[Shaymus]

Im so angry right now i could spit venom. The landlord today comes over and just walks in like usual but this time she had with her a male we never met before. I was at my parents house so it was just the girls(17&20) and the oldest is sitting on the couch and suddenly hears a males voice in the kitchen. She runs up stairs to get dressed and she is stressed and the youngest gets better dressed as well. She is always walking in and now she thinks cause she wrote a letter in july telling us she was gonna have work being done periodically. She thinks this gives her cart blanche to walk in with anyone at anytime on anyday. It pisses me off so bad. We cant do much cause if we involve people like attornys and stuff we would almost assuredly get kicked out. This house is not up to code in a lot of different areas. Its probably not legal to rent it out even. We dont have the money right now to move either. Plus in a little less than a year we are moving once the youngest graduates high school to move closer to the girlfriends work. The hard part is when she does get this crappy place in better shape she wants to sell it. So we might have to move anyway twice in under a year. I go from murderous rage,to depression to anxiety to about 350 other different emotions. What the heck am i supposed to do? I guess just live with it for the 9 months we have left here? That seems like the only choice giving our financial situation. All i know is when we leave im taking a sledge hammer to a wall or something. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

[saudade]

hey!

Is there the slightest chance that you or someone in your household could have a smooth dialogue with the landladylord and, like, try to establish days and hours like appointments when she could come in and everyone would know she'd be commin' in?

Cause that's about the only thing I can think of to suggest to you, right now.

Good luck :-)

[Shaymus]

My girlfriend did try that,and the most she could get her to agree with is calling right before she comes over. It still annoys me cause i know she wont do this for more than a day. Wheres the mob when ya need em?

[Shaymus]

So now today is a new day and im feeling calmer. Do other people feel uncontrolable anger sometimes mixed with their anxiety? For me sometimes they go hand in hand and other times not. Just depends on the source of my anxiety i guess. When bad things happen i just get so overwhelmed and i feel soooo pissed off at the person who made the bad thing happen i could just scream except i never scream. So sometimes the pressure of the anger feels like it will explode but i never let it . Heck ive never hit anyone or even been in a fight. Sometimes tho i feel so out of control with the anger i fear ill do something crazy(like punching someone) and thats scary.

[friedgreymatter]

Good to hear you are calmer today.

I wonder if the anxiety causes the anger.

I worry that I might "lose it" and assault someone, but that has never happened in my life. I have enough control to keep from hurting someone physically.

Neighbors won't end up describing me on the news as the quiet guy who kept to himself, after I commit a homocide.

I do worry, though.

Emotions are interesting. I don't think I'll ever understand how they work or why.

[wisewoman]

Shaymus, she needs to give you 24 hour notice when she is coming so you can be prepared. Also, the stuff about the rage? I relate mine to severe depression. Just a thought. Good luck.

[Shaymus]

I realize legally she has to give 24 hours notice but if she doesnt what can i do other than yell,or have my girlfriend yell? We cant really do much as if we bring it to the attention of those that can do something about it we will most likely get kicked out. The house isnt up to code at all.

When i lived in Mass we had this same problem and i looked up the laws online and basically told the landlord we would be moving in 2 months and we wernt gonna pay anymore to them and if they had a problem with that we would be glad to go to court and tell them all the things they did illegally. We didnt pay at all and they left us alone lol. I should probably look up the laws for MN here and see what can be done. Someone said the landlord might have to put us in a place and pay for it while the house was being brought up to code. That would be a nice kick in the pants for her being so rude.

[ktp]

Shaymus:

Backtracking a little bit to a comment you made about uncontrollable anger and anxiety. I find that for myself, as well, it goes hand in hand. It's also according to what causes the anxiety. I could relate to that, so just wanted to post.

I hope everything works out and maybe the laws on that are the same where you live now. That would serve her right !

Take Care.