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Nov 14, 2017, 09:28 PM
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So I cancelled an interview set up by a recruiter today, as the job was on the other side of the country and I know I can't handle that big a move mentally right now. It would destabilize me. I would probably end up hospitalized.
Anyways, prior to me cancelling, the recruiter changed the day and time of the interview on me 3 times and at the last minute. I contacted the recruiter about an hour before the interview to let them know I was pulling out of the search and didn't want to waste their time as I didn't think it was a good fit. She had the nerve to email me back and say I had wasted their time...when I was the one who flexible enough to move the appointment THREE times for them and to a time of day that was not convenient for me but was convenient for all of them. The fact that they moved the appointment so many times was part of why I cancelled. I'm not moving to another city AGAIN only to end up in a miserable job with people who are flighty like that. I don't need interview practice at this point...I've probably been on 50 interviews since I lost my job and they all ask the same questions...I always make it to the top two and then they choose the other person, and at that point it's just personality that they are choosing on. I was just very irritated that threw that in my face after rescheduling THREE damn times and the last time was on the same day of the interview. Like their time is worth something but mine isn't? Makes me not feel so bad about cancelling since they act like that. I'm just venting. Don't need any advice. Seesaw
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Nov 14, 2017, 10:26 PM
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That's horrible. At least, you dodge the bullet. If they can be abusive in email session, they can be more abusive in interview and work environment.
I had abusive interview once. My case is different from yours, but it's far from my home too. The employer treated and abused her workers badly RIGHT in front of me. I blew my interview intentionally. |
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Nov 15, 2017, 10:57 PM
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You didn't waste their time, you told them why and offered to be flexible and they didn't hold up their end. That's on them, not you. Best of luck to you though.
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Nov 16, 2017, 12:58 AM
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The recruiter sounds very self aware and delightful. I wish there were an emoji for sarcasm
 It sounds like you did the right thing by following your intuition. It is flighty. I have had similar experiences with the recruiters. Not sure why it is so hard to find a good one. Almost as tough as finding a reliable plumber.
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Nov 16, 2017, 01:07 AM
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Thanks you all. I just know that the recruiter's comment is going to bother me for a while because I've been struggling with being reliable for a while now due to my depression. I mean, I don't have control over it, it's disabing...I'm on disability for it. So comments like that, even from an idiot recruiter, just sting.
I appreciate the support. Seesaw
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What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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