[howamisupposetoknow]

Hi I've always been an edgy person I meani get angry easily like I said.
But even little things make angry
For example : someone walks slowly in front of me or someone talks slow/quietly , someone do things wrong etc. I mean people's behaviors. But I dont get excited around people

And I always think of the worst case scenario. All the time. Even If it sounds paranoid. this sounds familiar to you? Do I have anxiety?

[Crazy Hitch]

Hi howamisupposetoknow

Thank you for posting here.

Based on what you have written I don't really know if it's a reflection of anxiety to be honest.

I mean sure you could be I am certainly not suggesting that you aren't.

Some people are more angered by trivial things than others by disposition.

Others are more quick to feel anger when they are feeling emotional extremes such as anxiety.

So I think that there is the plausibility of more than one correct response going on here.

I state this merely because you started off by saying: "I mean I get angry easily."

This seems to come across to me as if it's part of you and your autoresponse; as opposed to becoming exacerbated during a heightened emotional state.

Which is something that you can certainly work on.

Bear in mind this is just my personal opinion.

I am sure others may differ.

[HockingPastryChef]

Thinking the worst case scenario is due to anxiety because you are over-thinking of what the future is to bring. Anxiety= Thinking too much of the future. Flight responses too.

Now when it comes to getting angry and frustrated it normally has to do with the past. Like when people are walking slowly maybe there was a situation in the past that you needed to get somewhere and know you didn't make it on time. So you put a continuation of thought upon that. Anger= Thinking about the past. Fight responses normally.

Also to put it this way hurt is actually a present feeling and the feeling on the surface of anger. The more you build; which resentment the angrier you become.

The more you can work on not over-thinking it can help with anxiety.

[howamisupposetoknow]

Thank you for your responses

maybe youre both right about anger I dont know but when I get angry ( which happens everyday) I want to hurt that person I can say that

And about overthinking, youre right HockingPastryChef i overthink everything a lot. But its automatic it happens even the thing is not important like I said It against my will. it happens before im aware of it I just start to think bad things

[copingwithlife]

I tend to jump to the worst conclusion as well in situations. Then I make everything worse. Like I fear the worst and then I do everything in my power to prevent that scenario and everything ends up worse than before just because I jumped to the worst conclusion. I'm dealing with a situation at the moment because of this fear.

I totally get where you are coming from. I think it would have to do with anxiety. You do fear the worst and it gets you nervous and your response is anger.

[Symbolic]

I'm the same way, though I've started to mellow out the past few months. Some things that I'd get pissed off about 6 months ago, I can let go of pretty quickly today.

I focused on why I'd get angry in certain situations and, more often than not, I realized it was because I saw a reflection of something I didn't like about myself in someone else's actions, and I resented them for reminding me of my own perceived inadequacies.

I do also sometimes get obsessed with worst case scenarios, but I try to counter that by thinking of how few of my worst case scenarios actually happened. It doesn't always stop the runaway thought train, but sometimes it's enough to hit the breaks and let it go.

[HockingPastryChef]

Originally Posted by howamisupposetoknow

Thank you for your responses

maybe youre both right about anger I dont know but when I get angry ( which happens everyday) I want to hurt that person I can say that

And about overthinking, youre right HockingPastryChef i overthink everything a lot. But its automatic it happens even the thing is not important like I said It against my will. it happens before im aware of it I just start to think bad things

I have a feeling why you get angry everyday is because you already have quite a bit of resentment built up inside which can be taken out at others that didn't even do anything. It's all due to past hurts. I guess I didn't exactly say in my example that it's someone that has let go of much of their pain already so they are building resentment.

There are several website online I've ready about over-thinking that I found very interesting. Because people who have had it their whole life it can take a long time to recover from of course, that's with any habit though. I would look up website on how to stop over-thinking that can help you.

Meditation helps "a lot", people that have had horrible depression, recovered from it by meditation. You just need to learn to make it become a habit which people have a difficult time doing, even I do.

But for me I have learned over the years how pointless it is to over-think, though I still do it time to time. It all has to do with "wanting" to control the future when that isn't possible; there will always be situations that we will take badly, though in every given situation there are still the positives. Like the big one people ask: then how is losing someone you were so close to any good. It's just a good way to move forward and you truly look a lot more into the positives that, that person had that passed away and it can help motivate you. Yes of course it would hurt a lot but it would soon pass for most people.

[howamisupposetoknow]

Youre all so friendly thank you
I tried meditating once but I was like "so I meditated now what?" I guess thats why it didnt work.

Thinking the worse scenarios and if it wont happen its kinda relief or tiring or both ? Because brain is like a worse scenario machine you think even the impossible thing.

I went to see a doctor today because I sigh too much. She said I have one blood test coming up and it probably will come out normal. and said i probably have anxiety and I can see a psychiatrist. My brother says I dont have anxiety , its just a habit (sighing) but we'll see )