[renucita]

Hello,
My child is possibly suffering from OCD. I am not sure we had many tests run last year and we took him to Dr.s and after a few months all of his symptoms went away it has been 8 months with no problems and now all of a sudden they are back and they have started at the same time as last year. He is having thoughts of killing us-his mother and father. And these thoughts are so traumatic for him he feels so bad and he feels the need to confess every thought. This is so difficult to hear all the time but I know that he really does not mean to feel these things he is only 9 years old and he is a really sensitive wonderful child. Please Help me understand this.

[bob101]

Your poor child and you for that matter. I would suggest getting an opinion from a good therapist/doctor/behavioural specialist. Hope this helps.

[Junerain]

for renucita,

You must be feeling so many different emotions...confusion..hurt...anger....betrayal...I cannot imagine. What I wanted to say is, you ask for understanding yet I do believe some things our human minds can never quite fully understand... I have read about people that have these ideas in their heads yet feel no remorse at least your little nine year old has remorse although that doesnt make it any easier..try many different doctors on this one? Please write us and let us know more of your thoughts....thinking of you, Junerain

[mick07]

My son was the same age when he was first diagnosed with OCD & ADHD. He had thoughts of the family being sucked through a fan and everyone being "chopped up" He was ditraught that he couldn't stop them. I brought him to a psychiatrist. His psychiatrist explained that these were horrific thoughts-- they were unwelcome and that he didn't have the ability to stop them. He did not want them to be true-- he didn't hate us. He was put on medication ( Luvox) which helped to make this managible for him. His psych. also worked with him to teach him about OCD.
He's now 20 years old and doing wonderfully. The other day he jokingly told me that he's learned a way to make his OCD work for him to compensate for his ADHD. It must be working as he made the Dean's list this semester.
I was terrified in the beginning -- but there is help-- it can get better

[september]

I suffer from OCD personally and i know all to well those horrible thoughts that you just cant get rid of. You dislike yourself for thinking them but they just keep on popping up. This is the obsessive part of OCD.

It is interesting its happening again at the same time of year as last. I would look further into that.

I suggest you get your child into a psychiatrist and probably a pyschologist. They will be able to help you all further.

Hope this helps.

[renucita]

Thank you, I do not know anyone that has a child with the same problems that mine is having it is comforting to know that I am not alone. I have gotten an alternative medicine for him from the health store and I am going to try that for a few weeks. Last year his Dr. said that Cavin (my son) needs to be on a schedule. I guess that people with OCD need to have structure and can not stray to far from that. We homeschool and when we are doing school he is fine, but once summer hit and we have taken weeks off and we dont plan out our days he is having many symptoms and horrible thoughts. The blessing is that we can do school year round-my sanity may be maxed out but we can and keep it flexible no rushing through school work. I am praying that this medicine and structure will restore him to feeling good again. Thanks again for your reply.

[OCDonaStick]

Hello!

I also have OCD and have the same types of intrusive thoughts that your son is dealing with. I often feel very victimized. I am using a combination of prescription medication and cognitive therapy. The best tools that I have learned through cognitive therapy are:

1) The thoughts have nothing to do with me, my desires, or my personality.

2) When I begin to have these thoughts, I can try to distract myself by thinking of something different or doing something to get my mind off of these thoughts. (I can do this now after having practice and with the help of my medication.)

I think that you are right about getting your child on a schedule, again. My OCD symptoms and intrusive thoughts seem to happen most frequently when I am under stress. I think that all children are put under a certain amount of stress when they don't have some sort of schedule....even a somewhat relaxed schedule.