[myoasis89]

I've been hurt badly by past employers...told I was too shy, and that I couldn't do my job...I don't really know what is wrong with me...I can't fit in in a work setting...never have...I'm not stupid...I've graduated from college and got into the university of my choice...I just can't work...I've worked at a restaurant, at a home and garden centre,

i just applied and went to a group interview for a clothing store...I think it was way out of my league...everyone there could speak more than one language...and had awesome answers to the questions the managers asked...they've all travelled...and had experience in hair design, make up and fashion...they were revieing about 200 applicants...i gave the best answers I could

I'm very independent...I hate working in groups because no one recognises the work that I put in...I don't think I will ever be able to figure out who I am...I'm tyring to get through school so my parents can retire...they are already in their 60s...taht's why I don't save money to travel or go away...I'm saving it for school....where do I fit in...I feel like work places expect much more than they used to from their employees...I feel so lost and not sure what to do...can someone help me figure out what I want...I am already twenty and still don't know myself...I have no one there to help me...no close family

[ECHOES]

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. You just haven't found a good fit for you.

Working with a psychotherapist can help you know yourself better and feel more comfortable.

You might also want to seek the services of professionals who help with resume writing and interviewing skills where you can practice interviewing.

Good luck go you!

[nightbird]

Did you ever think of jobs that require only 'you' to do it, as in working someplace, but as an independent, like a cosmetologist is... they can build their business and open their own shop... stuff like that.

There are lots of fields like that.

There are books that update the job functions and careers in each city, so you might want to go to Barnes and Noble's and invest in one or hit the library.

Did you know physical therapists' can make over 6 figures, depending on where they work and where they live?

See... so much to find out.

Best to you.

Peace and support,
Night
xoxo

[Wants2Fly]

Employers say some very cruel and uneducated things, Oasis. As another writer observed, you just have not found a good fit yet.

If you are in college, many colleges have one or more career counseling indexes (quiz, except there's no right or wrong answers ), such as the Myers-Briggs. Even if you took this at an earlier age, the career counselors will now interpret the results in terms of potential employment. The results can be used to guide us in many different ways, so you may have had it in a psych or comm courses. But then results would have been used somewhat differently.

There are so many careers that we don't think of. For example, when I was running a college internship program, one of the students went to a hospital public relations department. It turned out that she hated public relations. However, she participated in planning a big fund-raising event. She discovered that she loved event planning, and there was a big event planning organization in her home state.

A lot of professional organizations have reduced rates for students or will allow students to attend one or two meetings for free. Keep your eyes out using meetup.com for groups in your community that may have informational meetings about employment areas you might like to investigate. Take advantage of all the free and cheap resources you can.

Don't give up, Oasis. It's a tough economy and one that is transition.