . I'll settle for hating my boss and moving on till I find a decent one .

ladytiger · Feb 13, 2018, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by golden_eve

Some people do get singled out more than others. It could be bullying. My boss used to single me out ALL the time, and she bullied me. Sounds toxic and sounds like you're doing the right thing by trying to get out. Hope you can find something good for yourself soon. ((((Hugs))))

All my life I've been singled out. So many cut throaters at work now. I got turned down for a few jobs sigh saw a job fair coming up but it's on the day I'm working and can't take anymore time off.

seesaw · Feb 13, 2018, 01:06 PM

I'm not sure if it's bullying or not. You say you're getting called out for not answering phones. Is answering phones part of your job duties? I understand you say that other leads don't answer phones either but they don't get called out for it. But you have, so obviously the standard is that you need to do so. You also don't know everything that gets said to those leads, so I would try not to assume that they also haven't been talked to about not answering phones.

I don't doubt that your work environment is toxic. So many work environments are constructed to be just that. It's almost an epidemic in American culture, it seems. I wonder why so many work places seem toxic? I think it may be an effect of the Peter Principle, which basically says that people rise to their own level of incompetence. I do think, in some ways, we can contribute to the toxicity of our environment by not setting boundaries or by expecting things out of our work environment that aren't possible - like when people want to socialize at work, for example, and it's frowned upon. (Not saying that's happening here, just an example.)

I hope you are able to find a new job. When you are able to find a new job, make sure that you decide what your boundaries will be. I often find that toxicity arises from people backstabbing, gossiping, and over socializing, but that's just my experience. Although it certainly happens otherwise, like with leaders who like to blame employees for their incompetence or pit employees against each other.

The best you can do right now is take the feedback you've been given, to answer phones, and do it, so they don't single you out for that again.

Is there any other thing they are singling you out for?

Seesaw

ladytiger · Feb 13, 2018, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by seesaw

I'm not sure if it's bullying or not. You say you're getting called out for not answering phones. Is answering phones part of your job duties? I understand you say that other leads don't answer phones either but they don't get called out for it. But you have, so obviously the standard is that you need to do so. You also don't know everything that gets said to those leads, so I would try not to assume that they also haven't been talked to about not answering phones.

I don't doubt that your work environment is toxic. So many work environments are constructed to be just that. It's almost an epidemic in American culture, it seems. I wonder why so many work places seem toxic? I think it may be an effect of the Peter Principle, which basically says that people rise to their own level of incompetence. I do think, in some ways, we can contribute to the toxicity of our environment by not setting boundaries or by expecting things out of our work environment that aren't possible - like when people want to socialize at work, for example, and it's frowned upon. (Not saying that's happening here, just an example.)

I hope you are able to find a new job. When you are able to find a new job, make sure that you decide what your boundaries will be. I often find that toxicity arises from people backstabbing, gossiping, and over socializing, but that's just my experience. Although it certainly happens otherwise, like with leaders who like to blame employees for their incompetence or pit employees against each other.

The best you can do right now is take the feedback you've been given, to answer phones, and do it, so they don't single you out for that again.

Is there any other thing they are singling you out for?

Seesaw

Yes I do phone work for 2 hours a day. I see it daily in our lead room that leads aren't taking calls when supposed too. I see the same names daily besides mine. One lead called me out had to talk to my boss I said when does she gets to act like boss of the lead room? He said She's not supposed 2 do that exactly my point.

It's been a lot of cut throating at work recently. That girl singles me out a lot I don't know her but I've seen her in the office. I'm beyond tired of this work drama the agents and everybody don't like being on the phones anyway.

It's so fake at work they kiss the owners *** a lot. I got turned down for more jobs that i applied too. I'm still looking for other jobs not the ones I want those are the ones I keep getting.

seesaw · Feb 13, 2018, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ladytiger

Yes I do phone work for 2 hours a day. I see it daily in our lead room that leads aren't taking calls when supposed too. I see the same names daily besides mine. One lead called me out had to talk to my boss I said when does she gets to act like boss of the lead room? He said She's not supposed 2 do that exactly my point.

It's been a lot of cut throating at work recently. That girl singles me out a lot I don't know her but I've seen her in the office. I'm beyond tired of this work drama the agents and everybody don't like being on the phones anyway.

It's so fake at work they kiss the owners *** a lot. I got turned down for more jobs that i applied too. I'm still looking for other jobs not the ones I want those are the ones I keep getting.

Yeah, sounds pretty toxic. What is your background in? Is it possible you could make a slight shift in fields?

ladytiger · Feb 13, 2018, 10:41 PM

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Originally Posted by seesaw

Yeah, sounds pretty toxic. What is your background in? Is it possible you could make a slight shift in fields?

Yep hence is why I don't trust a lot of management ppl at work. My degree is network admin I've been looking for a career field change can't do much without a b.s. I'm willing to do anything just to transition to another field and get out of this job.

My focus is transitioning out of this job to another job plus I'll be in a moving process to another city next month.

seesaw · Feb 13, 2018, 10:55 PM

Hmmm...I'm not familiar with network admin. Is that like a tech job?

ladytiger · 12:06 AM

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Originally Posted by seesaw

Hmmm...I'm not familiar with network admin. Is that like a tech job?

Yea it's a tech job. That field pays bank if u got it certs which I don't have. I applied to a trades job sent to me via email client is ups. I don't have any trades skills under me it's a Monday thru fri job works 4 me.

ladytiger · Feb 15, 2018, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by seesaw

Hmmm...I'm not familiar with network admin. Is that like a tech job?

I forgot to add when I had to do a lead meeting during my phone time I got called out. Few other leads had meetings during their phone time they didn't get called out only me. See how that's unfair? There's leads who will throw u under the bus all for 16/hour!