[Rayne Selene]

Please, no hate. I know what I did was wrong. My fingernails are GONE. I have extreme anxiety...I can't stop obsessing, my heart rate has been elevated for the past three days, and I'm so stressed about it..

Something happened at work, and I responded to it...and later, when recounting the story, I embellished. I don't know why I did. I didn't think about the words coming out of my mouth. I'm usually an extremely honest person. I think I was scared that I didn't handle the situation perfectly, that I maybe misinterpreted what was going on, so I embellished to make it seem like what I thought was going on was definitely going on...it was stupid, and I feel horrible. Horrible. There's no way I can come clean, because my boss wouldn't trust me (duh). I never want to tell any kind of lie ever again...ever, ever again.

It isn't a lie that hurts anybody. It isn't a story that can ever be verified or disproven...and even if somebody had a full video of the entire incident, I didn't do anything wrong (other than embellishing the retelling). But for some reason, I'm terrified that it'll come to light that I embellished it, and I'm furious and embarrassed with myself. I don't know how to stop obsessing and just let this go...I feel like a person on a television drama...

To make matters worse, my boss posted the whole incident on Facebook, applauding the way I supposedly handled it. It's been shared 700 times in the last 24 hours. Everyone is telling me how great I am, and I don't deserve it. I feel nothing but shame. I'm sick to my stomach.

I know most of you will tell me I deserve to feel this way, and I agree. I just needed to come clean somewhere. My anxiety about this is through the roof.

[Sunflower123]

I'm not one of the ones that's going to tell you that you deserve to feel that way. I'm sorry you're having a tough time. We're all human and make mistakes. You just made a mistake. I know the anxiety is doing a number on you but if it didn't hurt anybody, isn't that big a mistake and it can't be verified then cut yourself some slack. I know that's easier said then done but you worrying yourself sick won't change the past or the future. Hugs coming your way.

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I'm not one of the ones that's going to tell you that you deserve to feel that way. I'm sorry you're having a tough time. We're all human and make mistakes. You just made a mistake. I know the anxiety is doing a number on you but if it didn't hurt anybody, isn't that big a mistake and it can't be verified then cut yourself some slack. I know that's easier said then done but you worrying yourself sick won't change the past or the future. Hugs coming your way.

I agree with this. Definitely cut yourself some slack. It was a mistake and that's all. No one is perfect.

[Manaolana98]

We all make mistakes...no shame in that! Take a mental break (as hard as that sounds). You've nothing to feel sorry for and your anxiety is heightening the extremity of the situation. You're all good - no judgment here.

[Rayne Selene]

Thank you all I still feel really terribly about it, and it's been shared over a thousand times on Facebook! People keep bringing it up to me. I just want to take it all back and erase the whole thing.

You could ask your boss to remove the post...

[Rayne Selene]

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

You could ask your boss to remove the post...

It wouldn't make sense and she would want to know why

[RainyDay107]

What happened to your fingernails??

[winter4me]

Originally Posted by Rayne Selene

Please, no hate. I know what I did was wrong. My fingernails are GONE. I have extreme anxiety...I can't stop obsessing, my heart rate has been elevated for the past three days, and I'm so stressed about it..

Something happened at work, and I responded to it...and later, when recounting the story, I embellished. I don't know why I did. I didn't think about the words coming out of my mouth. I'm usually an extremely honest person. I think I was scared that I didn't handle the situation perfectly, that I maybe misinterpreted what was going on, so I embellished to make it seem like what I thought was going on was definitely going on...it was stupid, and I feel horrible. Horrible. There's no way I can come clean, because my boss wouldn't trust me (duh). I never want to tell any kind of lie ever again...ever, ever again.

It isn't a lie that hurts anybody. It isn't a story that can ever be verified or disproven...and even if somebody had a full video of the entire incident, I didn't do anything wrong (other than embellishing the retelling). But for some reason, I'm terrified that it'll come to light that I embellished it, and I'm furious and embarrassed with myself. I don't know how to stop obsessing and just let this go...I feel like a person on a television drama...

To make matters worse, my boss posted the whole incident on Facebook, applauding the way I supposedly handled it. It's been shared 700 times in the last 24 hours. Everyone is telling me how great I am, and I don't deserve it. I feel nothing but shame. I'm sick to my stomach.

I know most of you will tell me I deserve to feel this way, and I agree. I just needed to come clean somewhere. My anxiety about this is through the roof.

Give yourself a break...I think we have all done something similar at some time....I think the social media attention is what makes this really hard for you. You are human, you want to be seen in a good light, that is normal. It is OK. It will pass. Forgive yourself. Please. (I know what it is like to keep beating oneself up for a stupid unexpected false rendition of a situation). If "praised" for your supposed actions, just pass it off. It is in the past and you have more than tortured yourself over a very human action. (((((big big hug)))))

[winter4me]

...and know that the speed at which social media moves will make the post a thing of the past soon enough...

[Rayne Selene]

Originally Posted by glamslam

What happened to your fingernails??

I bite them! 😂

[Rayne Selene]

Originally Posted by winter4me

...and know that the speed at which social media moves will make the post a thing of the past soon enough...

Thanks I hate to lie, and so this has really been bothering me. It seemed so harmless at the time and it really feels like I just got overexcited. I actuallt blocked ny boss on social media (we weren't friends on social media and I use a different last name for my facebook, so she'll never know the difference) just so that I would stop seeing the post. It's helping a lot. Out of sight, out of mind!

A lot of people are very private. If someone mentioned me or wrote something that would bring attention to me, I would ask that they remove it. It's not that unusual of a thing to ask.

[defyinggravity65]

Originally Posted by Rayne Selene

Please, no hate. I know what I did was wrong. My fingernails are GONE. I have extreme anxiety...I can't stop obsessing, my heart rate has been elevated for the past three days, and I'm so stressed about it..

Something happened at work, and I responded to it...and later, when recounting the story, I embellished. I don't know why I did. I didn't think about the words coming out of my mouth. I'm usually an extremely honest person. I think I was scared that I didn't handle the situation perfectly, that I maybe misinterpreted what was going on, so I embellished to make it seem like what I thought was going on was definitely going on...it was stupid, and I feel horrible. Horrible. There's no way I can come clean, because my boss wouldn't trust me (duh). I never want to tell any kind of lie ever again...ever, ever again.

It isn't a lie that hurts anybody. It isn't a story that can ever be verified or disproven...and even if somebody had a full video of the entire incident, I didn't do anything wrong (other than embellishing the retelling). But for some reason, I'm terrified that it'll come to light that I embellished it, and I'm furious and embarrassed with myself. I don't know how to stop obsessing and just let this go...I feel like a person on a television drama...

To make matters worse, my boss posted the whole incident on Facebook, applauding the way I supposedly handled it. It's been shared 700 times in the last 24 hours. Everyone is telling me how great I am, and I don't deserve it. I feel nothing but shame. I'm sick to my stomach.

I know most of you will tell me I deserve to feel this way, and I agree. I just needed to come clean somewhere. My anxiety about this is through the roof.

I used to be a compulsive liar and I feel extreme regret/shame for all the lies I told. I have to keep telling myself that I would rather have been a compulsive liar and have gotten to a place where I am (mostly) honest and dealing with my insecurities in other ways, than to always have been a perfect person and never have told a lie. So you made a mistake. You obviously acknowledge it and this experience will enable you to grow from it. Love yourself, and try not to be too hard on yourself. No one is perfect and people often make mistakes for reasons they can't understand.