[Nike007]

Hello. So I had to go to a hospital for a follow up on menstrual problems. And when they asked me stuff, I said what I felt was appropriate and whatever, and my mom said I was lying to them. I felt what I was saying was true, but my mom said I was lying. Anyways, her getting angry at me caused me a panic attack for an hour. And then after, I had a major headache and felt like crap. I wanted to sleep but I couldn't. It was so terrible. I can't stand angry people in general. Anyways, they decided to put me on birth control to regulate my period. Whatever. I'm not sexual active, but I'm afraid if people find out, they'll think I am. I don't want people to judge me. I'm under 18 and most of the time, people on birth control at my age would be for sexual activity. But I don't want people to think that. I'm really scared I'll say I'm on it by accident and people will think I am a sex addict or something. It's probably my anxiety going off, but I am so anxious about that and this event that happened. And then my mom made fun of my social anxiety. It's not like she has it... Sigh .

Social anxiety disorder, GAD, OCD, and panic attacks

Lexapro, 10 mg

Nike007, hugs... My friend B has cystic fibrosis on her ovaries. They had to put her on birth control to stop the major periods that she was having. It is a medical condition and it does happen to women. I don't know why your mom thinks she knows your body better than you do but a lot of moms tend to be over bearing and it does make us anxious. Mine drove me nuts when i was younger. Just get through this, be patient with her short comings for later in life you will discover you have many yourself. And pray for her, that will calm you down and make you feel better. Prayer for me gets rid of any anxiety that i have. Blessings... Just think, soon enough you will be an adult and on your own with many new set of things to upset you. So live in the day and in the moment and just be grateful for where you are in life right now. Adult living is difficult enough. tc

[Nike007]

Originally Posted by omegalamed

Nike007, hugs... My friend B has cystic fibrosis on her ovaries. They had to put her on birth control to stop the major periods that she was having. It is a medical condition and it does happen to women. I don't know why your mom thinks she knows your body better than you do but a lot of moms tend to be over bearing and it does make us anxious. Mine drove me nuts when i was younger. Just get through this, be patient with her short comings for later in life you will discover you have many yourself. And pray for her, that will calm you down and make you feel better. Prayer for me gets rid of any anxiety that i have. Blessings... Just think, soon enough you will be an adult and on your own with many new set of things to upset you. So live in the day and in the moment and just be grateful for where you are in life right now. Adult living is difficult enough. tc

I'm sorry about your friend. I don't get my mom at all. She is stressing me out so much right now.

Just to let you know, and I hope you don't get mad at me, but I won't pray or do blessings. I thank you for nice advice, but I am an atheist.

Social anxiety disorder, GAD, OCD, and panic attacks

Lexapro, 10 mg

[avlady]

i was put on the pill before i had an operation to stop my periods because they were so bad. I am a married woman, have 1 24 year old son, and i wish i had the operation years ago. i sufferred so much, from my period, and the pill was the doctors answer. it didn't work and i got sick from it, but i don't want to discourage you. it is a medical treatment for some women and works well. Why does anyone have to know your on it?

[Nike007]

Originally Posted by avlady

i was put on the pill before i had an operation to stop my periods because they were so bad. I am a married woman, have 1 24 year old son, and i wish i had the operation years ago. i sufferred so much, from my period, and the pill was the doctors answer. it didn't work and i got sick from it, but i don't want to discourage you. it is a medical treatment for some women and works well. Why does anyone have to know your on it?

I don't know. I'm afraid I may blurt it out on accident.

Social anxiety disorder, GAD, OCD, and panic attacks

Lexapro, 10 mg

[thecrankyone]

I'm on birth control for menstrual issues also. I am much older than you, but it is nobody's business what you are one or why. Or even your sexual status.

I know sometimes our irrational fears can get the best of us, it happens to a lot of us. I can't really give you any advice except to let you know many women use birth control for medical reason, not related to preventing pregnancy.

[EnglishDave]

My daughter was put on birth control pills at 14 because she suffers vertigo and passes out during her menstrual cycle. The only people who knew were myself and her mother, not even her sister was told. She still takes them for the same reason now, 16 years later.

It is very easy to keep this to yourself, just look on it as nothing more than any other medication. Keep it and take it in your bedroom, if a friend happens to see it say it is 'just a med' for private problems you are having.

Your Mum seems to be having problems accepting that you are becoming independent. It is a natural fear all parents have, but still very annoying for you. Just keep speaking up for yourself, especially where your own health is concerned, she will finally learn acceptance.

Dave.

[Nike007]

Originally Posted by EnglishDave

My daughter was put on birth control pills at 14 because she suffers vertigo and passes out during her menstrual cycle. The only people who knew were myself and her mother, not even her sister was told. She still takes them for the same reason now, 16 years later.


It is very easy to keep this to yourself, just look on it as nothing more than any other medication. Keep it and take it in your bedroom, if a friend happens to see it say it is 'just a med' for private problems you are having.


Your Mum seems to be having problems accepting that you are becoming independent. It is a natural fear all parents have, but still very annoying for you. Just keep speaking up for yourself, especially where your own health is concerned, she will finally learn acceptance.


Dave.

Hello. My main concern are strangers. I am fine telling my friends, but people I don't know, I wouldn't. I don't want the rumour going around saying "she's having sex!", you know? Major social anxiety there. This is mainly due to other rumours about relationships and if "I'm going out with them" or whatever...

Also, my does seem to do that, but she left her parents house at 17 to move in with her boyfriend that she broken up with before university. And her parents still paid for all of it! My goodness. Independence and money. Wow.

Social anxiety disorder, GAD, OCD, and panic attacks

Lexapro, 10 mg

[EnglishDave]

If the the thought of rumours are triggering your Social Anxiety, then DO NOT share this information with friends. That is how rumours start, one 'friend' telling another person you do not know so well. Then it snowballs.

Adjust your mindset so that these pills are nothing more than medication for a medical condition. Ignore the fact they work as birth control as well. And remember, accidental pregnancy is only one possible consequence of sexual activity. STDs, HPV are becoming more common and to avoid these one needs barrier protection. Carrying condoms around is a far greater pointer to sexual activity than being on birth control pills.

This is all very new to you, and dealing with your Anxiety issues makes you feel fears where others would not. That is our Cross to bear, but you will find this issue will soon melt away and become part of your daily routine. Just keep it as your secret to avoid those rumours.

Dave.

I don't thik that is necessaarily what people would believe. You could always simply point out why - which I think a far easier thing to disclose than the fact you take it. Incidentally, I think it quite common that young women be on birth control to regulate their cycles. Lastly, I think slipping up and mentioning you are on it may be far easier than dealing with your menstrual issues. Give it some time and you may come to agree.

[EnglishDave]

Rcat,

When you are dealing with the immature mind of the teenage boy, pretty much everything equates to sex, and mostly it is funny. An undeserved rumour, started by accident, exaggeration or spite can be very hurtful to the developing mind.

I have been a teenage boy myself, raised one along with 2 girls through teen years to adulthood. Boys have never changed, girls are far more grounded and mature in general.

Dave.

[thecrankyone]

Nobody needs to know, as it is no one's business but your own.