[Kezzie]

Today I had a very bad reaction to being emotionally abused by a friend. I started to sob uncontrolnably, to the point of hyperventilation, my hands shook violently and then both of my hands and wrists developed pins and needles in them. The loud sobbing continued and I am guessing I could have been described as hysterical.

This has never happened to me before and it was very scary.

Please help me work out what is happening to me.

emotional abuse, especially from a friend, can be very devastating and that could be the only thing that caused your response. have you done this often? or recently? i know that it upsets me greatly to have a friend go off on me. it hasn't happened but once lately and i was ruined for weeks. i felt as if i had been punched in the gut and cried and cried. so, it can be just the response to the hurt you felt. if you can talk to a therapist, try that. keep me updated and PM me if you need to. xoxoxo pat

[hillbunnyb]

Dear Kezzie, have you been abused before? Sounds like you were triggered to me. ie: bigger issues than this one incident. Have you some one to talk to? Keep us posted, ok?

[Kezzie]

Yes I think you are right there has been a whole lot of manipulation going on by a friend and when I try very hard to do the things she wants from me and don't get quite get the results she desires, she overwhelms me and makes me feel so worthless .

I have never responded like this before and you are probabley right it has been building up and was triggered by her emotional abuse.

[dottie]

Kezzie....she's not your "friend". Friends don't abuse others like that. Drop her like a rock.."Been there, done that," kiddo.

You're worth more than that!! TGC!

[Kezzie]

I got an email from her again this morning and even thought it was pretty harmless the thought of having to respond to it started me going again not as bad as yesterday but still sobbing and being short of breath and feeling sort of dazed.

I wish I could get away from her but we co-own a dog that I show at dog shows and I can't do anything with it without her signature. I am going to try and buy her out but am frightened of what the outcome may bring, so it will be complecated to untangle myself from the relationship, but thanks so much to those of you who have posted you have been a big help.

[rebecca8]

wow!, I almost thought I had written this post, but didn't remember or something!! I JUST went through the same hyperventilation/shaking thing. My whole body felt cold, and everything started to get dark. I was also crying so badly. I just finished posting something about it in the depression forum, and then read this. I too am on the recieving end of a considerable amount of emotional abuse, mostly from my mom. Let me just say that when I had been away from my mother for a little over a year, I drastically improved. How close are you to your friend? I also used to be in a very abusive friendship when I was younger. Finally, something in me boiled, and I told her off, and we were never friends again. Have you ever heard of "toxic" people? I believe there is even a book written on it. Sometimes, it's just better to not have these people in your life. If someone makes you feel that way, I don't think they are good for your health. Take care of yourself, k? and don't feel selfish for doing so.