[Otter63]

My husband drank Saturday night after being sober for 11 months. I'm mad, scared, and disappointed. He wants me to not tell anyone about it. He did tell his sponsor and if I really wanted to or felt the need I would tell a couple of close friends. For now I haven't said anything, but it irks me when he tries to keep me quiet.

We have been married for thirty years and he did meth until 2002. There were a few good years and then alcohol became a problem.

Any thoughts on whether to continue to keep this to myself? My sister called me this morning and I hadn't said a few words and she said, "what's wrong?". I said "nothing." She knows better, but she just left it.

[jadzea]

I don't know what to say. I don't think I would broadcast your husband's behaviour but I don't think I'd hide it either. It seems you are giving tacit approval if you cover for him. I think I would tell him that he obviously is ashamed of his drinking or he would not feel the need to hide it but I would talk about it if it came up in conversation. I'm sorry you are put in this position. He is expecting too much from you.