Enabling

wish i hadnt learned enough to know that enabling is a factor in substance abuse... someone enabled me, i enabled someone.. no one at fault... not even the alcohol industry... ive thought about it a lot and i think we use for several reasons... its a historical way to treat malady... as sufferers, we search for available remedies.. often they are provided by people we would call friends and decent folk.. no one is the scapegoat...

what it is is that we need to figure out actual ingredients in our unhealthy habits.. who do we connect with regularly? are they the healthiest of people we know? is it wrong to walk away from someone whom is slowly draining our resources?

i ask myself all these questions and continually come up with the same answer..

we need to love first.. by giving ourselves a caring and loving place to be we can feel monumentally better because we can then share a safety network of supportive others also trying to heal..

we can always do ourselves the greatest favor by remaining mindful of who and what we allow to enter our healing path..

best to all always

I can say I enabled my sister
once I stopped what I had thought in the beginning was plain help to her...
because it was not the help i thought i was giving...
It took me to love her enough to tell her no more.....
I did not know she was doing drugs
I had to walk away to save her...........and me
As you all have read i hope it saved her in the long run....
I am so blessed to have her still
it could have gone the other way,

(((muffy))) we are in places in life that we are at times called upon to take care of others... we will know when it is a must, or if it is something we can allow another to manage for us.. in our cases we have sat on both sides of this fence and made choices based on the experiences of our pasts that are intended to assist those around us who are going through a temporary stage of difficulty... it is when we enable our friends to build and gain strength that the process of enabling is a more positive experience for us best always...

Enabling is a complex thing with many factors

(obvious statement of the day)

love and peace

good post

thanks for adding ((Fuzzy))) complexity runs very deep in therapy and it is so simple also... caring is the magic carpet