[thickntired]

I went to the wedding from hell last night. Everyone was drunk before the vows were read. I got to listen to people say come on have a drink it's a wedding. It was so white trash with all those guests drunk. People were loud, sweaty and making crude sexual jokes. I was embarrassed for them, and the people catering at the historic Inn were not amused. They kept saying oh looks like rain (garden wedding) trying to get us to just leave. They were very scared the party would move inside. The owner was very nice to me and got me some water. She was probably wondering why I was friends with these yahoos. We skipped the reception where the "real party" started. I woke up today just thinking a couple years ago I would have been the loudest and most rude one in the lot. I'm glad I stuck to water. I know a lot of people recommend staying away from that situation. I like to be around it on occasion just to remember I was worse than all of them put together.

[Perna]

Oh, how boring and uncomfortable! I am often amazed at how I behaved in the past, what I "saw" in it to enjoy it, etc.

Originally Posted by thickntired

I went to the wedding from hell last night. Everyone was drunk before the vows were read. I got to listen to people say come on have a drink it's a wedding. It was so white trash with all those guests drunk. People were loud, sweaty and making crude sexual jokes. I was embarrassed for them, and the people catering at the historic Inn were not amused. They kept saying oh looks like rain (garden wedding) trying to get us to just leave. They were very scared the party would move inside. The owner was very nice to me and got me some water. She was probably wondering why I was friends with these yahoos. We skipped the reception where the "real party" started. I woke up today just thinking a couple years ago I would have been the loudest and most rude one in the lot. I'm glad I stuck to water. I know a lot of people recommend staying away from that situation. I like to be around it on occasion just to remember I was worse than all of them put together.

Sounds like the ppl I knew in AA, at least the part of the lewd sexual conduct. I don't understand why it bothers you so. I'd much rather be there than an AA mtg any day. At least they were real.
The predators in AA use indoctrination, brainwashing, manipulation, and bullying to continue to prey. At least u know what ur up against there. In AA the ppl that aren't predators cover up for the predators. But ITS BEING EXPOSED!!! FINALLY!!!

Btw, I was told that I HAVE EVERY RIGHT to talk about my experience in AA. And I will continue to spread the word about how unsafe AA is. Hi notz. and roadie, I see you.

[shortandcute]

Im sorry you had such a bad experience. That would be awkward at best. Sunshine, yes that does happen a lot in AA. This one specific group I've gone to is awful. The men complain if there are not more women there, but when the women do come, the men "snub" the women who are less attractive, get snippy with them, get all over them about the dumbest things, while blatantly flirting with the more attractive ones. And most of the men there are in their 70's or 80's and are behaving that way! And they think it's okay to act that way, because they've been sober for 30 years or so.

[thickntired]

Originally Posted by shortandcute

Im sorry you had such a bad experience. That would be awkward at best. Sunshine, yes that does happen a lot in AA. This one specific group I've gone to is awful. The men complain if there are not more women there, but when the women do come, the men "snub" the women who are less attractive, get snippy with them, get all over them about the dumbest things, while blatantly flirting with the more attractive ones. And most of the men there are in their 70's or 80's and are behaving that way! And they think it's okay to act that way, because they've been sober for 30 years or so.

Oh yes, I'm familiar with the old timers who are at the top of the hierarchy where it is blasphemy to question motives. I know so many couples in AA straight, gay, sponsor/sponsee, married, divorced, disgruntled or helping each other work their program. The first time I went I was pretty young. Men followed me out to my car, and a disgusting pervert my Dad's age bought me tickets to the ballet then blew up on me when I said no. It's a regular meat market and a way of life.

[brainhi]

You should be able to decide what you want to do with your time. If it is not worth it for you to attend - you get to make the decision not to attend. I understand you may not know how it will turn out until you get there. But then leave, why waste your time with people you do not like or respect?