I woke up in the middle of the night feeling very depressed at the thought of going to work this morning.

The pressure there is so intense. So much negativity. I was thrown under the bus last week - quite unfairly. I spoke up about it. I constantly watch my back.

This place is bad for anybody’s mental health. People who thrive on chaos and dysfunction thrive at this place.

I’m waiting to transfer. It could be months. Maybe another year for all I know. I don’t know how to shake this off and not let it get to me. Just when I think I am doing pretty good at handling it, I realize it’s getting me down.

I’m wondering if even with the transfer it will still be tough for me. I’ll still be with the same company and now I have bitter feelings due to the current situation.

I just want to go to work, do my job, come home and not worry. Seems like it shouldn’t be that complicated.

[Skeezyks]

(((((Sisabel)))))

I am sorry to hear that your work environment is dysfunctional and stressful! I am so sorry I don't have any advice. But you get a big hug from me.

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Thank you ❤️

Originally Posted by KnitChick

(((((Sisabel)))))


I am sorry to hear that your work environment is dysfunctional and stressful! I am so sorry I don't have any advice. But you get a big hug from me.

Thank you. Hugs mean a lot. ❤️

[rechu]

Yeah, I completely know the feeling. On Sunday night when I finally could sleep I was having dreams that I kept screwing something up at work.

To cope, I have been trying to focus on things outside of work that I enjoy. My husband and I were able to get away to a place that we find very relaxing last week for four days. We are both under a lot of stress, so we decided to go somewhere we were familiar with and could trust things would be stress-free. Plus, it’s the type of place with lots to do on the grounds, so we could just arrive and stay there without having to do more driving. It did help me recharge a bit.

I have a lot of vacation time accumulated, so I do also take a mental health half day or day here and there. In October we’re taking a week off and there’s a 5-day weekend coming up next month, thinking about those things coming up makes it somewhat more bearable.

Exercise helps a bit too. We have a puppy, so we take him out for long walks when my husband gets home from work and on weekends. Or, we do some urban exploration walking around different neighborhoods of our city.

On nights when I really can’t turn off my brain, I take one of those natural sleep remedies, which seems to help.


I know you are trying to transfer, but are you in a position to be looking for other jobs as well? Unfortunately, I am kind of stuck where I am because my husband and I want to apply for a mortgage in the next few months and I need at least a year with a company for my income to be taken into account. I try to focus on the fact that I am doing this for us to be able to buy a house.

Lots of hugs!

[Marielle]

Sounds like my workplace, but the reverse situation. Rather than risk an entire team leaving, they're transferring the problem manager out to another team, as she has been the source of tension and underbus-throwing.

The damage is done, though, for me at least. I'm actively looking and can't wait to leave. September is the best time of year to look, so maybe get your resume together and give it a shot? At least then you know you're doing something to change your situation. I find that with each step I take to leave (bookmarking jobs, writing cover letters, networking), I feel a little more empowered, even a bit wicked in a good way, like, "You think you've solved the problem. You think I will stick around for the next demoralizing beat-down. Little do you know...MUAH HA HA HA HA!"