[ARaven0137]

Last night I had to work near an abusive idiot we call Capt Sobel, aka Scroteus Maximus, aka the crusher of female employees. I had to hold back the urge to puke.

I am just growing so tired of my boss. Everyone thinks he is the best human on the planet so you can't say anything.

1. He has become like a baby. He can't remember anything and he is constantly e-mailing with questions that he should know. I suspect he does know these things because, as an extrovert, I suspect the is just in dire need of human conversation.

2. He is increasingly lazy and this means work for me. Every stupid thing that he should just answer the question he wants to have a zoom meeting about. But these meetings are TON of work for me to set up. Last week someone waived his presence at the meeting -- something that has never been an issue before but now, he had a problem with it and we had like an hour meeting about that. The presence was waved so that things could get set up quicker and he says he doesn't care how long it takes, but IMHO he does.

3. It is hard to schedule things because we have limited access to the room with the video. He can't seem to understand that. He thinks we should be able to anything he wants when he wants... when I tell him something isn't happening because I got bumped or something he grouses at me but does nothing. This is doubly frustrating for me because when I get bumped I need to tell everyone of a change to the schedule.

4. My other bosses are constantly setting up guidance and meetings for me and I can't keep up with any of it. Because I am so busy doing work.

I made a sarcastic remark the other day that I don't think he got suggesting I should get a kind word for performing so well under strained circumstances... didn't get a thank you.

I feel like some of my co workers are angry either at me or him, I guess him. He is supposed to be getting things done and he isn't. What this effectively means is similar to me... he keeps telling them to do work, but then when they bring him that work, he doesn't want to sit down and do the work, he just finds a reason for them to re do it.

I am seriously wondering if I can take this job any longer. The work just never ends.. EVER. Basically because they bosses don't have to do any of it and thus there is no impediment to them saying -- do this... - do that... forever. For us to be having a pandemic and also working at home and still be working like dog -- at home -- and sometimes don't even getting a lunch break, is almost making the decision for me. I am just too old for this job and my life it total misery. It is the job itself. Much of my work has been suspended. When it starts back up the need will be horrific.

the one ***** at work who has been giving me a hard time for almost a year decided that she would try one more time and went running to a manager complaining about me. I asked her to not sanitize the carts near me because of my asthma. she continued to do so. she complained that when I was in charge of the service desk I called her up to do the "cart run" (bringing them in from the parking lot) and made her ring on the register...all of which were part of her job.

I guess the manager finally told her if she didn't like it to just go ahead and leave. end of story. so she did. 3 days later no one has seen her and she is now unemployed. guess management will finally believe me now. work just got a lot easier.

[Have Hope]

I am MOST unhappy about a dirty maneuver my team Manager just pulled on me. This is a much needed RANT/VENT.

My team Manager took over the direction of one of my accounts by telling our client Account Manager to schedule a call with my client ASAP to discuss my entire strategy. I was completely unaware of this meeting being called and scheduled; my team Manager NEVER consulted with me to ask if I would be prepared for such a meeting, and now it's scheduled as soon as NEXT WEEK.

I protested to my Account Manager AND to my team Manager yesterday, saying NO ONE informed me of this call happening, NO ONE asked me or involved me in order to prepare me adequately, and NOW this means I am TOTALLY under the gun to prep! I needed a lot more time for proper analysis on this account before talking to my client about my entire strategy!!!!!

I am REALLY upset by this. It backs me up against a WALL. And I am PISSED that my Manager is SUDDENLY calling all the shots, when it's MY client, MY strategy and MY calls that I LEAD? He is supposed to act and function strictly as a CONSULTANT to me and the rest of my team. So in my understanding that means he is NOT supposed to TAKE OVER the direction or even one portion of my account! He is NOT my boss! He hasn't ever been on the phone with my client, yet he decides that a call needs to take place ASAP -- LOVE how I was the last to know!

I am BEYOND upset and exasperated over this. This has been a CRAP month of a whole lot of extra client work to boot. It's not like I'm sitting around doing nothing all day. I have been working my butt off trying to keep up. And now this?????? Now yet another week ahead of additional workload, when I'm already busting at the seams.

GRRRRRRRRRRRR. Rant over.

[Mountaindewed]

They are hoping to have select retail stores open for curbside pickup by May 1st in my state. Since my store was one of the last to close, and since we have stuff people could use for the summer, I think we might open. I’m hoping since my position is in the backroom and I deal with the trucks, I’ve been with the company the 3rd longest in my department, and I am also very young compared to a lot of the other workers and I have no health problems, I will be asked to return.

But ever since I gave them that paperwork to fill out for social security late last year they have been really screwy with my hours. I wonder if I should raise hell if they open but don’t let me return?

[Have Hope]

So since my team Manager called this meeting with my client, without my knowledge and without consulting with me first, I asked him yesterday if he then will lead the meeting since I have NO clue what the agenda is and what he wants to specifically discuss. I decided - it's HIS meeting, therefore, he can lead it. I will just sit back. Screw it. Enough is enough.

[Have Hope]

And.... I have one client who is a negative WET BLANKET no matter what good news we relate. He is sooooo annoying and exasperating. He's the kind of person who if his wife cleans the entire home for him, he'll return home from work and will find the one tiny missing dirty spot and will point it out. That's what it's like working with him. Nothing is ever right, he is never satisfied, he's difficult to please, and he's a total time suck who makes us all work over the required hours for him - the worst kind of client to have in my job. The worst part of it he's actually very nice - he's just difficult to please and has a negative personality.

[Hi IM Dan]

Originally Posted by Have Hope

And.... I have one client who is a negative WET BLANKET no matter what good news we relate. He is sooooo annoying and exasperating. He's the kind of person who if his wife cleans the entire home for him, he'll return home from work and will find the one tiny missing dirty spot and will point it out. That's what it's like working with him. Nothing is ever right, he is never satisfied, he's difficult to please, and he's a total time suck who makes us all work over the required hours for him - the worst kind of client to have in my job. The worst part of it he's actually very nice - he's just difficult to please and has a negative personality.

Another way you could look at this client, potentially, is he'll make you better at your job?
He'll get you better at your job and hes a nice guy!

I don't know sorry to hear about your manager and the recent problems.

[Have Hope]

Originally Posted by Hi IM Dan

Another way you could look at this client, potentially, is he'll make you better at your job?
He'll get you better at your job and hes a nice guy!

I don't know sorry to hear about your manager and the recent problems.

lol.. that's one way to look at it! And thanks.. yeah, it's been rough lately.

Ty.

[ARaven0137]

I feel another twisted fairy tale coming on.

Behold the laborious lay of the LAIRFMFRs. Once upon a time in the Kingdom of Dysfunction there was a group of workers, who's job it was to go into the provinces and liaison with places of lodging and refreshment to set up conferences, seminars, training sessions and meetings. The vast majority of these courtiers were, like myself, millennials, but stereotypically so. They learned that my best friend and coworker, K, and I had done this very same job in the past. So, the senior LAIRFMFR, all of 24, decided to enlist K and my assistance in doing their job. We were a little older, and higher in position, but we're pretty informal and we agreed to help them out. At first, it was a polite request, one or two simple taskings, and a nice thank you after. In two months it was still a polite request, several taskings, and a lukewarm thanks. In two more months it became, "hey, we want you to do x, y, z, a, b and c." The things that the LAIRFMFRs were asking were time consuming. K and I had to drive through traffic, find parking in a very busy area, then walk to the site, find the right person, convince them to set up what the LAIRFMFRs needed and pay for it. One tasking could take two to three hours not counting driving back. By this time they frequently began to ask us to do their job on Friday afternoons at about 3:30 to 4:00pm. K and I wouldn't get done until 10 or 11pm after we had already worked a full day.

It was about this time that I noticed a pattern and brought it to K's attention, but she felt sorry for the LAIRFMFRs and so we continued to help out and it did help the organization immensely. There came a period in which we did their job five out of eight Friday afternoons. It also went from, "could you please help us" to "you two need to head downtown and get..." Thanks had also departed the equation. I asked them why always so late on a Friday and they always said the tasking came in at the last minute. I began to double check and found that they received the tasking a week or two before and just forgot or got distracted and that K and I were their saviors. I circled back after getting a tasking on a Friday and "visited" their office to find that they were watching basketball, playing games and planning a baby shower...while K and I ran downtown to do their jobs. Once, they went to a tea ceremony with the boss Friday afternoon while we did their jobs.

Finally, after K and I flew a four hour flight, we landed, did the post flight and then got tasked to do their job on a Friday evening. K and I worked an 18 hour day and we repeatedly called the woman who needed this done because she had to make some decisions on what we had found. She never answered and never responded. The next day we got a hold of her finally and she said, "meh, it turns out I didn't need that."

I blew a gasket. Right in their work area, I called them all a bunch of Lazy A Incompetent Rat F MFrs. They abused our time, good nature and energy for six months while they watched sports, planned parties, and played games. Not once did they accompany us to do the job. From that point on, informality was out the window and they needed to schedule appointments to see us, wait in the lobby until summoned and would report to us per protocol and respect our higher positions.

You gotta love those millinnials! (I'm one)

[Mountaindewed]

I don’t know who’s going to be back at work and who’s not. It’s been over a month and with Walmart and target and local grocery stores still open, a lot of people may have found different jobs. It will be interesting returning.

[Turtle_Rider]

I'm not sure if it gripes or not, but it certainly not pleasant. So here we go:
A coworker feels offended by me and now she doesn't want to talk to me. The matter is just because stupid chats.
Her task is to check up our designs. Recently, she asked me about some confirmance, and I reminded her about the reference and notes that I gave her earlier. Suddenly, she feels offended and said that my words make her feel stupid (wtf?) and went into emotional outburst. I am able to remain calm this time, so I tried to calm her down. Now she doesn't even want to read my chat.

Admittedly, since I met her, I know that she is a type of person who is too sensitive and unable to accept critics well. Blah! Type of coworkers that hard to deal with. I guess I should contact the HR after work hour.

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by Turtle_Rider

I'm not sure if it gripes or not, but it certainly not pleasant. So here we go:
A coworker feels offended by me and now she doesn't want to talk to me. The matter is just because stupid chats.
Her task is to check up our designs. Recently, she asked me about some confirmance, and I reminded her about the reference and notes that I gave her earlier. Suddenly, she feels offended and said that my words make her feel stupid (wtf?) and went into emotional outburst. I am able to remain calm this time, so I tried to calm her down. Now she doesn't even want to read my chat.

Admittedly, since I met her, I know that she is a type of person who is too sensitive and unable to accept critics well. Blah! Type of coworkers that hard to deal with. I guess I should contact the HR after work hour.

Might I ask how you knew since you met her that she is the type of person who is too sensitive and unable to accept critics well? Did someone tell you that or did she tell you that? Is it possible that by your thinking that about her, you have treated her in a manner to draw out emotional outbursts?

I used to have to interact with a man who would savagely snarl filthy language. He said the meanest, scariest, most filthy things to me when I tried to draw his attention to a fire hazard. It was my responsibility to tell him that. And that was how he treated me. Would you say he was the type of person who is too sensitive and unable to accept critics well? Weeks later when he shouted at my boss using the same filthy nasty hateful and threatening language over another work-related situation, my boss was shocked and horrified. He didn't like being addressed in that manner, and when he told this man that, the man raised his voice even more and swore some more; continued swearing until my boss left the room.

I think you have the right idea to contact HR. You can tell them that you find certain types of coworkers hard to deal with, and describe what you say and do that puts you in those situations. But I wouldn't contact HR after work hours--work difficulties should be solved during work hours. I hope this helps.

[Have Hope]

I'm taking a much needed mental health day off -- well, really only half the day off and last minute. I have been pushed to the brink with far too much work overload, and I hit a wall. I emailed my boss at 1 PM to tell him I was having "personal issues" and needed the rest of the day off. I am being worked waaaay too hard, and now I'm unravelling. It's starting to show. My stress is leaking out everywhere it seems, even in some of my comments to co-workers. I almost cannot help myself. So it's probably best for me to take this time for myself.

I just don't understand why all bosses seem to turn against me. We are supposed to be staying home. But my boss announces last night at 6:30 PM that I need to go in today for something that is going to take 15 minutes.

Just me, not the more *beloved* co workers.

My biggest gripe with that is that (1) I am not supposed to be going in and (2) I am going to have to drive two hours for just something that takes 15 minutes? What a jerk.

It just has to be me. My bosses always turn against me. They always start being jerks.

My best guess is because they see that other people of the same type treat their people bad in this same position.

I tell you -- I don't know if I am going to be able to stay in this job much longer. I swear I might just get emotional and quit .

[BreakForTheLight]

Home office + construction site next door = AAAAAAAAARRRGGGGHHHHHHH

[rechu]

@BreakForTheLight - I feel your pain. The couple next door has had work going on at their house. I always work from home and my husband has been since mid-March. The guy doing the work not only made a lot of noise cutting tile and all, he also had some sort of bluetooth/USB speaker blasting what I called this 90s dance party mix, think "Rhythm of the Night,", etc. It was the same music every day. He has stopped for now, I guess because of the new municipal ordinance that requires masks everywhere in public. He was mainly doing work in front of the house, so he would be required to wear one. It definitely doesn't look finished, so I am sure my future holds more of "Rhythm of the Night".

[IceCreamKid]

Why yes, yes I was ready at the time you called the meeting. And I am still ready and waiting for you. Sure. Sure I'll just sit here waiting for you to remember you called a meeting. No problem. That traffic must be awful at your house.

[puzzclar]

Had to call out due to health. This sucks. COVID 19 is already affecting my job. Now I don't feel well. I don't need this!!!

[Turtle_Rider]

Originally Posted by IceCreamKid

Might I ask how you knew since you met her that she is the type of person who is too sensitive and unable to accept critics well? Did someone tell you that or did she tell you that? Is it possible that by your thinking that about her, you have treated her in a manner to draw out emotional outbursts?

It's not her first time doing this and I'm not the first person to bear it. Previously, she spoke with the same manner to the HR and boss (it was on group chat btw). She was also being criticized/reminded. But at that time, she immediately deleted those offensive messages before they read it. This time I captured her words before she deleted it. And no, I treated her normally and equally like everyone else. No one has a problem with that, so it's hers. It's not a big problem for me, but she is. If she couldn't accept that, one day she would get in bigger trouble for speaking the same manner to higher-ranking boss or other important persons.

I haven't spoken to HR yet, as I have too many projects to handle and have no time to at the moment.

But don't worry . She isn't as bad as my manager in my previous workplace, although she is not good either. I still can work with her despite the difficulties.

[ARaven0137]

In the magical Kingdom of Dysfunction, we peons and serfs have to perform this ridiculous duty every five to six weeks where we man the phone for the wider organization. It's ridiculous in that one day you may get a doctor to answer and your need is for a mechanic or you get a musician and you need something scientific. No amount of reason or logic with work on the higher ups and this duty is some sort of sacred cow. So, today was my day, but it was quiet. However, it always reminds me of past stupid days.

On my days, I normally get calls about aircraft parts, scheduling, maintenance, aviation charts and weather, but I frequently get calls meant for mental health professionals. A man with Schizophrenia wanted me to resolve his landlord dispute. Another wanted me to do something about his in laws that were eating his organs. Yet another wanted me to stop the voices in his head and convince his girlfriend to remove the TRO. I wonder if they think that it's the crisis hotline, which I always refer them to. Still, many of them just want to chew my ear off and won't take no for an answer. If I'm not busy, I try to swap out my pilot cap for my dusty old counselor hat and listen. But sometimes I get swamped with my real job and I get impatient when the person won't stop talking and thinks that I'm the one to resolve their issue.

It usually goes something like this, "Look, I really can't help you. I told you to call this number for the crisis hotline. No...no, I can't help you, they can. Look, if it involves flying I can help you, but I can't get your inlaws to give you your heart back after they ate it. And no, I can't listen to you all day. You need to call this number..."

Anyhow, minor gripe.

[Have Hope]

I'm severely burnt out on work. I'm at the point where I don't care about one of. my clients who is leaving us anyways. What's the point? I've lost my passion and I just don't care anymore.

[IceCreamKid]

Thanks for answering me. Since you seem to be in charge, I have no doubt you are correct. Being correct doesn't seem to be helping the situtation, but no doubt they'll fire her and then you can say you were right all along which will be further proof that you were right and they were correct to put you in charge.

I have come to the conclusion that I need to "slow down". My last boss was always pushing me to do things quickly and I thought my new boss wanted that, but in his other matters I feel like he DOESN"T want that. He does nothing fast over there... so perhaps he throws things at me to get me to stop rushing him. HE will have to be the person to nag me.. not the other wary around.

I am going to put my work first -- and whatever time I think is reasonable for his work, I am going to double.

[Have Hope]

I hit a wall. I've been pushed too far. I don't even care anymore, but they've pushed me somewhere over the brink. I stopped working at 1 PM even though I have to work until 5. I couldn't do another thing and my brain shut down, along with my emotional tolerance. I've had it.