[fosterthehuman]

so i just started a new internship that requires me to work full time. i moved about seven hours away (by car) and i'm living in an apartment now. the job is fairly easy cause all i have to do is pretty much buss tables and take out the trash at this restaurant located inside a theme park. i chose the specific job cause i thought that i wouldn't have to worry about talking to many customers and getting anxious on the job. but yesterday, during training, our trainers gave us new hires a test on how well we could interact with customers. later that day, i was pulled aside by one of my trainers and was told that he noticed that i had great difficulty interacting with the customers. he asked me if i would either like to stay working in my location as a busser, or relocate to somewhere else in the theme park. i told him that i would be open to relocating and then i had to speak to a manager later. later that day, i talked to one of the managers and she told me that it sounds like i might not be a good fit to work at this amusement park because many of the jobs here require you to be fairly social and talkative. but she also suggested to me that i could change my job to something more comfortable for me. i told her that i could possibly work in one of the merchandise areas or do a custodial job after hours since i have experience in those two jobs. she said that she will send in the request to have my job position changed. now i have to fill out a employee accommodation form as well. and i can't go to any of my scheduled shifts until management calls me about my relocation. but that manager also said that if there are no openings in those positions, i may no longer be able to work there at the theme park. i feel terrified, i was freaking out all day yesterday because if they don't find me a job opening, i'll have to move all the way back to my original home and i'll just be wasting all of my parents' money that they spent to pay for the apartment and everything. plus, i've already been fired from a previous job before. it sent me into depression and it also sparked a lot of social anxiety. i don't know what i'll do if that happened to me again. i feel like such a disappointment and a failure.

has anyone had to go through getting employee accommodations before? or have you ever had issues at your job due to your sa? i would really appreciate some advice on this.

update: a couple of days ago, my manager told me that she would call me about if I would be able to be relocated or not. She called me on the phone and today and asked if I could attend a meeting on Monday. I'm really scared right now. I don't know what's going to happen. Is this a bad thing that she's scheduling a meeting with me? She still hasn't mentioned if I'm for sure being relocated or not.

[Smileonmyface]

i haven't had much experience with this particularly, but i can relate as i was forced to interact with people over the phone to schedule depositions when i didn't want to at my last job. i don't know about making accommodations for you, but it seems to me if a job was promised and you relocated and everything, it would be really crummy if they don't offer you something else.
best luck and prayers for your meeting tomorrow. i hope it works out.

[francisR]

hi Fosterthehuman

I have had experience with social anxiety. What I found was that as I got depression and anxiety. More under control. The social anxiety seemed to become much less and hardly a problem except on days when I did not feel good.
I do think with regard to interacting with people. The best thing to do is to have a strategy on what to talk to them about. Asking them where they are from did they have a good journey getting there and what areas in the theme park would most interest them? The standard advice here is to talk to people about their favorite subject, which is always themselves. You can get medication for anxiety and depression and this does make symptoms easier to manage. As well as this, you could see a CBT therapist to get good coping skills or an acceptance and commitment therapy therapist which is the one I use. Googling one for your area would bring one up.
That the manager wants to see you on Monday. I feel is an indication they have some offers for you. Otherwise I do think that they would have been straight with you and said working with them would no longer be possible. But it is possible to reassure yourself that even if this job does not work there may be other ones that would. I really hope this does turn out well for you. Take care. Have a really great week. God bless and best wishes from your friend Francis

[CosmicRose]

I think its slightly unfair of them to judge your entire ability to talk to customers on one test and one opinion. You should tell them that you can do the job of the busser, bussers really don't talk to people, that's more the waitress's job so I don't know what they're talking about. Next time someone questions your ability to handle anything, tell them you can handle it just fine and would work on improving. Sometimes you need to exude false confidence even if others are pointing out your mistakes, that's the only way people will give you another chance to prove yourself. Everyone has off days. If they cannot reschedule you, then tell them you want to keep your current job and that test did not show all of your qualities and skills and you feel you can handle customers just fine. Fake it til you make it. Don't let other people's opinions make decisions for your life. Don't agree to other people's opinions if it has a direct affect on your life. Stand up for yourself and don't be afraid, otherwise they will walk all over you.

[fosterthehuman]

i just had the meeting today and they said that there aren't any available spots to work in the park and that i should plan for my departure. i knew this would happen. i failed once again.

i talked to the person in my housing office and he said that he would call me by tomorrow morning to check again if there are any other openings in the park but that it's not guaranteed. i can't believe this is happening. i got let go again.

[Joems]

You didn't fail! The company failed you. The last thing you want to do now is dwell because it will only make you feel worse. The best way to get over this is think positively. Dismiss your employers judgements and get out there and find yourself a more enjoyable job where they like you for who you are and treat you fairly. In a couple of months when you have a new job you could be looking back on this as a good thing because it helped you find a better suited job. I find it helps if you think like this, please give it a go! And all the best in the future!

[fosterthehuman]

this has happened in all my previous jobs. i was judged negatively by the way i came off. they all treated me like i was stupid because i was soft spoken and odd. i guess i just have to get used to this happening now.

[CosmicRose]

No, you need to stand up for yourself or this may keep happening. Next time someone talks to you like you're stupid, project a firm voice when answering them. You cant let other people dictate your life. Be strong inside yourself and don't let people get you down. This is how leaders are born.