out on the town!

I have a background of anxiety and isolating myself socially. In my life, I have gone through several periods where I feel rejected by 'stronger' people, and I have isolated myself, feeling I had no friends to talk to.
Since last year, I haven been living in a small community of young people "where everyone knows your name". I was the centre of a small group of friends who threw parties for the whole group. It was amazing: I finally felt accepted as myself and no need to be afraid of other people judging me. It was amazing, but at times felt too good to be true. Then about three months ago, one member of this small group began to be very cold to me. This included avoiding me in situations where we used to have lots of fun, and no longer inviting me to parties frequented by the whole group. Now he barely speaks to me. I am very hurt - we shared a lot and I cannot believe he would turn on me in this way. In light of this, I have recently lost all motivation to go out to group events. I am so afraid of being treated coldly by this person and that he will convince everyone not to like me. I just wanted to disappear.
Tonight, there was an event that the whole group was attending. I didn't have a close friend to go with, and was thinking I would just stay home because I was terrified to face this person. I managed to work up the courage to go out and show my face and stand my ground. It was a little weird because I felt exposed, but it felt so good to go out and do what I wanted to do. I feel so proud, and I hope I can face my fears like this more!

Good for you for going out like that and facing the crowd!
Have you tried talking to this person to find out what the heck is going on? Why are they treating you this way? What is so bad that they ignore you or give you the cold shoulder? Have you tried speaking with anyone else from the group to see if they know anything?

I hope you are able to figure some of this out. and GOOD JOB!

BJ

i can relate to you hear i had a really close group of friends we did everything together they helped me with my social phobia but then once the leader of the group got married she never spoke to me again the friend i had got engaged we were so close almost like sisters then we said we would be each others bridesmaid when we got married so she started hangingout with someone else and slowly she stopped calling then she does call to tell me she and bf got engaged i was so happy for them then i discoverd she chose her bridesmaids i was not one of them she and her new bf did all the prep for her wedding when i confronted her on the matter she said she was sorry that we were still friends but that i was not spritually well enough to be part iof her court iwas so stunned and hurt by that nowwe are friends but i keep my distance formm her and ppl so i don't get hurt i'm proud of you for doing what you did it's not easy but you did it i need more time but i'm sure i will be ok love steph

Glad to here that you made that step. Congrats!