New job headaches... I hope I can survive?

Thanks @divine1966.

Oh yes, it's completely possible hat I am misunderstanding my role on projects, her role on projects and how things get done. Of course I am not educated on those aspects yet, and I was jus thrown into the fire with this project for the CEO.

What I DO understand is that she DID usurp my role as the solo digital marketing expert. She inserted her own recommendation into MY work without flying it by me first. That is a no-no and is totally unethical. My name was on that document, I pulled the entirety of my recommendations together. It is NOT HER JOB to be making these recommendations... it's mine. So she was clearly stepping on my toes there. That's the one thing that is very clear to me.

I am definitely documenting everything... it's all in writing.

I am just saying that it sounds like your boss and she didn’t think it was wrong. Otherwise she’d be in trouble. She wasn’t. Your boss explained that’s how they do things. I totally understand how it made you feel but what we feel and what’s happening doesn’t always match. They didn’t consider it a no no. I just don’t want you to start having negative thoughts about this job and start disliking it, it has nowhere to go but downhill then. We have to accept how things done until perhaps we are established there enough to make changes.

For now just accept how things are being run and getting along with others is a big component on a job. Is it easy? No. But it’s better to start gently and then amp it up then the other way around. When they know and respect you they'd be more willing to hear criticism. You don’t want bad reputation early on. And trust me it doesn’t take long for that. You don’t want that

The thing is though, when I first and initially asked my boss if all digital marketing recommendations should be run by me first before they are sent out, he said he agreed. So, my boss was agreeing that i was correct. I think he was political about it in the end. And we did have a follow up team call to discuss the recommendations yesterday, and I was able to express my opinions then to a different higher up.

And she even stepped on my boss's toes by trying to correct my own understanding of the definition of. my role! She defined my role to me on that call, and she was incorrect!

Sure, I have to accept how things are run, but if they are going to continue to be run the way they were last week, I cannot be successful there at all. And I will have to leave.

Well sometimes jobs are just a bad fit. I’d give it a bit of time to figure that out. Or maybe it’s just this one woman. Hopefully things improve

Very true! I do need to give it more time... but any job that comes along that looks good for me, I will interview.

I'm having a complete emotional breakdown. I left work early for "personal reasons". I could care less given the stress they've put me through already. It's stress overload, and I'm melting down, bursting into tears within the first two weeks. I want to leave.

Is it this woman again? It’s ok to take time off. Hope you’ll feel better tomorrow. Are you able to start therapy again soon? That would be really helpful to run work situations by the therapist.

It's everything combined.... I've reached a breaking point and I've reached my limit. I have an emergency session with my therapist today.

Oh great that you get to see a therapist. Sorry you are having hard time

Thanks @divine1966.

It helped to talk to my therapist last night. And at least I was able to sleep better last night with a bump in my sleep medication.

What has happened with that woman now has not only tainted my first days at work to be very negative and contentious, but because of her extremely harsh, corrective and punitive tone with me on the phone earlier this week, I now am questioning every little thing I do and am worrying that I have the wrong approach!!!! She shook my confidence level, when I had begun with 100% confidence in myself. I am sure that was her GOAL!!!!!!!!!! I am SO ANGRY.

Don't give her that much power. You were able to voice the situation with the boss and your concerns were heard and documented. At that point, the decisions are in management's hands. Sometimes you just have to let it go and move on to the next project in the business world.

Collaborative work situations are great when all parties are truly communicating and working together; they can be stressful when someone tries to dominate and overstep their role in that collaboration. In the end, you get the project done, and you move on to the next one, making note of the issues that did arise so down the road you will know to find a way to proactively circumvent those same issues.

Some people are just really difficult to work with, but remember that is THEIR personality and THEIR inability to work respectfully and collaboratively, not yours. The failing is hers. She'll never see it or admit it, and let go of any idea that you'll ever get her to do so; she's not worth that emotional energy. It is very likely the higher ups are well aware of this person's insufficiencies and just aren't sharing that information with you.

As are as it is, let that go, and move forward. You don't have to let it eat you up inside.

Thank you very much @ArtleyWilkins. I appreciate your support!

I want to quit already. I am considering leaving on Monday and giving my notice. I've had it. My morale is already very low, it's an insane work environment, and I absolutely hate it.

I informed my boss that I am about to leave. He talked me off the ledge for now, but already they've already also changed my boss and group on me too. I am seriously considering quitting.

Can you afford to quit? Without having something lined up? You mentioned you think you are going back to your ex. But you shared he is severely abusive including financial abuse. He couldn’t be relied on financially before, is he doing to support you now? Would you want to financially depend on abuser? You’d not get unemployment if you quit. Be careful just quitting like this. I’d not make impulsive decisions. I do get stressful job situation, it could be very tough

Oh I didn’t see where you said you were moved to a new group. Hope this will be a better fit

It's not a better fit. The company does not know what the heck they are doing. I was formerly in the Content Team, which made a whole lot more sense. Now I am reporting within the Brand Group, which makes NO sense. I spoke with my former boss and told him I am about ready to resign and quit.

I haven’t read this thread, only saw this post today. I’m sorry to hear this new job isn’t working.

Thanks so much @TishaBuv.

It's a nightmare for me. Truly. The only positive is the money right now.

There’s much to be said for that. Hang in there!

True enough. But I am literally breaking down in tears every day due to the stress. This is not healthy for me.

It’s terrible. We spend most of our adult lives at work. Being miserable at work is just not going to cut it. Are there any other prospects out there?

I haven't seen anything yet..... agreed, this level of misery is not going to cut it. I think I already mentioned that I told me boss (former and when I first started) I wish to resign already from the job and company.

I plan on contacting the Unemployment office in my state to see if I may qualify for benefits again and IF I quit my job. I think I've mentioned before that it needs to be due to "good cause" which is defined by U.A. as needing to prove that the job I was hired to do is not the same as the job I am doing. I also have to prove that I made an effort to improve the situation first by informing a higher up, which I have done. I have it in writing that I want to resign.

Good luck. But it would be very hard to prove. Is there anything in your contract that gives them freedom to reassign you? We literally have something in our contract that says very vague that administration reserves their rights to change your assignment to benefit the district. You can argue against it but only up to the point. They acknowledge your concern but then will do what suits them.

My daughter actually left a job that wasn’t what they described to her. She had two jobs offers and she went with the one that offered more money and job description matching what she wanted but when she started it was mostly not what she was told. She was bored out of her mind. Her job field is a combination of couple of things and depending on the set up, it could be more one thing over the other. When she asked them, they said her tasks will vary so eventually it would be more of what she wanted. But she didn’t want to sit and wait. She left that job in a few months but she found a new job first.