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Apr 21, 2013, 08:57 PM
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I don't know what's going on. For the last two weeks, whenever he's around my anxiety goes up by like three or more. I've barely been able to sit next to him, let alone sleep with him or anything. When he walks in the room I'm like a dear in headlights, and if he sits next to me I'll have to fight to keep from having an anxiety attack. I've even had to fight dissociations.
And I have no clue why!! This is the man I love I'm talking about. The man I've decided I want to spend my life with. We're living together, and planning our future together. I'm so confused why this is happening. And it's causing problems and making him think I don't love him anymore   I wish I could just get control of myself...
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Apr 22, 2013, 02:15 AM
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Mabye something subconcieus from your past triggering you? I hope it gets better for you soon.
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Apr 22, 2013, 09:39 AM
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I'm not sure what to tell you--but I have been doing the same thing with my kids--more so my 17 year old daughter, and my oldest sister.
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Apr 22, 2013, 09:44 AM
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I know that it won't make you feel any better by me saying that this is part of depression. I'm assuming you have a therapist. Have you talked about this with him/her?
I went through this with my ex husband, but he had done some pretty horrific things for me to feel the way I was feeling, not in your case though. You can overcome this...Please talk to your therapist about this 
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Apr 24, 2013, 10:03 PM
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I talked about this with my T, and she made me see a few things a bit clearer. The first, and most promenent is that it's possible that because I usually feel like this at this point in a relationship, my body is saying "hey, it's time to be anxiouse and scared" and thus reacting to a threat that "should" be there but isn't. The other thing she pointed out was that, because I have started to fill the role of his mental health advocate, despite not being completely comfortable with it, I might subconsciously be perceiving that as him controlling me, even though it isn't at all.
It really helps to know I'm not alone in this. Thank you guys for sharing with me, that really eases a lot of fears because I thought I was a bad girlfriend and a freak for being scared and projecting like that. I'm working on overcoming this, and it's not very easy because other stuff is also getting in the way, but I'm planning on talking to him about it tonight when he gets back from picking up his little bro at the airport. Depending on his stress levels though, because I don't want to trigger him.
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"You can't hop a jet plain like you can a freight train" - Gordon Lightfoot "It starts with light, and ends with light, and in between there is darkness" -I forget "Got to kick at the darkness 'til it bleeds daylight" -BNL
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Apr 27, 2013, 10:26 PM
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I hate this happened to you and hope you
can get to the root cause.
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