[never. happy]

I thought of posting this in the depression section, but I guess that's gonna come afterwards. I'm going to meetup with some friends for a farewell dinner in about 20 minutes(I'm gonna be there in 20 minutes) and I know I might regret this because as much as I'm excited to see them, I'm also a little sad because I have accomplished literally nothing in the past year... And almost all my friends are either working or going abroad for their masters. The two who invited me are headed to Canada. Others are either working or going abroad to study too... And here I am a year after I'm supposed to complete my graduation... still accomplishing nothing. Its not that I'm jealous or anything;I wish I was. Atleast that way I won't be sad and wish I was good at something to be significant. Just thought I'd let this out because I would feel embarrassed kinda sobbing in public transport.

[Little Lulu]

So how did the meet up go? Might be helpful to reflect on it. Maybe it wasn't as bad for you as you were imagining? I can dredge up the dreariest of scenarios, almost none of which never happen :-)

Mostly though, I hope you find a way to create a life that feels better for you, more fulfilling. Doesn't mean you have finish school or get to grad school. Maybe that isn't your path, maybe it never was. One of the most important things in life is to be true to yourself and what is right for you. Unless you are a person is pretty honest with themselves, it takes a lot of stillness and deep introspection to know yourself and to find your way and not be influenced by what others are doing/saying. And tolerate some trial and error :-))

[downandlonely]

I felt that way for a while. It took me an extra year to make it through grad school because I was procrastinating on my thesis. So it took me a long time to start my career. But don't let timing bother you. You will get where you want to be eventually.

Well some years are better than others. Some years we accomplish a lot and some years we have setbacks. In the grand scheme of things, it will all balance out. Focus on the positive things you have in your life right now and that always helps. I know how you feel because I put these same pressures on myself.

[never. happy]

Originally Posted by Little Lulu

So how did the meet up go? Might be helpful to reflect on it. Maybe it wasn't as bad for you as you were imagining? I can dredge up the dreariest of scenarios, almost none of which never happen :-)

Mostly though, I hope you find a way to create a life that feels better for you, more fulfilling. Doesn't mean you have finish school or get to grad school. Maybe that isn't your path, maybe it never was. One of the most important things in life is to be true to yourself and what is right for you. Unless you are a person is pretty honest with themselves, it takes a lot of stillness and deep introspection to know yourself and to find your way and not be influenced by what others are doing/saying. And tolerate some trial and error :-))

Well, it was actually going fine until the end. What I had feared had not happened, but a classmate had caused some bad emotions that I was just getting rid of because of a fight(mostly words, with another friend) that took place about a year ago. And the fact that his telling of what happened there was not exactly accurate did not make it better.

I didn't want to go where it was easier for me; I wanted to do what I loved even though it was tough and pave my own path. No one forced me to choose this branch of engineering, but I did so because I loved what I chose. It makes me sad that I couldn't do any of these things, and with everytime I fail, hope and confidence take a big hit.
I feel worse because mostly my mom (and my dad too, but a little less)is more influenced by what others say and do. For them, it's hard not to, I know that. It's been getting to me too, but I'm trying to keep it at bay to not much avail. No matter what, it is a little hard not to hurt when you can't catch up to the person you have studied with in the same class.

[never. happy]

Originally Posted by Sisabel

Well some years are better than others. Some years we accomplish a lot and some years we have setbacks. In the grand scheme of things, it will all balance out. Focus on the positive things you have in your life right now and that always helps. I know how you feel because I put these same pressures on myself.

What depresses me most is that I haven't accomplished a thing in five years. And I don't really have anything positive to focus on per se.

Stay strong, Sisabel

[never. happy]

Thanks a lot for the support, guys. Wish I could reply a little sooner; got caught up

[ken9018]

Hey , I get it. I get sad too when peers my age are out doing big things that I haven’t done. It’s hard, but I try to look at the big picture. Everyone’s life is different and I’m sure you’ve accomplished something, even if it’s slmething little, be proud of that and so try not to get to bogged down with what other people are doing. You know what your worth is and that’s all that should matter. Make improvements if you can and be happy with yourself

[Wild Coyote]

I used to go through this a lot.

learning self-acceptance is important. You are worthy without any accomplishments. You are not your accomplishments. You are much more than that.

You are likely ahead of your peers on the path to learning your innate worthiness. A lot of society gets wrapped up in accomplishments and individuals think they are defined by their accomplishments. Some never achieve a state of self-acceptance.

Be well and be content with yourself!

WC