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Old Apr 12, 2009, 12:16 AM
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well im not that young i have many problems with drugs been doing them off and on i thought i was done with them i had a friend move in and all he did was drugs well not long after i was hooked again it was just pot and booze b4 now its pot booze and crack i want so bad to stop i try real hard but get no were i feel like i have to do it or i will disappoint my friends and i dont have many as it is but my health is getting worse
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Old Apr 12, 2009, 02:34 PM
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I agree with paddy. Move that person out. I started drugs at 13 it was "just" pot. Then acid crank booze etc etc everything except the needle. What got me sober? Getting away from poisonus people who litterally put it n my hand. Even if it meant they were family members.
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Old Apr 12, 2009, 04:49 PM
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well im not that young i have many problems with drugs been doing them off and on i thought i was done with them i had a friend move in and all he did was drugs well not long after i was hooked again it was just pot and booze b4 now its pot booze and crack i want so bad to stop i try real hard but get no were i feel like i have to do it or i will disappoint my friends and i dont have many as it is but my health is getting worse
crazybones,
If you are serious about feeling better and life being good...you have some decisions to make and they are not going to be easy.
Check out any NA meetings in or near where you live. Go and listen; you don't have to share unless you want. Go to as many meetings as you can. Please try not to make comparisons...everyone there has the same goal of staying clean one day at a time.
Ask your friend to move out. You are doing yourself no favors by allowing him to move in; he is dragging you down and you may not find your way back up. This is not friendship, it's misery loves company and will go to any lengths to keep it.

You try hard--to stop? But feel you have to do drugs or you'll lose these "friends." Am I understanding this correctly??
Your health is getting worse and you are worried about losing "friends" who are "friends" because you get high together?

No excuses, my friend. You are posting here because, and this is just my opinion, you know you are sick and tired of this lifestyle and want something a whole lot better.
There is a better way of life for you, crazybones. But ya gotta work at it. One day at a time...
Keep posting here and let us know how you are doing, please. We care
I care

...crazybones, along with others, I have stood at the graveside of someone who died from not stopping drinking/drugging/both. It's a heartache that goes into your very soul because we know it could have been different.

It took courage to post here and I applaud your honesty.
I hear the plea for help within your words. Help is available but you have to want it...
It's your decision

Peace and Power To You,
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Old Apr 13, 2009, 11:44 PM
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well capp i have taken one step into recovery i signed up for a.o.d.a classes which is for people trying to quit i hope this helps me as for kicking me friend out i dont know how to go about it becuz i feel as if i am stuck with um i mean its more then one fiend they all have no place to go and i feel as if i am obligated to let them stay with me becuz i dont want to be the bad guy i wish i could wake up and my problems could just be gone
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Old Apr 14, 2009, 12:02 AM
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well capp i have taken one step into recovery i signed up for a.o.d.a classes which is for people trying to quit i hope this helps me as for kicking me friend out i dont know how to go about it becuz i feel as if i am stuck with um i mean its more then one fiend they all have no place to go and i feel as if i am obligated to let them stay with me becuz i dont want to be the bad guy i wish i could wake up and my problems could just be gone
crazybones,
Congratulations of taking that first step! It's the hardest one to take, and I'm so glad you did it.
I hope the classes help, CB.

RE your friend(s)...as time goes by you'll discover what actions you need to take and how to take them. These classes will help you in many ways.

I relate to wanting problems to be gone when I wake up. It was hard doing the work necessary to ease them...but I wanted a better life so I stuck with it.
There are a lot of people here who have felt the same way.

Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing, ok?
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I Care...you are welcome to PM me.

You are a worthwhile human being deserving of respect and love. Especially self-love.
It takes time for us to accept that but it is so worth the effort!

Peace,
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Old Apr 14, 2009, 06:19 AM
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i will keep posting as days go by evry1 here has so very helpfull in so many ways thnks to ery1 of u
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Old Apr 14, 2009, 10:54 AM
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i will keep posting as days go by evry1 here has so very helpfull in so many ways thnks to ery1 of u
CB, I'm so glad you are going to let us know how you are...
I'd like to share something with you. When you share about the heartache you are feeling and working through, it reminds me of feeling the same way.
It helps me stay clean and sober because I don't ever want to feel that kind of anguish again...I am very protective of my sobriety.

Peace, my friend...take it one day at a time.
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Old Apr 16, 2009, 11:45 AM
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glad you posted, crazybones. it takes courage to admit we think we have a problem with booze and/or alcohol. it sounds like you can see where this is taking you and from my experience it only gets worse, imho. you seem to be looking for solutions and that is good.
first i'd get rid of that "friend". you may know that old expression, he who sleeps with dogs gets fleas. the same applies to those of us that can't predict the outcome when we drink and drug. hanging around ppl that use leads us right back from where we had come from. that "friend" just wants a drug or booze buddy. you don't have to go along for that deadly ride. i've witnessed good friends that decided to hang with their old buddies and i've gone to some of their funerals. that kept me sober tho i'm sad they made the choice they made.
many of us have gotten clean and sober using a 12 step program of recovery. for me that has been the best solution in my entire life. some ppl discover other ways but the programs are free for the taking....it's up to you to decide.
i wish you well, fellow traveler. hope you will keep us posted and once again, i'm glad you are taking a hard look at your life and where it's taking you. we don't have to live that way anymore...you still have a choice. if you choose being clean and sober i can honestly promise you that you will never regret it.
sorry didn't see your update to cap until i posted. so glad you are taking that first step!!!
once again i hope you will let us know how you're doing. we are always here to support your efforts to stay clean. it's not easy but it's sure worth it.
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Old Apr 18, 2009, 02:24 AM
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well i went to first AA meeting today it was a little hard but in the end i will surely benifit from them
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Old Apr 18, 2009, 10:36 AM
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well i went to first AA meeting today it was a little hard but in the end i will surely benifit from them
((CB))
This is such a wonderful effort on your part, and I thank you for sharing it.
Firsts of any kind can be difficult but especially one like the first AA meeting. It's a very big step and I applaud you for taking it.

Take it one day at a time just like the rest of us do...
Moving away from being sick and tired to feeling gratitude and hope is within your grasp.

My very best wishes for you to continue this walk to happiness,
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